I want my parent
to spank me:
I have to be honest,
if your parents currently do not spank you, it's going to be
difficult to convince them they should. For one, they may not
believe in it and may think it is for wrong, and more
importantly most parents discount most of what their children
need and may be unwilling to believe that you know what you need
better than they do. The key to having any chance of getting
what you need is honest communication.
When dealing with
parents, direct communication is best. Wait for a time when the
parent you trust the most is calm, and not busy. Tell that
parent you need to talk to them in private about something (Away
from siblings, friends, etc.) and be as honest as possible.
It is important that
your parent understand WHY who feel you need to be spanked.
They'll probably ask you what you have done wrong, and you need
to be ready to make them understand that it's not about any one
thing, but an overall need for guidance and discipline.
Why do you need
to be spanked?
It's the obvious
question, and you need to be ready for it. Here are some of the
common reasons to help you understand yourself better. For each
of these, ask yourself "Does this sound like me?"
I want to feel
forgiven after I've been punished. Spankings are quick, and
painful, but forgiveness comes right away. You did the crime
and paid your penalty. By example, when you are grounded you
may spend a week or two in your room, and at the end you are
able to go out again... but there is often no verbalized
I need instant
punishment so I know why what I did was wrong. In a weeks
time we forget a lot, and by the end of a grounding or the
return of a privilege you often forget what the original
punishment was for. Especially when more time is added for
different offenses. Instant punishment also reinforces the
idea that bad behavior needs to be immediately correct and
then things can go on as normal.
I need to be
spanked occasionally to "clear the slate" so I can
concentrate on doing good without the guilt of past wrongs.
I lack the
willpower to change! Some teenagers and young adults wrote
they have behavior-related problems they would like to
change about themselves (such as a smoking habit, or bad
grades), but lack the willpower to make that change. They
believe a stricter routine at home, including spankings when
rules are broken, could help them.
punishments just don't work! Some kids, don't really care if
they loose their phone or video game for a week, and
spending time in their room just means they can take a much
needed nap and get away from the parent who was just yelling
You may be too
embarrassed to talk directly to your parent, or perhaps you just
don't know how to start the conversation. Indirect communication
can help. The easiest way of doing this is a short but clear
note, either on paper or by email that just says "Mom, I think I
need to be spanked." For most parents that's sure to convince
them to sit down and talk to you.
If you have an aunt,
uncle, grandparent or close grown-up friend you trust more than
your parents can can ask that person to talk to your parents for
This is more of a
warning than advice. Discipline and punishments should ONLY be
given by people you trust completely. It's okay to ask your
grandmother or other relative to spank you if you don't feel
comfortable asking your parents but you should NEVER seek
this kind of attention from strangers.
There are a lot of
people online, who, if you told them of your need, would offer
to help and promise they understand your needs. They don't. Most
of these people - especially men in chat rooms and on message
boards - are looking to fulfill their own needs and do not care
about you! These kind of sexualized spankings will NOT fulfill
your therapy desires, and may lead to other unwanted actions.
personal information to, or agree to meet a stranger you meet
For parents who read
this page: The fact that I had to write this warning should tell
you how serious some kids are about getting this need met. Talk
to your child, and be willing to listen!
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