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    1. Board News & Updates

      News and information about the board, as well as rules of conduct.

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      Need help posting or something moved? Whether it is a simple question of where to find something, name change request, a concern about another member - feel free to start a private thread here that only staff members can read and reply to. 

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    4. Introductions

      Welcome to Spanking Needs! Come introduce yourself in this forum. Don't be a stranger!!!

  2. The Study

    1. General Spanking Discussion

      Discussion area for all those needing to give or receive spankings.To find friends or a Spanking Partner please check out our Meeting Hall section to see which best fits your needs.

    2. Spanking Safety and Advice

      This is the place to share advice and safety tips for those that may be new to the lifestyle or a refresher for those who have been around a while. 

    3. Roles

      Maybe you're not sure, maybe you’re a Spanker, Spankee, Switch, or another title (or even no title); if you want to talk about your role in this lifestyle and how it makes you feel this is a good spot.

    4. Relationships

      Discuss your relationships and your adult spanking needs. These can be non-sexual, platonic, intimate or romantic relationships. Success stories? Frustration? Advice? Do you have a "Vanilla" partner? Struggling with understanding a Spanko partner? Do you need help discussing your needs with a family member, friend or medical provider? Discussions of your needs in a healthy and appropriate way. These are posts of "coming out of the closet" so to speak. Do not be ashamed of who you are.

    5. Spank Me, Oh Yes! (erotic)

      Forum for those who have a sexual interest in spanking and being spanked. You can be both emotionally AND sexually attracted to the belt or paddle, so here's your place to talk about it.

    6. ... In the news

      Spanking Therapy and Spanking in General in the news.

  3. The Foundation

    1. Creating Structure/ Guidelines

      This is a spot for talking about how we create the structure of our various arrangements. What works for you. Perhaps you don’t have a set of rules for your arrangement and that’s OK too. But do you have boundaries or hard limits you want to talk through? What implements make you tick?

    2. Reflection Circle

      Sometimes you just want to (or have to) tell other people about the punishment you got (or gave). Come here for commiseration, or as a way to process through your experiences. What punishments have worked for you? Which made you (or your partner) feel frustrated or resentful?

    3. Inspirational Box

      A lifestyle such as many of us live can be very lonely and frustrating at times.. Seek, give and support one another in this section. (Music, quotes, prayers, songs, etc, all welcomed!!) This can also be used to talk about our religion and our desires.

    4. Our Health

      A place to talk about our emotional, physical, and sexual health -- without being judged.

  4. Meeting Hall

    1. Daily Banter

      Got something to share that is unconnected to spanking discussion? Talk about it here.

    2. Polls and Surveys

      Get to know each other!

    3. Regional Directory

      Find friends and connections. This is not a sexual posting section.

    4. Local Groups and Events

      Post your event idea's and your local events you have planned. 

    5. Pen Pals/ Online Dynamics

      If you are looking for online only please post here.

  5. The Library & Media Center

    1. Music, Paintings, Photographs & Videos

      Post all your art here. Please keep it tasteful! :)

    2. Writing Desk

      Fictional and non fictional writing. An outlet for your creative side of spanking, or life experiences, Stories, poetry. etc. Share it!

  6. The Game Room

    1. Forum Games

      Chatty fun. Good old time-wasting fun stuff!

    2. Role Playing Discussion & Recruitment

      For discussing role playing and recruiting participants for a role play of any sort (including age play and ABDL that includes discipline).

  7. The Outside World

    1. Debate Section

      Controversial subject matter. No flaming! NO DEBATES ABOUT CHILDREN!!!!

    2. External Links

      Links to other websites of interest to our community.

  • Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • michgal.k

      When the cat's "away".....🐭🐭🐭
      · 1 reply
    • Powpaulie

      🥳 Chatting this evening with the Local Uncle about my birthday spanking....
      LU: Will you drive to my place? Or will I need to stop by to pick you up? 
      Me: I'll drive there. The car has actually been behaving, unlike someone you know Hehe!
      LU: Bring the holey paddle and the hair brush paddle.
      Me: 😲 But...
      LU: Yes, it will be your butt, the holey paddle and hairbrush...This won't just be a birthday spanking
      What a meanie!  (Just kidding. He isn't really a meanie 😁)
      · 3 replies
    • Ill Tempered Brat

      Just popped in, as it’s been more than awhile I know, to say hello 👋 and to wish everyone a great start to the new year (better late than never)!! 😊. 
      · 7 replies
    • rubyredd

      *Posted in the General Discussion Forum, too. Feel free to comment here if you prefer.*
      SN chat often leads to some interesting discussions. One topic that came up recently was "deviancy" - which made me think about how certain terms used within the online spanking community can impact other spankos. Moreso here, in our safe space, than out in the wider vanilla* world. Another post, in the forum this time, briefly discussed the terms "fetish" and "kink."
      The Questions:
      • What does the term spanko mean to you?
      • Does fetish have a positive, negative, or neutral connotation? Please explain.
      • What about kink?
      • Do you consider spanking to be a fetish, kink, your inherent sexuality... something else?
      I try to be cognizant of the words I use here - because SN really is a safe space for many. Not everyone here is comfortable being open about their sexuality or kinks or fetishes. Many of us spent years worrying about what others would think. Worrying we were abnormal. Worrying that something was wrong with us. 
      There are folks who come here - regulars even - who are uncomfortable talking openly about spanking. I have never been that way (just the opposite LOL... probably too open), so it can be difficult for me to understand why they aren't interacting as much. I think it just takes time. I prefer main chat, but they might prefer private. They may never post in the forum or even do more than lurk. That is okay, too, because they are reading and, hopefully, feeling like part of a community. Not alone.
      Some of us are married to or in a relationship with another spanko. Some of us are in a relationship with a supportive vanilla*. Even more are partnered with unsupportive vanillas. Some are single and ready to mingle. There are folks who come here who have given up hope of having a spanking partner in real life - and so they live out their spankoness here. How do the words we use impact other spankos or even our own sense of self?
      *For the purpose of discussion, I use vanilla to refer to any non-spanko - even if they have another fetish or kink.
      Drawing by Louis Malteste.

      · 0 replies
    • msorebottom2023  »  Drooaygah

      I was 13 and didn't understand how it could make you excited yet it's not about sex it's about the need to know someone loves you enough to give you some Spankings. Hope others will reply if you have experienced  what I'm talking about? 
      · 1 reply
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