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A safe call.

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Thank you @Lady Pandora,

Your post is an excellent addition to this thread and a good reminder that safety is not just for the bottom, but also the Top, M/male or F/female. While many tend to think about the safety of an unsuspecting bottom at times, there is just as much concern for the safety of a Top. Your link to the safety guidelines you created is much appreciated. 

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Hi Hope,

Sincere thanks, I hope some people will find it to be useful.  

I agree that too many people are unaware of the many risks that can cause serious problems rather than a pleasurable encounter.  There are risks for absolutely everyone and we all have a responsibility to take whatever precautions we can to ensure our safety and the safety of people we play with, no matter which end of the cane we are at.  

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The safe-call is a good idea. And before that, I suggest a background check. When I was a member of eHarmony, and later FarmersOnly (some years back), I did this before agreeing to meet men whom I would be hiking with in the backcountry (a typical first or second date for me). One of my closest friends is married to a sheriff. They are unaware of my spanking lifestyle, but it was he who told me that background checking was an essential prerequisite for meeting these guys in person. I believe it's every bit as crucial for spanking meet-ups. 

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I always set up a safety call for normally about the first 5 meetings with a new person you can never be to safe out there 

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On 2/27/2020 at 12:24 PM, Chawsee said:

but it was he (sheriff) who told me that background checking was an essential prerequisite for meeting these guys in person. I believe it's every bit as crucial for spanking meet-ups. 

I would like to echo this advice.  Not only would I want a background check, but I would want to find some way to verify more about them.  If they are active here, you can read their posts and get a very good idea of who they are and what they might be like.  I had someone ask for a personal reference that they could call many years ago.  I gave it to her.

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PS: You can't even join most non-profit boards these days without a background check.  There is so much more risk here because you are invited to join boards by someone who knows you.

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