Does your mate know how often you come here?

[Bspankly]

We are new spankos. My wife picked up my tablet the other day to check a travel reservation. SN was the top tab. She had to see it, but didn't say anything about it.

She knows I like the naughty parts of the internet but this is different, spanking has been a bit of an obsession in the last 6 months for me. She is my spanker in training so she knows how turned I get.

I suspect she will be snooping around to learn more. If she sees my content she will know it, she was part of it. I wonder how she will feel?

[rubyredd]

Why not just talk to her about it?

My husband knows I come here for the forums and chat and to make spanko friends. We plan to meet some SN members in the near future. He has also supported my desire to be spanked by couples and other women. I wouldn't meet with anyone if he didn't know about it and approve. The same is true for him - if he wants to meet up with someone, he wouldn't hide it. So my point is... we are just open and honest with each other and we don't hide our interests. He is the one who has taken most of my profile pics and the pics I have posted elsewhere. 

He is a spanko, though, and frequents other parts of the online spanko universe. He isn't really into chat or discussion forums the way I am - and never really has been. He likes to read stories and sometimes watches videos. I have been an active part of the online spanking community since 1999/2000 - though I did take a break for several years after we got married and I shut down my blog. He knows that this is an important outlet for me and that I need and enjoy these connections. 

[Spankingmyhuby]

2 hours ago, Bspankly said:

We are new spankos. My wife picked up my tablet the other day to check a travel reservation. SN was the top tab. She had to see it, but didn't say anything about it.

She knows I like the naughty parts of the internet but this is different, spanking has been a bit of an obsession in the last 6 months for me. She is my spanker in training so she knows how turned I get.

I suspect she will be snooping around to learn more. If she sees my content she will know it, she was part of it. I wonder how she will feel?

Yes my husband knows that I am a member and he introduced me to this site, when he saw it . He was a member first and back over a year and half ago his information was lost, when some files were lost. He has not rejoined, however he might in the future. Spanking needs has given me insight on other people's views and has helped me with my personal marriage that I control.

As far as you are concerned I personally feel you should be upfront with your wife about being a member. Maybe she should join , that would be nice. As far as hiding the fact that you are a member would result in a punishment spanking not a playful one if you were my husband. I would immediately tell your wife!

MS L 

[OhRedhead]

My spouse knows, though he has little to no interest in any of this beyond a spanking here or there, mostly for foreplay.

[DisobedientHuby]

No, she knows I am a spanko but does not look at my browsing history or pick up my phone. I'm not sure I want her to know.  I did introduce her to the DWC site a few years ago and she has been spanking me since.. But I don't want her to know I post here

[iowaguidance]

5 hours ago, rubyredd said:

Why not just talk to her about it?

My husband knows I come here for the forums and chat and to make spanko friends. We plan to meet some SN members in the near future. He has also supported my desire to be spanked by couples and other women. I wouldn't meet with anyone if he didn't know about it and approve. The same is true for him - if he wants to meet up with someone, he wouldn't hide it. So my point is... we are just open and honest with each other and we don't hide our interests. He is the one who has taken most of my profile pics and the pics I have posted elsewhere. 

He is a spanko, though, and frequents other parts of the online spanko universe. He isn't really into chat or discussion forums the way I am - and never really has been. He likes to read stories and sometimes watches videos. I have been an active part of the online spanking community since 1999/2000 - though I did take a break for several years after we got married and I shut down my blog. He knows that this is an important outlet for me and that I need and enjoy these connections. 

This. Communication is key. My wife knows I'm spank obsessed. She participates in my kink with me and also lets me play with trusted others by myself on occasion. As someone who isn't wired this way, she's sure taken to it like a pro and can top with the best of them as some even from this forum could attest. My spouse knows I spend at least some time every day checking the various spank web haunts I frequent. She's my life partner...no reason to keep secrets from her.

[badboyotk47]

I met my wife on this site and although she rarely comes on here anymore she knows I  still come on.She knows I seek other spankers besides her and she ids fine with that. Like Rubyredd said...you need to have an open conversation with your wife and let her know what you need and want.

[RossCaliban]

I've told my significant other that I'm on this site, and I've made plans twice to meet people I've met from this site. As for the amount of time I spend on here, it's sporadic, and still far less than the time she spends playing FFXIV.

[nicoleS39]

My husband is fully aware I post and chat here. I only do so with his consent and knowledge. I would not be here if he did not agree I could be here. We both agree I need a place where I can just share and see there are others into this spanko things...and we are not the only ones in the world. Yet...I have found within this spanko world there is still lots of uniqueness and diversity. 

He does not control my posts or chats, but he does hold me to limits on time. He has me log my time, and reviews it in our bi monthly reviews. If being here in any way diminishes my chores or work or other tasks, then he will restrict. my participation or even take away the privilege. I often discuss with him things I have read or show him chat content. 

I am free to openly share our experiences and life...but never am I to reveal our real life identity or location or anything that would identify us. It is kind of like the "prime directive" in Star Trek...if you are familiar...lol. We are both fans BTW....lol.

Usually...I access here briefly in mornings when I have a few minutes down time before engaging massage or PT clients...or if I have a longer break between activities. In the evenings, my husband and I usually "retreat" to our master bedroom about 10 PM or so, but we "usually" linger before actually sleeping. I am "typically free to sit on the couch in our master bedroom and post and chat here on my ipad for an hour or two. He usually reads in bed or watches TV. It is our "chill time" I guess you could say. But..,when he summons me to his bed...I have learned to not hesitate. And...that can be hard some times when a chat is hot...lol...or interesting. I do almost all of my chat during this time...as long as I do not break his rules...lol.

[firm_receiving_firm_giving]

18 hours ago, DisobedientHuby said:

No, she knows I am a spanko but does not look at my browsing history or pick up my phone. I'm not sure I want her to know.  I did introduce her to the DWC site a few years ago and she has been spanking me since.. But I don't want her to know I post here

DWC?

[DisobedientHuby]

Disciplinary wives club

[Bspankly]

Thanks for sharing. Possibly it an age thing, I have never bloged, tweeted, Instagramed, IM, DM, poked, contributed, my spaced, followed, anything until now with you fine people SN.

My sharing of our private life here would be her concern, she does not trust that my anonymity and privacy is safe here on the www. I have more faith than she does.

[slammin sam]

No. She has absolutely no knowledge of my serious interest in spanking. It would be very damaging to our relationship if she were to find out. Admittedly it makes it very difficult, and since covid almost impossible, to engage in spanking.

[David!]

Does my wife know how often I come here? Probably. Not really. Well, there's history about this…

Several years after my wife started spanking me, I gave her some booklets I ordered from the Disciplinary Wives Club (DWC). I think she found them helpful as I noticed some improved techniques and approaches to her spankings over the next months, but at the time she just looked through them, called them "interesting" and never mentioned them again. She did however ask where I got them. I told her about the DWC website, and she told me her concerns about privacy and tracking, similar to Bspankly's wife. I said I didn't think it was a problem, and she pointed out I had given them our home address as she got her paddle out of the drawer. Then she pulled down my pants, put me over her knee, and gave the most severe spanking she had ever given me!

I don't leave spanking sites open or have them bookmarked, and anyway, she doesn't snoop. She knows me very well and picks up on little things, then asks me outright. She can tell if I try to lie or be evasive, and it makes the spanking much worse, so I end up confessing. For several years I got spanked every 3 or 4 months for "looking at spanking porn on the computer again". Then she just stopped asking, having decided I wasn't going to change (I never agreed to, but felt my spankings were deserved because she had asked me to and I knew it upset her).

So knowing me well and my daily routines, she probably has a very good idea of how much time I spend on spanking sites. But I doubt she recalls the name of the DWC site or knows it's gone, or knows anything about SN or any other spanking site. Still, if she ever finds out how much I have posted here, I'm sure I'll get spanked to tears and she'll keep coming back to it until I can honestly say I no longer visit SN or post on any spanking site!