F/m

[johnsk]

When there is a strong woman in charge of a couple, how often does she extend her control over the man to locked chastity?

[spnkswtch]

I can’t say it’s common however after several years, my wife and I expanded her control by introducing a chastity cage for me.  We only used it a couple times a month.  We started out for a few hours and progressed up to 4 continuous days and nights.  After we determined what the limit would be, we moved back to lesser timeframes and randomized the time when I would be locked up.

[Chawsee]

8 hours ago, spnkswtch said:

I can’t say it’s common however after several years, my wife and I expanded her control by introducing a chastity cage for me.  We only used it a couple times a month.  We started out for a few hours and progressed up to 4 continuous days and nights.  After we determined what the limit would be, we moved back to lesser timeframes and randomized the time when I would be locked up.

What affect does the chastity cage have on you mentally? How does it affect your relationship with your wife? I know next to nothing about the practice of forced chastity, but noticed that it was popular on FetLife. Since you have personal experience with it, is this a topic you'd be comfortable educating us on? Anything you're willing to share would be appreciated. 

[johnsk]

Many dominant women believe if you control the man's orgasms you control the man.

[spnkswtch]

8 hours ago, Chawsee said:

What affect does the chastity cage have on you mentally? How does it affect your relationship with your wife? I know next to nothing about the practice of forced chastity, but noticed that it was popular on FetLife. Since you have personal experience with it, is this a topic you'd be comfortable educating us on? Anything you're willing to share would be appreciated. 

I was first introduced to a chastity cage around 2011.  It was a stainless steel cage.  At first, we started out with lesser durations and around the house.  Both mentally and physically, it took some time to get use to it.  I was often naked around the house so I would see it on at times.  I immediately felt like that part of my anatomy had been taken away from me.  I felt more submissive mentally with it on.  As the times got longer, I would feel mild “panic-attacks” which I needed to work through.  We started to venture out of the house with me having to wear it.  I knew she had the key so I felt if I became too overwhelmed, she would let me take it off.  That never happened however mentally I was ok with that thought.  I wore it under my jeans or shorts and mentally, I could feel that everyone could notice I had it on even though it was barely visible.  As the durations became more than a day, I would have to learn how to keep everything clean. There were times when we would leave the house and she would tell me that she wasn’t taking the key with us or I would go out by myself.  Mentally those times were more challenging with the thought if there was an emergency or accident, someone would see it on me.  Eventually those thoughts mostly disappeared.  Nights were a challenge at times since I would roll over on to it and wake up or the “nighttime erection” would wake me up.  It fit perfect since there was really no room to grow either lengthwise or in circumference.  I also found many times where I would unconsciously have naturally touched it during the day and night and that was stopped.  Many times she would tease me by doing something that she knew would normally get me aroused just to have that not fully happen.  I would be aroused however it couldn’t grow past the cage.  Mentally, it was tough not to be able to have a full erection.  Many things like giving her oral sex was mentally and physically torturous without being able to come to a full erection.

 

When I was freed, we had unbelievable sex.

 

When the durations became randomized and she wouldn’t tell me how long I would be in the cage, the panic attacks came back more often and I had to learn to work through them.  It was very tough at times.  Fortunately, I knew it would never be for more than 4 days.

 

There are some photos that she took of me on both my FetLife and SpankingTube pages with the same username “spnkswtch”.

[Chawsee]

@spnkswtch- Thank you for sharing. What you explained here is helpful in teaching more about this dynamic and how it works for the couples who implement it. Much appreciated. 🙏

[Submissive Danny]

I've been lock in chastity for almost 15 years now. We started out a day or two at a time until it became full time. My wife loves it because she has total control over me. I love it because she never has to wonder if I've cheated on her and I feel so loved by her knowing she cares enough about me to keep me protected from doing something stupid. I also love knowing she has total control over me.