Faith and spankings

[TiffTiff]

[Chastener]

I'm not a Christian, but I have a substantial knowledge of Christianity, the New Testament Canon, and particularly the Gospels.  It seems to me that subjecting yourself to a spanking is a form of repentance for wrongdoing.  If the spanking has the effect of making you feel absolved of guilt for your errors in judgment or behavior, I would argue that fosters an ethical experience.  That's one man's opinion, of course, but I find consistent with the principles of virtually all religions.

[TiffTiff]

29 minutes ago, Chastener said:

I'm not a Christian, but I have a substantial knowledge of Christianity, the New Testament Canon, and particularly the Gospels.  It seems to me that subjecting yourself to a spanking is a form of repentance for wrongdoing.  If the spanking has the effect of making you feel absolved of guilt for your errors in judgment or behavior, I would argue that fosters an ethical experience.  That's one man's opinion, of course, but I find consistent with the principles of virtually all religions.

Thank you sooo much for you kind words!

[jen70727]

I am so glad you brought this topic to light!  I am a Christian, always have been and there is nothing, I mean nothing in the bible going against domestic discipline.  In fact, I have met more than a few women that were introduced to discipline spankings from the church their husbands attend.   Baptists 100%.  (I am in Oklahoma)  

    We are ALL born with this interest.  It was hard-wired into our brains before birth.  There is no way to turn against it. (Without being very unhappy). Yes, it ignites at different times for all of us.  You can't turn away from it, and you cannot turn someone into a true spanko.  It's there or it isn't.  Yes, women (and men) have accepted this kind of discipline because of their partners.                   

   

 

[candyapplered]

I relate to this topic a lot. I have wrestled with the questions of can I be a Christian and get this inner desire for discipline and spankings met. If I were to marry a Christian man who was a disciplinarian, yes, that could work. At this time, I am not seeking a relationship because I have a lot of work to do on myself. So, I have dealt with this by having female disciplinarians. No sexual context is brought into it.  

[dmirk]

Chastener- excellent answer.  
 

Candyapple - There’s nothing with you’re way you’re doing now.  It’d be the same with a male spanker as long as it’s discipline and nothing else. 
 

[Spanks4f]

I would love to be a disciplinarian to women who know they need it, but my wife would never understand/accept it, and I would always fear that the spankee would develop inappropriate feelings for me. So I have no outlet for my desire, and I am a Christian also.

[Powpaulie]

Yes, Christian here, too!   I've always wrestled with this myself.  Being spanked is something I've desired, because it was something I've felt that I needed in my life.  Also something I haven't really received from my husband (until most recently).  I came into this not even seeing spanking as a kink, but just as a need I had....for correction and discipline. I figured that since it's mentioned in the Bible, then it's okay for me to receive and accept correction. So i continue in my faith and at the same time seek to be spanked.  I figure so as long as my husband allows me to have spankers in my life and so as long as it remains just spanking (yes, I do get bare bottom spankings) and nothing beyond that, then it's all good.   

[nicoleS39]

May God bless you all. Both my husband and I are Christians, or at least we try our best to follow Jesus. I am far from perfect of course. I have much growing to do. My husband actually "awakened" me to my long unrecognized "need" to be spanked as a woman when I was 25. I get it...it is just so deeply a part of me.

I am so blessed our spanko is within the confines of our marriage to one another, but I still struggle with the "urge" to return to my previous "whore like" attitudes I had when I was a young woman and a prostitute.... and before I came to Christ about half way into my prison time. I have never actually physically been a whore since our marriage...16 years now....except to my dear husband, but...I know that "sexual crazy" is still in me. My husband permits me to release some of that energy by way of chat only...but certainly not personal in face hookups, and he monitors and keeps me in line of course. But, I am starting to now feel "that" is not pleasing to God for me...but at the same time I enjoy it.

I .shudder to think what I might be like with my spanking needs if I had not been blessed to come across a man to take me as his wife who knows how to spank me well. He spanks me because we both need that as "spankos"....it is just in us, but he does not spank me "because" we are Christians. I guess you could say we are both Christians who just happen to practice spanking in our marriage.

I can understand how it would be a struggle to find someone to "just" spank or "be spanked" by and still try to be faithful to what I now have come to understand as the Bible teaching about sex being reserved for marriage. At least, that is how I understand it. Not preaching...lol......my goodness...I have failed miserably in that realm before I came to Christ and then later married my husband.

Because I think spanking is very difficult for some to separate from a sexual aspect, I truly feel for our brother and sister Christian spankos who have not as yet found a marriage partner who also fulfills this "need." Sounds like some "have" been able to find that spanko need in purely platonic relationships. I hope that continues to work. I just know the "whore" in me would probably be unleashed "if" I personally had to do that.  God bless you who have better control than me.  But...my final blabber...please do not give up and stop praying that God will bring across your path one day a suitable person to share your WHOLE life with in marriage...and for us here that means spanko too.

[TiffTiff]

13 hours ago, jen70727 said:

I am so glad you brought this topic to light!  I am a Christian, always have been and there is nothing, I mean nothing in the bible going against domestic discipline.  In fact, I have met more than a few women that were introduced to discipline spankings from the church their husbands attend.   Baptists 100%.  (I am in Oklahoma)  

    We are ALL born with this interest.  It was hard-wired into our brains before birth.  There is no way to turn against it. (Without being very unhappy). Yes, it ignites at different times for all of us.  You can't turn away from it, and you cannot turn someone into a true spanko.  It's there or it isn't.  Yes, women (and men) have accepted this kind of discipline because of their partners.                   

   

 

I'm in the Dallas, but I drive to Oklahoma often.. I would love to vist Church with the belive system 

[spnkswtch]

I’m Christian and attended Catholic school when I was growing up.  I’m old enough to have experienced and seen paddlings in front of other classmates.  Mom was also very religious and she never spared the strap when it was needed.  Fortunately, I never had the dilemma of having to wrestle with my religion and the discipline I needed.  Over 30 years ago, I also started to provide spankings and found it equally therapeutic.

[Needing correction!]

The bible does not condemn corporal correction for adults: indeed the book of Proverbs describes the need for the shebet (rod) on the back(side) of fools!

Similarly Hebrews12 describes corporal correction as a manifestation of love. 

So for the purpose of correction (read discipline or punishment, which are different), I think it's fine. 

I'm less confident about erotic spanking, though..

[TiffTiff]

13 hours ago, Needing correction! said:

The bible does not condemn corporal correction for adults: indeed the book of Proverbs describes the need for the shebet (rod) on the back(side) of fools!

Similarly Hebrews12 describes corporal correction as a manifestation of love. 

So for the purpose of correction (read discipline or punishment, which are different), I think it's fine. 

I'm less confident about erotic spanking, though..

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me!

[Attnyneeddiscip]

On 4/24/2023 at 7:23 PM, jen70727 said:

I am so glad you brought this topic to light!  I am a Christian, always have been and there is nothing, I mean nothing in the bible going against domestic discipline.  In fact, I have met more than a few women that were introduced to discipline spankings from the church their husbands attend.   Baptists 100%.  (I am in Oklahoma)  

    We are ALL born with this interest.  It was hard-wired into our brains before birth.  There is no way to turn against it. (Without being very unhappy). Yes, it ignites at different times for all of us.  You can't turn away from it, and you cannot turn someone into a true spanko.  It's there or it isn't.  Yes, women (and men) have accepted this kind of discipline because of their partners.                   

   

 

Hi Jen I am new to the site and looking for spankos in Oklahoma who may fulfill my needs. I need a good spanking from a female. Look forward to getting to know you and maybe meet up in the future..

[Garswats]

On 4/24/2023 at 2:57 PM, TiffTiff said:

Thanks for posting this. I've struggled with this a lot over the years, and my views on this have changed dramatically in the past decade. I think God encourages spouses to explore things that make them closer (with consent), and I'm currently wrestling with whether or not engaging the spanking monster with others not my spouse, will make me a more focused and better spouse. Lots to deal with, but I appreciate your posting this. 

[dre4mgirl]

On 4/24/2023 at 12:57 PM, TiffTiff said:

I had the need and desire to be spanked since I was a teen. There was so much guilt and condemning myself and I pushed this need really far away in order to be a "good" christian. The thing is, I am wired this way. I could push it away as much as I could but it would still come back up. I made mistakes in my journey to meet this need, but I am grateful that when I met my husband who is a christian too, that he meets this need in my life and that I can safely see this need met in our marriage. I had to learn to give myself grace that this way I actually can release guilt and shame which I have a hard time doing, that once I get spanked, the slate is wiped clean. I do not feel anymore that I am defected. Good luck in your journey and give yourself some grace! No need to beat yourself up over this!

[nicoleS39]

4 hours ago, dre4mgirl said:

I had the need and desire to be spanked since I was a teen. There was so much guilt and condemning myself and I pushed this need really far away in order to be a "good" christian. The thing is, I am wired this way. I could push it away as much as I could but it would still come back up. I made mistakes in my journey to meet this need, but I am grateful that when I met my husband who is a christian too, that he meets this need in my life and that I can safely see this need met in our marriage. I had to learn to give myself grace that this way I actually can release guilt and shame which I have a hard time doing, that once I get spanked, the slate is wiped clean. I do not feel anymore that I am defected. Good luck in your journey and give yourself some grace! No need to beat yourself up over this!

Really, really....appreciate you sharing this....and so happy for you and hubby.

[Needing correction!]

The medieval theologian Thomas Aquinas wrote about the physical correction of young monks, 16-24. 

This is my paraphrase...

He made clear that this type of punishment is NOT necessary for repentance and absolution.

However, having been 'whipped' (read caned) was beneficial because it put the penitent in the mindset to accept the absolution because it gave a sense of closure. 

I absolutely understand: I find confession and accepting absolution much easier with a sore bum.