Does a spanko ever really reach the point in which they are fully "satisfied?" Do we ever reach the point where the "craving" is completely filled and we need no more?

[nicoleS39]

I dunno...sometimes I think I must be nuts. I have been blessed to be married to a wonderful man who knows my spanking and sexual needs so well and delights in meeting them....but...I "still" seem to want more and more.  Does it ever subside?  Perhaps I am "spoiled" or perhaps a bit self centered in this...I dunno. Am I alone in this, or are others of you kind of like this too...with regard to your unique spanko dynamics, whatever they might be?

[NeedDiscipline9]

Ha ha - I have never really reached that point - usually it's the other way about. Five minutes after a fairly sound spanking I am wanting more and often (disappointingly) she's done! It's because I have reached that point where repeated spanks are no longer sore but instead feeling pleasurable. Not only do I want more but I want her to use a meaner implement to increase the pain.

Sorry - I didn't really answer your question very well - but I don't believe that I have reached that stage. I hope that I never do!

[Spanknutt]

The short answer - that's why you are called a spanko.

[nicoleS39]

9 hours ago, Spanknutt said:

The short answer - that's why you are called a spanko.

Yes...that probably says it all 😀

[danadares]

I don't know either. One could ask the same about conventional sex. If it's an addiction, that might explain a craving that goes beyond what is considered "normal". I don't think I have an addiction, but it's a fetish. I can't go a day without thinking about it, but I don't have to actually engage in it. As we get older, the desire might become less urgent, but if the libido drops enough, for whatever reason, spanking may no longer be a desire.

 

[Spanknutt]

3 hours ago, danadares said:

As we get older, the desire might become less urgent, but if the libido drops enough, for whatever reason, spanking may no longer be a desire.

 

In my experience, the desire often seems to get stronger as one gets older. A lot of people hide it for years but when they finally summon up the courage to confront their desires, it's like letting a genie out of the bottle. 

[KentuckyGuy]

I'll let you know if it ever happens.

[rubyredd]

Not me. 

[Scorrect]

I’m a member of the “not me” (make that “naughty me” 😀) club, too.

[spike]

No.

[Bramblewine]

5 hours ago, danadares said:

One could ask the same about conventional sex

Exactly.

Wanting sex all the time isn't even always an addiction. It can just be a high sex drive. If you have a high sex drive and fulfill it in a consensual and healthy way, nothing is wrong.

Same is true of the spanking drive.

[dmirk]

Quick answer - no. 

[nicoleS39]

Interesting responses. I suppose we are all kind of "insatiable" with regard to spanking...and for some of us sex too...lol...especially those who identify "spanking as their "sexuality.". I dunno...maybe we are not meant to ever reach the point of complete satisfaction or fulfillment...and that's what makes this "need" we share so...incredible. Maybe...I dunno...maybe the only way we "might" stop being "spanko" is due to some health or biological imbalance that might come our way due to accident, illness, or perhaps advanced aging. But...even in those scenarios....I "think" there is the "psychological" or "emotional" elements that remain...even if we cannot "practice" as we might have in other days or we cannot physically practice as we would desire.

I dunno...this spanko thing...and sex for me as well..is...kind of amazing in terms of durability.  It is almost an identity we bear, but can only share with a very trusted few.

I have met some incredible folks of higher age here in chat and forum that seem to show no signs of waning in their spanko...lol. My own father in law and mother in law still practice domestic discipline in their marriage...in their early 60s....and although they would not really identify themselves as "spankos" or ever join a group like this...I know for a fact my mother in law still is held accountable to the tune of my father in law's belt....after many years of what I see as a strong, loving marriage.

[DisobedientHuby]

It's hard because for me I can never get enough and the reality is we spanko's probably will never get as much as we want. 

[spankingpurist]

Some fascinating comments above. The voyeur in me wonders how you know for sure, nicoleS39, that your mother-in-law gets the belt? Maybe your husband inherited the spanko gene. I agree with Bramblewine that there may be a high dual drive “thing” operating for you, nicoleS39. You and your husband are so fortunate 🤗.  I, too, find my spanking “drive” is never fully satisfied.  Modesty prevents me from revealing my sex drive score—but I do appear to have developed a serious addiction to viagra 🤫. 

Seriously, like others above, I have found that my spanko “drive has increased over the years. For those of you who bottom, how long after a serious spanking does it take for your desire to be spanked again to return?

[dmirk]

I did remember there’s one topic where one woman thinks she phased out but as a recall nor one agreed it could happen. 
 

Who knows?  Maybe she needs a break or got too much of “what am I doing?” and talked herself out of it. 
 

But she’s the only one I’ve known. 

[SubmissiveQueen]

Joining the choir of no-sayers.

I have had these fantasies since I was a teenager, and when I do get spankings (too rarely for my own taste), it feels as if I just want them to go on forever.

It is definitely like an addiction!

[Lotsapappa]

I suggest reframing it. Think of it as a need and you can be satisfied for a given time but it is not something you must stop doing. Spankos led successful lives and do not act as addicts. If we did, we would all be meeting up daily with each other to score a fix. 

I am just glad I was not wired as a Furry. 😳

[David5]

It's been with me ever sense the 3rd grade so I don't see it ever leaving. It's almost like a curse for a lack of a better word

[nicoleS39]

On 3/11/2023 at 7:28 AM, spankingpurist said:

Some fascinating comments above. The voyeur in me wonders how you know for sure, nicoleS39, that your mother-in-law gets the belt? Maybe your husband inherited the spanko gene

In answer to your question....I know my mother in law gets the belt because we are very close friends and live in the same community. We do lots of things together and talk about lots of things. She is like the mother I never had and has been so good to me. She welcomed me into the family before anybody else did. She confides in me sometimes when she "got a whippin" from her husband. I also have given her massages in my studio in our fitness center and have, now and then, seen the aftermath on her. I knew that her husband spanked her before my husband married me. He told me he would do the same as his father did. So...yes...I do think my husband inherited the spanko gene.  He spanked his first wife before her unexpected death from a stroke. So...yes...I think the spanko gene is very much in play in his family. But, I do not think the spanko in his father is as intense as it is in him.

[nicoleS39]

6 hours ago, David5 said:

It's been with me ever sense the 3rd grade so I don't see it ever leaving. It's almost like a curse for a lack of a better word

Maybe not a curse...but a blessing that most of the world around us does not appreciate or value? But...yes...I guess that kind of makes it a "curse" of sorts.

[DisobedientHuby]

1 minute ago, nicoleS39 said:

Maybe not a curse...but a blessing that most of the world around us does not appreciate or value? But...yes...I guess that kind of makes it a "curse" of sorts.

I see why you would call it a curse. Most people don't understand.  However, I would love to have someone close to me that knows and understands. It sounds like your mother in law confides in you and you have bonded with her.

Being a spankee can be lonely. 

[F/m_Spanking_only]

No. I can't get enough. One way to put it is, it's a beast I have to keep feeding. And it'll never be full 

[Scorrect]

Careful, don’t want your lovely ER to think you’re calling her a “beast.”😀 Point well made, though. Seems like we EEs never get enough “food” to satisfy that hunger for very long.

[SpankingBanker]

No, it is not something that just goes away one day as if you have suddenly filled your lifetime spanking threshold.  If you're a spanko, you're a spanko for life!  Sure, life events can get in the way such as work, family, illness, pandemics, etc.  But the spanking hunger that exists inside you will inevitably just re-emerge in your mind.  Just embrace it and know that there is nothing to be ashamed of.