Will the number of spankos decline over the coming years do you think?

[Bspankly]

I was not spanked as a child. But there was a culture of spanking.

In kindergarten, on your birthday the teacher would offer a choice five spanks or five kisses. Then do it infront of the class. I can't remember what I chose.

At overnight camp I remember counselors whacking some of the campers with a broom. It was grab your knees, or worse grab your ankles. I don't remember ever grabbing anything. It was not as weird as it sounds, well maybe it was.

As my wife reluctantly stood over me for the first spanking I asked for, she asked if I was ever spanked as a child. I said no and she said, ok that explains it. This was two months ago. 

Ah memories. I have not thought of these things in ages. Thanks for the trip down memory lane.

[verynaughtyboy8]

I grew up unaware of spanking, I wasn't and no-one I knew was. Then I discovered the internet as an adult and found it was a thing...

[DisobedientHuby]

Everyone I knew was spanked as a child.  I can't imagine it going away. 

[nasbb]

Glad to see the question has generated a lot of discussion and interesting to hear the different opinions.

I agree with the points on the internet opening it up and I guess overall we are becoming a more "open" and accepting society to kinks with people being encouraged to explore their own feelings as they go through university etc. I think we might see an increase in people interested in the more funishment side of it but equally I suspect the numbers who see spanking as mainly discipline and punishment dropping off .... but who knows! 

[Otkmedicine]

I only wanted to comment that the younger crowd probably never saw or experienced spankings growing up. That’s all.

[spike]

Will the number of spankos decline?

As as a mainstream punishment of children? - Probably.

As a fetish? - Never.  Been around forever; I doubt the number of spankos will ever decline.

[Justlooking4otk]

If this site is any indication number of spanko's are flat which implies a future decline. Just don't see groups of vanilla's suddenly want to jump into spanking scene out of the blue. 

[David5]

Never thought about this before. I really believe spanko's are born that way, then at a early age (for me it was 3rd grade) the teacher we had strongly believed in spanking and it showed. Now young folks don't have that around so what are they going to see to trigger that fetish? I suppose tv could show a spanking once in a blue moon if you happen to be watching.  That brings up another question if I had not seen a spanking would I have been a spanko? 

[danadares]

32 minutes ago, David5 said:

Never thought about this before. I really believe spanko's are born that way, then at a early age (for me it was 3rd grade) the teacher we had strongly believed in spanking and it showed. Now young folks don't have that around so what are they going to see to trigger that fetish? I suppose tv could show a spanking once in a blue moon if you happen to be watching.  That brings up another question if I had not seen a spanking would I have been a spanko? 

I think you're probably right that we spankos are born this way, with the potential to be drawn to spanking the way we are. Over the years, I've talked to spankos who never saw an actual spanking in their childhood, and never heard of it happening to any of their friends. However, even before the internet, they saw a depiction in the media somewhere. Even a rather innocent cartoon can trigger the imagination, and then they would be on a lifelong search for anything to feed their fascination.

Now that we have the immense volume of information online, I find it hard to imagine how anyone would not be exposed to the idea of spanking. Take for example slavery. In western culture, it's been relegated to history, yet most everyone knows what slavery is. And with regard to kink, elements of the concept are alive and well in the Master/slave dynamic that many desire in BDSM relationships.

 

[David5]

I really do think so just like a gay person is wired like they are we are wired about spanking. Your right now that I thought about it more I remember the small magazine that penthouse put out True Confessions. I was in my early 20s or late teens and they had this story about spanking that got me all hot and bothered. I bet I read over that story 1000 times till I had it memorized. Till this day I still can tell you what happened and every little detail. Maybe still the best story about someone getting spanked I ever read. 

Edited February 22 by David5

[selfsp12]

On 2/20/2023 at 12:22 PM, Zhal said:

I don't know the number, but there is an amount of spankos who weren't spanked as children, who come to spanking because they felt like they missed out by not getting spanked. That may indicate a flaw on psychological thought behind corporal punishment as well, just seeing as how seemingly "common" it appears to be here.

Regarding laws, just because something is illegal, doesn't mean it isn't being done. That's all I'm going to say on that one.

Younger generations will still find references to spanking somewhere, and it might pique their interest. Granted, they might know the other terms that were used to reference spanking. For example, I remember in middle school a teacher pointing out the line "and the seat of his pants were dusted" to mean the character in the poem got spanked.

There's a clothing line called "Spanx", that alone, is probably enough to get people searching.

When I see 'Spanx', I don't think clothing...

[Spankingmyhuby]

I would say absolutely not. I feel the internet has increased the awareness of spanking between couples.

I read a article awhile back in cosmopolitan and spanking is quite common between married couples.

Also there is a increase in Flr relationships and wife controlled marriages such as ours. You never heard of this many years ago. 

I would say that the interest in spanking will increase not decrease.

MS L.

[underpants]

2 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

Also there is a increase in Flr relationships and wife controlled marriages such as ours. You never heard of this many years ago. 

I would say that the interest in spanking will increase not decrease.

I think you are right, it will increase not decrease. The increase in F/M spanking is certainly noticeable and it seems to be getting more and more mainstream. I have told a few people from outside the spanking scene that my partner spanks me and their reactions showed neither disapproval nor any great surprise. 

[Cowboy_Spanks30]

It does seem less are looking fir real life and just online or a fantasy game on the web site. But ones I see range in all different ages from 19 to 45. So I don’t thinks age but I think up in the Northern stares it must be something in the water. When living In the PA area there were many more female spankees and were looking for in person meetings. 

[David!]

On 2/22/2023 at 2:10 AM, David5 said:

Never thought about this before. I really believe spanko's are born that way, then at a early age (for me it was 3rd grade) the teacher we had strongly believed in spanking and it showed. Now young folks don't have that around so what are they going to see to trigger that fetish? I suppose tv could show a spanking once in a blue moon if you happen to be watching.  That brings up another question if I had not seen a spanking would I have been a spanko? 

I agree we are born with a spanko gene of some sort, and since neither genetics nor human nature changes very quickly, I don't think spankos will disappear any time soon... societies and popular culture change much more rapidly, but tend to cycle. So perhaps many genetic spankos in the near future will never get an early trigger and discover what it is they yearn for, but as long as the internet is available and relatively uncensored I suspect most will search until they find their need. Even now references to spanking persist in popular culture and jokes, and when the cycle turns people will maybe return to "spare the rod and spoil the child" or maybe this time it will be "spare the paddle and spoil the spouse" or maybe just open advocacy that "spanking is good for you!" Who knows? But I'm betting against spanking fading away.

[PunishedOTK]

Such great perspectives here on a very interesting topic. I think at the end of the day no matter how old we are, we like to play. We like to use our imaginations, it’s something we never outgrow. We even use the word “play” when referring to spanking related activities with another person. Despite how real we might try to make it, a spanking session or dynamic between two people is always set up with boundaries so that each person safely gets what they need. I think there will always be people born with the spanko gene, and they will at some point research their interest online. It’s the idea of safely and amazing bringing to life a fantasy world we are born with that will always attract new people to the scene. 

[OhRedhead]

A history of being spanked is obviously not required for being a spanko. I feel like we are born with it, though I have zero real evidence (only anecdotal). As such, I think it will be here forever, especially because all forms of "alternate lifestyles" are more easily accessible with time due to the internet. They are also increasingly tolerated as some variant of normal by society at large (with a noticeable holdout in one U.S. political party).

[danadares]

12 hours ago, PunishedOTK said:

Such great perspectives here on a very interesting topic. I think at the end of the day no matter how old we are, we like to play. We like to use our imaginations, it’s something we never outgrow. We even use the word “play” when referring to spanking related activities with another person. Despite how real we might try to make it, a spanking session or dynamic between two people is always set up with boundaries so that each person safely gets what they need. I think there will always be people born with the spanko gene, and they will at some point research their interest online. It’s the idea of safely and amazing bringing to life a fantasy world we are born with that will always attract new people to the scene. 

That is certainly true for some but, for others like me, I'm not much interested in spanking as "play." Discipline is totally serious and dictated by real life events rather than fantasy situations. With the right partner, it can also be a 24/7 lifestyle that is as much a part of pragmatic real life as anything.

I believe this attraction to real discipline is also inherent in some number of human beings, and will remain so regardless of whether children are spanked or not. However, I am not sure spanking is the same for those who had no exposure to the threat of it before they were old enough to make their own decisions about it. Spanking under genuine authority is a unique experience, and absolutely not play. I don't think something big like that can be changed without causing some change downstream -- not necessarily in quantity but in quality.

 

Edited February 26 by danadares
a clarification

[NeedDiscipline1]

You’ve got this exactly wrong…‘it’s going to increase.

[selfsp12]

I assume I have the spanko gene, testing does not show that. I was spanked as a quite young child but did not remember that until the past couple of years. Yet later in life, I felt the curiosity, become a want, and finally and a real need. A need that has helped improve by life. 

[F/m_Spanking_only]

I thought this site was about consensual ADULT spanking and NOT a parenting site. Discussing minors on a site like this really comes across as creepy 

[F/m_Spanking_only]

To clarify, discussing past childhood experiences is fine. It's the discussion of actual live minor children in the present day that's prohibited. Or so I thought. There are millions of other places online to have parental debates. Why someone would actually want to bring that discussion to a forum dedicated to consensual ADULT spanking is what's puzzling 🤔

Edited March 8 by F/m_Spanking_only

[Drooaygah]

1 hour ago, F/m_Spanking_only said:

I thought this site was about consensual ADULT spanking and NOT a parenting site. Discussing minors on a site like this really comes across as creepy 

Couple of points -

To everyone:  F/m_Spanking here is correct in that we do not discuss spanking as a parenting tool, pro or con here.  To that end I have removed a few passages from a few posts.  Please stay away from that particular discussion, thanks.

To F/m_Spanking: please be aware, as has been repeated here several times - while spanking as a parenting tool, and rhapsodizing about spanking kids are prohibited, discussion of memories and experiences in one's own childhood are permitted, as are fictional accounts involving youth as long as they are labelled as such and as long they otherwise stay within the guidelines.

As should be clear from this thread, for some people there is no association with kid-hood in their kink.  But for others, there definitely Is, as in "ageplay" .  And that is respected and allowed as long as it falls within site rules.  

 

[F/m_Spanking_only]

@Drooaygah Thank you so much. I greatly appreciate the way this site is moderated. There are other adult spanking forums that have policies regarding the discussion of actual, live, present day minors, but the enforcement is severely lacking, to put it lightly. This site has always been very diligent about enforcing the policies, and I am very grateful. Thank you for all that you do 

[F/m_Spanking_only]

As for the number of spankos declining....I don't think so. I mean, I remember this also being a discussion back in the late 90's and there doesn't seem to have been a decline. And even if there is, I don't see it being by much.