Moment you knew you were a little too interested in spanking…

[Crimsonfanny17]

I was scrolling Etsy today on a completely vanilla search when up came the attached photo. Seeing it brought me right back to being a small child and having my bottom tingle when being read this book in pre-k. It’s a book I visited often, looking at the kitten over its mother knee being spanked, wishing it was me experiencing it. The image still made my butt tingle with anticipation, more than 3 decades later! 

Has anyone else ever had such a memory triggered? 

Edited February 4 by Crimsonfanny17

[Drooaygah]

Nothing attached

[Justlooking4otk]

Too much interest in spanking as in spending too much time thinking about specific situations which may never happen? Hmm 🤔 in that event I usually find something else to do. 

[Bspankly]

In recent years I have tried to incorporate spanking into our happy fun time. About 6 months ago I realized she does not want to be spanked, so I gave up on it. No problem we have a great sex life.

We had an argument about 2 months ago. She was red faced mad, fists clenched, she wanted to hurt me. This has only happened twice in 3 decades. I felt guilty and it occurred to me I would have taken a spanking rather than the anger, guilt, and cold shoulder, I got afterwards.

That was it. 2 months later... I have asked for and received 2 awesome spankings. I never thought I would enjoy it this much. I have never explained to her how I came to this idea. But I'm glad I found the guts to ask for a spanking.

Yep I'm hooked. The submission really gives me a buzz. I plan to ask for a spanking every 2 weeks and see where it goes. Each spanking has been better and more enjoyable than the last for both of us.

I am a week away from asking for my next one. It seems like a loooong time.

[rubyredd]

Is the picture from the Three Little Kittens book? If so, I still have mine with the drawing. It was, I think, my very first visual representation of spanking. 

[dmirk]

I remember in third grade. I already knew there was something but that Monday the teacher told us one of the girls parents invited her over for Sunday dinner.  She asked the girl what happened that day (to share with the class).  The girl answered in a tone of “I really hate this” “I got spanked.”

My spanko meter’s needs pinned!  I felt bad for her but was utterly thrilled. 

[Child of Light]

As a child I really resinated with the berenstain bears and their spanking references in both the VHS older cartoons and books. Later on it came out that the authors were spanko's and it all made sense. The entire series was meant to be about the brother bear tries his best to avoid being spanked. It was watered down a lot. As a 4-6 year old this was very interesting to me. 

[Topspanker]

1 minute ago, Child of Light said:

Later on it came out that the authors were spanko's and it all made sense

That they definitely were. About 6 months ago was called upon to host a ncsf event with some local clergy, some mental health professionals, few other people. 
 

Your not supposed to scare vanilla people but people pay to go to haunted houses too so 🤷‍♂️. Anyways one of them was actually a child psychologist and had tons of books for young kids, including all those books from Bernstein bears as well as three little kittens that @rubyredd cited.

When I asked her if she ever read through or flipped through them, she said no so I grabbed a few and showed her.

should have seen the look on her face as well as everyone else’s. When I flipped right to that page that for EE’s was a huge fantasy moment, For ER’s the image was fixed in your head for weeks.  
 

They were utterly blown away (in a positive way) they didn’t understand just how mainstream kinks and fetishes are nowadays and the fact that it has been that way for a long time. 
 

One thing I’m required to do is bring a female counterpart to those meetings. It makes gender or title biased opinions impossible.
 

Even she knew of that book -specifically- than again I’ve seriously never met an ee that was born in the 70’s or 80’s that doesn’t. 
 

Original picture uploaded won’t load so I uploaded it again. 

[Longtimespanking]

Having grown up in the 50's and 60's when spanking was very common, and allowed in schools, I quickly realized that I liked watching my classmates getting caught doing something which resulted in them being spanked.  Although it was never discussed there seemed to be some common bond among those of us who were spanked.  I'd say that by second or third grade this interest in spankings had become very clear to me. 

[Topspanker]

2 minutes ago, Longtimespanking said:

Having grown up in the 50's and 60's when spanking was very common, and allowed in schools, I quickly realized that I liked watching my classmates getting caught doing something which resulted in them being spanked.  Although it was never discussed there seemed to be some common bond among those of us who were spanked.  I'd say that by second or third grade this interest in spankings had become very clear to me. 

YES! I went to school in eastern Idaho and it was in fact allowed in schools! I was never on receiving end of it but I can say I knew several females that had been.

Some of them even did infractions on purpose to get it No shit! 

[Blushing]

14 minutes ago, Longtimespanking said:

Having grown up in the 50's and 60's when spanking was very common, and allowed in schools, I quickly realized that I liked watching my classmates getting caught doing something which resulted in them being spanked.  Although it was never discussed there seemed to be some common bond among those of us who were spanked.  I'd say that by second or third grade this interest in spankings had become very clear to me. 

Yes I went to school in the UK in the 1960s. The cane was given in front of the class to those who misbehaved. I liked to watch, not in a sadistic fashion, but I liked the drama. It was normally just 1 stroke anyway.

But yes, there seemed to be a bond between those that had had it. I actually had a curious wish to experience it myself, although of course I was also apprehensive about it happening to me. Eventually I did get the cane, after the initial stinging, I was grateful for the experience.

[Topspanker]

44 minutes ago, Blushing said:

But yes, there seemed to be a bond between those that had had it

Definitely dead on accurate. We clicked up bigtime. Same lunch table, same outdoor area, even summertime when on break. Took a few years before we really started partaking in TTWD but it was always under the surface. Then the day came when we all found a box of old Spanko magazines from the uk. Than a chance happening while girlfriend was over and boom!

[nicoleS39]

Interesting post...thank you...a question I ask myself now and then...especially after my butt is really on fire after a spanking received 🙂.  lol..why oh why do I accept and need this...ouch?

I hated it growing up. Absolutely had no "feeling" or emotional "link" to it whatsoever. I hated getting spanked at school (a small Amish school)...and hated it at home too. I even hated seeing others get it at school, and my sister get it at home. I never saw my brothers get it other than a few swats of the hand, but I know they both got the strap a few times from pappa. I always thought it unfair that spankings were more private...just pappa and them...but my sister and I were often spanked at home in front of the family. Just seemed so unfair to me...but my mother was the one who decided things about spanking her girls.

So....I am probably very different from most here...in that I cannot really trace my interest or attraction back to my childhood...although I would think the many spankings I received in my childhood would enter into that somehow...probably in my sub-consciousness according to a therapist I used to see.

Well...after my release from prison...I had this deep feeling I would never be able to "control" my behavior...which had gotten my life so messed up. I could not control my temper out breaks...was starting to drink pretty heavy, smoking too much....and had already considered doing some escort work to get more money (prostitution)....I was repeating all my mistakes...heading down that path again and I knew it. I had not done any more drugs...but. So...out of I guess frustration with myself I started cutting myself. My parole officer and counselor noticed...called me on it...got me some meds...and I managed to back away from that. But....I still I had frustrations and doubts...so I found a less obvious way of self hurting. I started whipping my legs and thighs hard with a leather belt. I did my butt some too, but I am not very coordinated...and could not seem to do it as hard as I wanted to. So...that "did" seem to make me feel "better" about myself...felt like I had strict accountability like when I was growing up. So...I guess that maybe was the very small beginning of my awareness that I "needed" spanking in my life...and it was mostly legs, thighs, and I had stated whipping my back. I used the belt when I knew I had messed up...so it was my poor version of "self discipline"....but still...I never connected that with "someone else" spanking me or using the belt in me. My therapist told me it was probably because my mind was "protecting me" from my abused childhood...but...you know...to this day I cannot accept I was "abused". My mother was angry...and hard in me...but...her paddlings and even later whippings whenI got into my teens were never too far or something I did not deserve. At least...that is how I see it.  But...when my new "boyfriend" came along...who is now my husband....and rejected my slutty behavior and attempts to seduce him into sex...but still saw me anyway...and then surprisingly one night put me over his knee and spanked me...well...THAT was thebfirst time I made the connection between my need to be punished and submit...and a strong man doing that to and for me...instead of myself. Awkward but growing discussions after led to greater relationship intimacy and an understand of the important role spanking and dominance had already had in my "boyfriend's" life growing up and in his first marriage...and it just kept fostering my desire to have that with him as his wife...and our intimacy grew.

[Crimsonfanny17]

12 hours ago, Drooaygah said:

Nothing attached

Apologies, here’s the image. 

[Topspanker]

16 minutes ago, nicoleS39 said:

Interesting post...thank you...a question I ask myself now and then...especially after my butt is really on fire after a spanking received 🙂.  lol..why oh why do I accept and need this...ouch?

I hated it growing up. Absolutely had no "feeling" or emotional "link" to it whatsoever. I hated getting spanked at school (a small Amish school)...and hated it at home too. I even hated seeing others get it at school, and my sister get it at home. I never saw my brothers get it other than a few swats of the hand, but I know they both got the strap a few times from pappa. I always thought it unfair that spankings were more private...just pappa and them...but my sister and I were often spanked at home in front of the family. Just seemed so unfair to me...but my mother was the one who decided things about spanking her girls.

So....I am probably very different from most here...in that I cannot really trace my interest or attraction back to my childhood...although I would think the many spankings I received in my childhood would enter into that somehow...probably in my sub-consciousness according to a therapist I used to see.

Well...after my release from prison...I had this deep feeling I would never be able to "control" my behavior...which had gotten my life so messed up. I could not control my temper out breaks...was starting to drink pretty heavy, smoking too much....and had already considered doing some escort work to get more money (prostitution)....I was repeating all my mistakes...heading down that path again and I knew it. I had not done any more drugs...but. So...out of I guess frustration with myself I started cutting myself. My parole officer and counselor noticed...called me on it...got me some meds...and I managed to back away from that. But....I still I had frustrations and doubts...so I found a less obvious way of self hurting. I started whipping my legs and thighs hard with a leather belt. I did my butt some too, but I am not very coordinated...and could not seem to do it as hard as I wanted to. So...that "did" seem to make me feel "better" about myself...felt like I had strict accountability like when I was growing up. So...I guess that maybe was the very small beginning of my awareness that I "needed" spanking in my life...and it was mostly legs, thighs, and I had stated whipping my back. I used the belt when I knew I had messed up...so it was my poor version of "self discipline"....but still...I never connected that with "someone else" spanking me or using the belt in me. My therapist told me it was probably because my mind was "protecting me" from my abused childhood...but...you know...to this day I cannot accept I was "abused". My mother was angry...and hard in me...but...her paddlings and even later whippings whenI got into my teens were never too far or something I did not deserve. At least...that is how I see it.  But...when my new "boyfriend" came along...who is now my husband....and rejected my slutty behavior and attempts to seduce him into sex...but still saw me anyway...and then surprisingly one night put me over his knee and spanked me...well...THAT was thebfirst time I made the connection between my need to be punished and submit...and a strong man doing that to and for me...instead of myself. Awkward but growing discussions after led to greater relationship intimacy and an understand of the important role spanking and dominance had already had in my "boyfriend's" life growing up and in his first marriage...and it just kept fostering my desire to have that with him as his wife...and our intimacy grew.

I totally believe/agree with everything. I have done several non-Sexual spanko therapy kind of things in the past. I'm no therapist but we would formulate a plan for her, and what the consequences were for not following etc. Crazy thing- It Worked like a charm. Yes, there were maintenance spankings as well but it's never funishment etc. Basically, if I don't have a legitimate reason based on layed out plan she doesn't get touched at all.

To be able to watch it all come together and see her start to grow, get out of habits, start walking a better path its surprising. At least it was to me the first time I did something like that. I had my doubts because what if she does like it and is intentionally doing wrong things to egg it on (bratting basically). But that wasn't the case, it was completely legitimate. I kid you not, it worked like a charm.

[Drooaygah]

I'm not sure I can pipoint a specific first image or moment, but yeah, I realized I was excited by such things at a very early age and even had vivid fantasies as far back as age 6 or 7.  Not all were spanking-related but all were kink scenarios. I now recognize. Spanking was (and remains) far and away The Big One.

Of course spankings in movies and TV shows, comics, cartoons, and books all got my attention and some became fodder for fantasies.

One very early memory is my grandmother watching some movie on TV where there's a brief few seconds of a kid (a girl I think) getting spanked by her father (we only see their shadows silhouetted against a wall) and sobbing out "I won't do it again daddy!" over and over.  That one really hit home.

Another was not a picture, but a story in a book I had as a very young kid (still have it), called "The Hungry Moon", a collection of folk tales from Mexico.  One of the stories was about a rather obnoxious boy named Antonino who is sent by his mother to get a jug of wine for a dinner she is having.  He resents this chore, and on the way home he tries balancing the jug on his head.  This doesn't go well and the jug breaks.  Antonino goes home and tells his mom, without an ounce of remorse, that he broke the jug playing with it on the way home.  His mother chews him out and then says she is going to spank him, not for breaking the jug, but for being careless and selfish.  The next part of the story is so vividly etched in my brain that I don't even need to look it up to quote it:

"And so she did.  And it was quite a hard spanking.  And afterwards Antonino felt sorry for himself.  Especially the part of him that had gotten spanked"

That one stayed with me.

Incidentally, each story came with a song, and the lyrics to this one ended with "Poor little jug, poor red wine, poor little bottom of Antonino"

A few years after first encountering that, I was attending a summer school.  There was a young couple (I think they were travel writers) who would come to the class and talk about foreign countries they had visited.  On this particular day, they were talking about China (Nixon had only recently re-opened relations with China, so visiting there was unusual at the time).  They told us about schools there, and explained that, every morning, the teacher would enter the class, and all the students were expected to bow to her (or him).  If a student did not bow, we were told, they would get "a very hard spanking - with a stick!"

I used to fantasize endlessly about going to a school China, and deliberately NOT bowing, so I could get that spanking!  

How spanko is that?

[DisobedientHuby]

Seeing or hearing it happen growing up and the love and affection of the parents after it was over made me want to experience it. My parents did give me a swat or two on occasion but it was watching my sitter with her own kids.  She would put them over her knee but when she was done she would love and comfort them.  It was a different time.   I never lost the fascination and desire. 

[Kayteadoll]

I can remember squirming in my seat as my elementary school librarian read, Me and My Little Brain to put class. There's at least one good spanking. There's a movie of The Great Brain that shows a darn good paddling too. 

[rude_rumps]

19 minutes ago, Kayteadoll said:

I can remember squirming in my seat as my elementary school librarian read, Me and My Little Brain to put class. There's at least one good spanking. There's a movie of The Great Brain that shows a darn good paddling too. 

there's an illustration of the paddling in the book too!! I never forgot that :)

[rude_rumps]

I have memories going back to when I was like 3 of thinking about spanking... I remember quite a few books with spanking references from when I was little too...I'd read them over and over... the one that really stands out is The Lonely Doll

[Lotsapappa]

I realized early high school when I made a joke like… “is it just me or does anyone else like to get a spanking from Bionic woman (Lindsey Wagner), Colonel Wilma (Erin Grey buck rogers) or Sabrina Duncan (Kate Jackson Charlie’s Angels)?  I can’t choose”………I got a big laugh  but also realized I was isolated. Actually worried me I was blending sex/violence in my head and would become Outlaw type in a bad way. Came across enough info to understand ‘acceptable fetish’ but became very cool Outlaw type late hs skipping days and giving away lots of free fast food as Assistant to the Assistant Manager slinging burgers/fries etc.  

Erin then Lindsey followed by Kate was my preference if one could choose. Pretty sure all three were ER in 1970’s but social media was 35 years away. 

 

[Explorify]

  When I was around 5, I eagerly participated in a spanking game that involved me getting a bare bottom spanking from a slightly older boy in the presence of a girl my age, who also got one.  Like others, I energetically sought out the slightest references in literature.  Around puberty, the fantasies associated with those readings expanded to having me in the spanking role.  In the many decades since, I have entirely enjoyed being a switch. -Ex.

[dmirk]

2 minutes ago, Explorify said:

  When I was around 5, I eagerly participated in a spanking game that involved me getting a bare bottom spanking from a slightly older boy in the presence of a girl my age, who also got one.  Like others, I energetically sought out the slightest references in literature.  Around puberty, the fantasies associated with those readings expanded to having me in the spanking role.  In the many decades since, I have entirely enjoyed being a switch. -Ex.

 

When I was I a little older by a couple of years I was that boy. 

[Khakikid]

As a very young kid spanking was the sort of thing I got as a punishment, but from about 5 years old I began to get a frisson from being restrained or tied up. The notion of being helpless and at someone else's mercy just gave me a thrill.

Sometime about my tenth birthday I learned that spanking was what I needed. I don't remember how it began, but me and another boy in my class, call him Sam, started playing a wrestling sort of game with each other. The one who won would usually force the other one to submit to a few smacks on the butt. Soon enough, we both found ourselves trying to "lose" and lay down for our spanking. 

Eventually we stopped pretending and just got straight to business - we would take turns laying down to be spanked by the other. I still feel a shiver go through me when I think back to how pleasant those sessions were, just laying on the floor and feeling my friend's hand run over my butt and smack me hard. The game continued for all of fifth grade, but the next year we weren't together anymore and so it ended. But by then I was a raging spanking addict, pretty firmly a bottom.

After that I would devour any spanking reference I could find. The Big Brain, The 500 Hats of Bartholomew Cubbins - I memorized every single passage I came across that involved spanking. I even would spend a half hour staring at the dictionary definition of spank and just daydreaming of being spanked. Unfortunately, my punishment spankings had ceased by the time I realized how much I loved them.

Even now, the memory of those early spankings shapes much of my spanking itch. I like any sort of spanking, but the ones that thrill me the most are the ones that remind me most of those early spankings. The two things in particular which I think are pretty unique is that I specifically like being spanked over my pants, and what's more, I specifically love if those pants are khaki pants, which is what I wore for pretty much every one of those spankings. As a matter of fact, I wear khaki almost all the time now because it makes me feel so spankable.

That's actually where my username comes from.

[Kayteadoll]

19 hours ago, rude_rumps said:

there's an illustration of the paddling in the book too!! I never forgot that

Found it!