Maintenance Spankings

[Spanknutt]

For those who use maintenance spankings, I'm curious what your definition is, from both sides.

[FirmSpankerMD]

Interesting topic and looking forward to seeing other answers.

For each Mentee, it was something different.

One was used as preventative. If she had a stressful day coming up, or dealt with one, it would relieve that stress. She would also act up when there was a full moon, so we would spank prior to the full moon, so that she had a reminder that lasted throughout the day. (Spanking cream was added at her lunch time). This continued even after we were not mentor/mentee as it was beneficial to her.

I have also used it when the smaller things that would not warrant a punishment, but started to add up, to get them cleared so that a punishment did not get earned.

[brittygirl]

During our very brief (and disastrous) foray into DD, we basically only practiced maintenance. Honestly, it felt like a chore. I could tell on the days my partner didn’t want to. And the days I didn’t want to, if I didn’t say anything, neither of us would bring it up or do it. 

[Longtimespanking]

I would define maintenance as a regularly scheduled spanking intended to accomplish two important things, but it should not be limited to those. 

1) An affirmation that the person being spanked is accountable to their spanker/disciplinarian for behavioral issues. This means a fairly hard spanking as an attention getter and motivational tool. 

2) As punishment for all the smaller things that take place, which in and of themselves would usually not deserve a dedicated spanking, but when taken all together, do deserve punishment.  The maintenance spanking should clear the slate of all those smaller issues and provide a reset for the one who is accountable. 

 

Maintenance spankings work really well if both people involved are in agreement about the principle and reasoning behind doing this in the first place. A maintenance spanking is not a gentle, nor a fun experience for the spankee and should never be thought of as such.  It is indeed punishment, and is indeed a reminder of accountability and therefore should not be a quickly done interaction nor should it be gently administered.  

Whenever possible maintenance spankings ought to be done on a schedule, perhaps once a month works for some people, but more frequent maintenance spankings work even better or might even be required for others. I think once a week would not be excessive and have used that schedule with a number of women over the years. 

 

Also, if using the concept of maintenance spankings, then there must also be an agreement that any serious issues which come up in the meantime will be dealt with separately from the maintenance, and will occur as swiftly as possible after the need arises. It's important to try to keep the two things separate as much as possible. 

[FtWorthOTK55]

Getting regular spankings, whether you misbehave or not will keep you from getting into trouble.  No, I do not believe that and I doubt many others find sense in it either.  But we all know spankees just want to be spanked sometimes and it can be hard for them to ask.  They should not have to misbehave to get a spanking, especially if they are trying to improve themselves.

So I use maintenance spankings for those I discipline.  We set rules for the behavior that is expected.  The rules we set up are meant to be obeyed, not to set them up to fail so I have an excuse to spank trhem.  We do not want a discipline spanking to be necessary very often, but in most cases we want to get together every so often for some bottom warming fun.  

The way the maintenance spankings proceed can vary, depending upon the needs of the spankee.  It is going to hurt or it's not a spanking.  In most cases, they like the soreness to last a while.  While there is not normally the need for a lecture or scolding, she may still need me to be firm and strict.  I usually go more with a warm-up and use the implements she likes than the one implement I normally use for punishment.   

[OhRedhead]

2 hours ago, Longtimespanking said:

I would define maintenance as a regularly scheduled spanking intended to accomplish two important things, but it should not be limited to those. 

1) An affirmation that the person being spanked is accountable to their spanker/disciplinarian for behavioral issues. This means a fairly hard spanking as an attention getter and motivational tool. 

2) As punishment for all the smaller things that take place, which in and of themselves would usually not deserve a dedicated spanking, but when taken all together, do deserve punishment.  The maintenance spanking should clear the slate of all those smaller issues and provide a reset for the one who is accountable. 

 

Maintenance spankings work really well if both people involved are in agreement about the principle and reasoning behind doing this in the first place. A maintenance spanking is not a gentle, nor a fun experience for the spankee and should never be thought of as such.  It is indeed punishment, and is indeed a reminder of accountability and therefore should not be a quickly done interaction nor should it be gently administered.  

Whenever possible maintenance spankings ought to be done on a schedule, perhaps once a month works for some people, but more frequent maintenance spankings work even better or might even be required for others. I think once a week would not be excessive and have used that schedule with a number of women over the years. 

 

Also, if using the concept of maintenance spankings, then there must also be an agreement that any serious issues which come up in the meantime will be dealt with separately from the maintenance, and will occur as swiftly as possible after the need arises. It's important to try to keep the two things separate as much as possible. 

This sums it up perfectly for me. #1 and #2 are the reasons why maintenance spankings are used in my dynamic with my partner. 

[OregonWolf]

For me it has always adjusted to the needs of the situations. Sometimes it was 1x a month, other times it was every week. So, for me it always depended on the needs of someone, if it helped keep them on the right track, or if they just needed that connection or constant reminder.

[YannaBobanna]

4 hours ago, FtWorthOTK55 said:

They should not have to misbehave to get a spanking,

This. I don't like to have to provoke a spanking (often). Most of the time, I'm a well-behaved young lady who just needs  a healthy dose of Vitamin S a couple of times a week. And frequently-scheduled maintenance spankings give me an outlet for bratting when I do crave an attitude adjustment.

[Summer]

To me, maintenance is more about maintaining submission rather than maintaining good behavior. But not all bottoms are submissives. So I’m curious to see if there are a greater number of bottom submissives who appreciate maintenance than there are bottoms who aren’t submissive. 
 

So for me, a maintenance session is more about maintaining the HOH/TiH dynamic than it is about making sure I behave myself. 
 

My current relationship is long distance so there’s no maintenance at this point, but the plan (once we’re under one roof) is for a daily OTK session in the morning that may or may not include swats. It’s the submissive position that’s the goal. A way to reconnect, talk about his expectations of me for the day, and remind me that my (voluntary) job is to please him with my obedience. 
 

I also (because of past trauma that I won’t get into here) have a need for physical reminders of his leadership over me. Reassuring me that I’m safe because I’m his. Those physical reminders can include a sore backside from a maintenance spanking (amongst other things). 
 

How often I’ll actually get spanked in the mornings will be up to him as well as what other physical reminders he decides for me for the day. 

[rubyredd]

While I get the concept, I find maintenance spankings to be just an excuse to spank. And I don't need an excuse to be spanked... because I am a spanko. I would rather we try funishment or some other type of non-punitive spanking rather than a corrective spanking when it isn't needed. If I am meeting goals and "behaving," then a disciplinary spanking is not only unnecessary, but would have a negative impact on our disciplinary relationship. 

[danadares]

So I guess something is being maintained. Definitions tend to be somewhat personal in these matters. I never use the term but, if I did, it would be "a required spanking as a conscious effort to meet a need for something that would not otherwise be met naturally." Typically, it seems to be related to discipline rather than spanking for fun, but it could be for any reason. The reason could be the need for regularly scheduled spankings, but it could also be a spur of the moment decision that the need must be met for the purpose of preserving whatever constant is being considered.

I've never spanked with this objective in mind, but that would change with a partner having the need for this maintenance. It could be discipline if it promotes better behavior or helps attaining a goal. I would never want to call it punishment, as it completely undermines the concept. A maintenance spanking for discipline or other reasons would require a clearly different experience than punishment.

 

[Needing correction!]

On 1/26/2023 at 8:58 AM, Longtimespanking said:

I would define maintenance as a regularly scheduled spanking intended to accomplish two important things, but it should not be limited to those. 

1) An affirmation that the person being spanked is accountable to their spanker/disciplinarian for behavioral issues. This means a fairly hard spanking as an attention getter and motivational tool. 

2) As punishment for all the smaller things that take place, which in and of themselves would usually not deserve a dedicated spanking, but when taken all together, do deserve punishment.  The maintenance spanking should clear the slate of all those smaller issues and provide a reset for the one who is accountable. 

 

Maintenance spankings work really well if both people involved are in agreement about the principle and reasoning behind doing this in the first place. A maintenance spanking is not a gentle, nor a fun experience for the spankee and should never be thought of as such.  It is indeed punishment, and is indeed a reminder of accountability and therefore should not be a quickly done interaction nor should it be gently administered.  

Whenever possible maintenance spankings ought to be done on a schedule, perhaps once a month works for some people, but more frequent maintenance spankings work even better or might even be required for others. I think once a week would not be excessive and have used that schedule with a number of women over the years. 

 

Also, if using the concept of maintenance spankings, then there must also be an agreement that any serious issues which come up in the meantime will be dealt with separately from the maintenance, and will occur as swiftly as possible after the need arises. It's important to try to keep the two things separate as much as possible. 

Thank you for this. I've never really understood maintenance spanking but you have provided a logical and sensible explanation.

I have only ever been corrected for discipline or punishment (which are different): I find such correction both unwelcome because it hurts and welcome because it's somehow reassuring! 

But I recognize that there have been times from my mid teens onwards in which tension has risen tangibly, always resulting in a thoroughly deserved tap on the bottom for some genuine reason. Perhaps periodic maintenance spankings* might obviate that.

 

*NOT overt tension relief spankings which wouldn't have worked when I was fifteen and would be unlikely to succeed now.

[DisobedientHuby]

For me a maintenance spanking is just a premptive spanking to assure good behavior because I have shown a lack of control in the past. For some time I was getting one ever Saturday morning before we left the house because it was evident that I have issues when we go out on the weekends. My behavior has improved so she no longer uses them but will go back to it if she sees any consistency in bad behavior.

For me they are everybit as severe as a punishment spanking

[ianl]

On 2/2/2023 at 4:14 PM, DisobedientHuby said:

For me a maintenance spanking is just a premptive spanking to assure good behavior because I have shown a lack of control in the past. For some time I was getting one ever Saturday morning before we left the house because it was evident that I have issues when we go out on the weekends. My behavior has improved so she no longer uses them but will go back to it if she sees any consistency in bad behavior.

For me they are everybit as severe as a punishment spanking

if they work and help you improve then it is very much the right way to go.   great work 

[DisobedientHuby]

2 hours ago, ianl said:

if they work and help you improve then it is very much the right way to go.   great work 

I guess I spoke to early got a premptive spanking this morning because I had been a little sassy for a couple of days and she wanted to make sure I would behave at the store today. It went great till we realized a couple of hours later that a purchase we made for me was missing. The assumption is I left it in the cart.  It was 40 dollars and I am afraid I may be getting at least 40 with the paddle for being careless and not making sure I had everything from the cart in the car.  This is not the first time I have done this and been paddled for it.  She is tired and I don't think I will be getting it tonight but may get it in the morning. 

[ianl]

14 hours ago, DisobedientHuby said:

I guess I spoke to early got a premptive spanking this morning because I had been a little sassy for a couple of days and she wanted to make sure I would behave at the store today. It went great till we realized a couple of hours later that a purchase we made for me was missing. The assumption is I left it in the cart.  It was 40 dollars and I am afraid I may be getting at least 40 with the paddle for being careless and not making sure I had everything from the cart in the car.  This is not the first time I have done this and been paddled for it.  She is tired and I don't think I will be getting it tonight but may get it in the morning. 

I may be mistaken here as i do not know full details, but the purchase missing just sounds like a genuine mistake to me, yes it has cost money, but these things do happen at times we are only human, the premptive one I think was a good idea, as a reminder to stay grounded, well done on that one, it shows it worked 

[DisobedientHuby]

6 hours ago, ianl said:

I may be mistaken here as i do not know full details, but the purchase missing just sounds like a genuine mistake to me, yes it has cost money, but these things do happen at times we are only human, the premptive one I think was a good idea, as a reminder to stay grounded, well done on that one, it shows it worked 

Yes it was a mistake but it is a pattern with me. She said she will be monitoring me more closely but because it has been a repetitive thing she is going to put me over her knee one swat for every dollar and one minute in the corner thats 46 with the paddle and to be honest i am a little scared but also asked her to make sure this bad habit does not continue. I agreed with her on the punishment but it would have happened either way

 

 

[ianl]

31 minutes ago, DisobedientHuby said:

Yes it was a mistake but it is a pattern with me. She said she will be monitoring me more closely but because it has been a repetitive thing she is going to put me over her knee one swat for every dollar and one minute in the corner thats 46 with the paddle and to be honest i am a little scared but also asked her to make sure this bad habit does not continue. I agreed with her on the punishment but it would have happened either way

 

 

well you asked for help with it, so for it to work it has to leave the desired message with you, I am glad you agree with it, otherwise you would end up feeling resentful for being punished undeservedly in your eyes, and credit to your wife for trying to work with you on an issue you have.

[lawafc]

Very interesting question.

my wife spanks me twice a week. 1 (Sunday night) is maintenance. I am getting that no matter what. 2 is the midweek one and that varies. if i have been good, its 5 mins otk handspanking followed by sex. If i have been bad, its discipline. A much longer Otk followed by paddle/strap and hairbrush. 

[Otkmedicine]

I sometimes wish i had regular maintenance spankings. For me, a hot bottom is a good reminder and has helped me make better choices.

[DisobedientHuby]

31 minutes ago, Otkmedicine said:

I sometimes wish i had regular maintenance spankings. For me, a hot bottom is a good reminder and has helped me make better choices.

I agree I think regular maintenance spankings are helpful my wife used to give me  one on Saturdays but lately she has only been giving me a spanking when I need it but because I am slipping into a repetitive careless habit around not checking the grocery cart when loading the car. I am going to ask her for a premptive spanking before we go shopping again. So I don't leave something in the cart again.  She gave me my punishment spanking for the last incident this morning just a few minutes ago so I am sitting on a very sore bottom writing this

  

Edited February 7 by DisobedientHuby

[Jaclyn]

I just started meeting someone weekly for maintenance spanking. I like that there is a base level of spanking I can expect (which is enough to not be fun) and it keeps me very motivated on my goals. I find that I can get “itchy” for a spanking after about a week and start looking for reasons I might need one. Knowing it’s coming, I can just focus on not getting anything worse. It’s working quite well about a month in. 

[ammon]

On 1/25/2023 at 12:58 PM, Longtimespanking said:

I would define maintenance as a regularly scheduled spanking intended to accomplish two important things, but it should not be limited to those. 

1) An affirmation that the person being spanked is accountable to their spanker/disciplinarian for behavioral issues. This means a fairly hard spanking as an attention getter and motivational tool. 

2) As punishment for all the smaller things that take place, which in and of themselves would usually not deserve a dedicated spanking, but when taken all together, do deserve punishment.  The maintenance spanking should clear the slate of all those smaller issues and provide a reset for the one who is accountable. 

Maintenance spankings work really well if both people involved are in agreement about the principle and reasoning behind doing this in the first place. A maintenance spanking is not a gentle, nor a fun experience for the spankee and should never be thought of as such.  It is indeed punishment, and is indeed a reminder of accountability and therefore should not be a quickly done interaction nor should it be gently administered.  

Whenever possible maintenance spankings ought to be done on a schedule, perhaps once a month works for some people, but more frequent maintenance spankings work even better or might even be required for others. I think once a week would not be excessive and have used that schedule with a number of women over the years. 

Also, if using the concept of maintenance spankings, then there must also be an agreement that any serious issues which come up in the meantime will be dealt with separately from the maintenance, and will occur as swiftly as possible after the need arises. It's important to try to keep the two things separate as much as possible. 

Mr. LongTimeSpanking--That is an excellent description of maintenance spankings. You covered several areas and aspects very well, accurately, and succinctly. As a dedicated spankee, i wholesomely agree with the points you've expressed. I would add one thing, that hopefully the Spanker very much enjoys giving this punishment and reminding of accountability. In this scenario, the Spanker and spankee understand their relationship and roles. Thanks, sir, for an excellent and thoughtful description, and something for us to think about. The spankee will not enjoy this punishment, but needs it, yearns for it, and will always return for it.

[michaelmause]

On 2/7/2023 at 10:26 AM, Otkmedicine said:

I sometimes wish i had regular maintenance spankings. For me, a hot bottom is a good reminder and has helped me make better choices.

hey contact me we can reconnect and i can schedule maintenance for you

[Chantelle34d]

A maintenance spanking is a spanking given on a regular basis not as punishment for any specific thing, that's different, but to remind the submissive or his (or her) place and help him or her better understand the concept of submission.  As a teen my sisters and brother and I got a spanking from our mother weekly for no other reason but to keep us in line.  It was the forerunner of today's "maintenance spanking."    Here's one way to do it.  My male submissive who is also a femboy,  knows that he will receive his maintenance spanking every Saturday night at 8 PM sharp.  Sometime during the day I inform him which instrument I will use because he has to bring it to me.  Sometimes I put him in restraints and when I decide to do it I tell him to come to me with the wrist and ankle cuffs on.  They are leather.  I attach his wrists and ankles to the spanking bench with chains secured to the cuffs.  In any event when he arrives he is to say "I am ready for my maintenance spanking mistress.  Please give to to me."   He gives me either the belt, strap or switch.  I have a paddle I rarely use and I cane I also rarely use.  I will specify which strap if that's my choice.  Some times I order him to choose the instrument.  He prefers the medium width leather spanking strap.  I then tell him to prepare himself.  He removes his pants and pantyhose.  If he is wearing a skirt he removes the pantyhose.  He then positions himself bent over the large chair or if I decide on restraints, he positions himself over the bench. When I decide to use restraints I always invite either his step sister over or another woman who is part of our circle.  She is to secure him to the bench and will also be allowed to apply some of the strokes.  On a no-restraints night after he has removed whatever clothing items I have ordered off, he bends over the easy chair and grips the arms.  Then he is instructed to say "I am ready for the strap mistress. Please give it to me."  I then  position myself behind him and with no delay began to give him the strap. He has to count them out and say "Thank you mistress, May I please have another."  After 15 lashes or strokes I stop.  He knows then that it's time to pull down his panties which he does.  Then he says, "I've lowered my panties mistress. Please continue with my spanking."  I then give him. 10 more and if my step sister is present I allow her to give him an additional 5.  When I'm done he is to say "Thank you for the spanking mistress. I am fortunate that you gave it to me."   He then puts his panties and pantyhose on but no pants if he was wearing them.  If a short skirt he lowers it and goes into the TV room.  He is allowed to watch TV with his step sister or whomever else is there.  At precisely 9:30 he is to get up and go to the large bedroom he shares with me. When there either his step sister or I instruct him remove his clothing and lay down to be diapered.  One of us puts a diaper on him.  I also use the disposables.  Then he is put in tight plastic panties  and given his nightgown.  If he's not wearing a diaper, which is off and on, he wears panties and a nightgown.  If he's diapered he wears a shorty nightgown or a sleep shirt.  At first I used to put him or have him  put himself in ankle restraints which I then attached to the bed with a long, leather leash.   Now I do it once in awhile for disciplinary or training reasons.  I forgot mention that he always wears his collar and if he is leashed for the spanking I just let the leash hang loose.  I often have him on the leash around the house bu at night before bed I take it off.

That's the way we do it every week.  The spankings when he is restrained are no different than when he isn't.  Sometimes he even asks to be restrained.  Two things always happen.  He gets very hard during the spanking and I am already wet when he knocks on my door.  I wear a pad in my panties. He often has a boner when we start and sometimes it stays hard throughout but he almost always gets hard when I'm done.