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My girlfriend told me a horrible story so that she could get money from me in order to pay a debt she owed. She told me she had uterine cancer and was getting chemo and that she lost her hair and was constantly vomiting.  She ever sent me a picture of her in the hospital receiving treatment.

At first I didn't think anything of the picture. It looked legit. Then I saw a news report of a women in the hospital dying from vaping. At that point I realized the photo that my girlfriend sent me of her in the hospital was photoshopped from the picture of the girl dying from vaping.

I told my girlfriend she was going to get spanked for telling that kind of lie. However, I am not sure what implement to use. 

ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE APPRECAITED.

 

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1 hour ago, Child of Light said:

My advice? File legal charges for fraud and breakup with her.

Thank you. I was going to do as you said, but decided against filing charges or leaving her. Getting her mental health support I did do, told her she needed to see a therapist and that I would pay for it. I also told her for every session she missed she would get spanked.

 

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Nothing, you do nothing! You have a Frank conversation with her about honesty and understanding within the confines of the relationship. Find a way to make sure that something like this never happens again.

 

 

There are some things in this life there too seriously discipline and at the end of the day we are all adults. 

CP

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4 minutes ago, C P said:

Nothing, you do nothing! You have a Frank conversation with her about honesty and understanding within the confines of the relationship. Find a way to make sure that something like this never happens again.

 

 

There are some things in this life there too seriously discipline and at the end of the day we are all adults. 

CP

Is there really any way of trusting someone who lies about cancer?

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I believe proper etiquette here calls for a 2-by-4.

Seriously, I assume you're talking about a consensual punishment. If that's the case, do you really think a spanking is a useful way to address this awful behavior? Does she truly believe she was wrong, and is genuinely committed to never doing it again, or is it just a way to survive and continue her unethical schemes? Or maybe she likes getting spanked?

It looks to me like all trust has been broken. Spanking as a fix would be like putting a band-aid on a shotgun wound.  

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In my honest opinion if you two aren’t married I would run I may have told a lie or two in my marriage about how I spent money or misused money yes  I got spanked for that and we worked on how I can be more honest going forward but at the end  of the day  that’s just completely different she lied about cancer let alone completely took the time to photoshop the image to make it look legit that’s fraudulent you need to ask yourself  what is the next lie going to be  or how fair is she really willing to go to make these lies seem true I even have mental health myself and would never stoop that low she can go to therapy treatment all day unless absolutely wants help it’s pointless I hope you figure things out and best of luck. 

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I completely agree with other posters. This is not a situation that will be resolved with spanking. As someone who had to watch their mother go through cancer, at age 14, that whole story hurts. 

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My humble suggestion would be similar to other posters: end this relationship. Get yourself a partner who doesn't lie to you, doesn't try to scam you out of money. This person is clearly not trustworthy. Save yourself a lot of misery by getting out of that relationship now, before you get in deeper.

You can't solve everything with a spanking.

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10 hours ago, mikeae102754 said:

No fantasy. Send an email to mikeae102754@att.net and I will send photos. Privately only

Then I am puzzled by some of the narrative. Is this a long-distance relationship? How else would you not know her hair is falling out? And how did you not recognize that a photo of someone else was not her?  Those things seemed strange to me, as did how bizarre the whole situation was. And also, why you didn't kick her to curb for this. If it's true love on your end, I guess I can understand. But if it's true love on her end, well...you just don't do things like that to people you care about. Obviously, those are my thoughts only and I don't pretend to speak for everyone.

 

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11 hours ago, mikeae102754 said:

No fantasy. Send an email to mikeae102754@att.net and I will send photos. Privately only

Photos of what? How would photos prove this isn't a fantasy? Especially when the whole premise of this story turns on photoshopped photos.

Edit: I find it interesting that all of your post except the first sentence was copy/pasted from somewhere else. The way it shows up in the quote box, with that white space around it, proves that.

 

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2 hours ago, Spanknutt said:

Then I am puzzled by some of the narrative. Is this a long-distance relationship? How else would you not know her hair is falling out? And how did you not recognize that a photo of someone else was not her?  Those things seemed strange to me, as did how bizarre the whole situation was. And also, why you didn't kick her to curb for this? If it's true love on your end, I guess I can understand. But if it's true love on her end, well...you just don't do things like that to people you care about. Obviously, those are my thoughts only and I don't claim to speak for everyone.

 

The only stories like that I've ever heard before involved people who got into online relationships and never met their "significant others" in person. And once, in another forum I was in, a member had an ex boyfriend tell her he was dying of cancer (she'd moved after they broke up, so she was no longer where she'd see him in person without one of them traveling, but they'd kept in touch). No photos to "prove" it, but he claimed to have just spent some days in the hospital... at a hospital that she knew did not provide in patient care. And a few other details that eventually made the whole story unravel.

These kinds of things don't happen between people who are together in person. Which they would have to be, on a regular basis, for this...

On 1/10/2023 at 4:04 PM, mikeae102754 said:

I also told her for every session she missed she would get spanked.

 

...to be possible. 

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I would waste no time contemplating how to punish someone who pulled such a deplorable stunt. The moment they proved themselves untrustworthy, they would be gone from my life.  

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I figure if I had a dollar for every spanking fantasy posted as real on the net, I could buy a seat in Congress.

Just accepting the situation here as true, it seems very odd. After this total mess of what really is criminal behavior, the big question is help choosing a spanking implement to use? Hey everyone, what's your favorite implement?

I treat online discussions with strangers as stuff to talk about. If this post was presented as a hypothetical, would it change anyone's opinion about the situation? Just going with what is presented, I recommend that spanking is not the answer.

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Lying is such an overt act of deception it leaves an indelible scar. A discussion of the events and lie only "clears the air". I always have lost some level of respect for the liar. 

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