What's the point anymore ?

[Skidball]

I never meet anyone, once in a while maybe get a reply or two back here and there, or I'll be on a roll with someone and everything is going great, and I'm thinking this gonna be awesome. And then it just stops and goes away and never here from them again ?  So why am I even doing this ???

[Susanb196]

I know what you mean. I was chatting to a couple of females or at least that’s what they said they were. Everything was going well. One was from the USA who said she worked for a large advertising company and frequently travel to London that was great what’s the chances of that 👍 then all of a sudden she’s gone 😮.  Another said she was from the uk again, she said she frequently travelled around the uk and quoted 3 towns fairly close to me again great 😀 once again it all of a sudden went quite.. Of course it could be me scaring these ladies off 

[Spanknutt]

1 hour ago, Susanb196 said:

I know what you mean. I was chatting to a couple of females or at least that’s what they said they were. Everything was going well. One was from the USA who said she worked for a large advertising company and frequently travel to London that was great what’s the chances of that 👍 then all of a sudden she’s gone 😮.  Another said she was from the uk again, she said she frequently travelled around the uk and quoted 3 towns fairly close to me again great 😀 once again it all of a sudden went quite.. Of course it could be me scaring these ladies off 

I'm sorry to hear that. I have seen trolls claiming to travel back and forth between England and the U.S. or being located in one of those places but "can travel anywhere." I have gotten rid of some of them, but I can't find them all. 

Having said that, I have met some great people on here, including my current spankee partner. I tend to be naturally suspicious and if something looks too good to be true, it often is. There are ways to figure out if people are genuine. For example, I am Facebook friends with a number of people on this site. If you are having a serious conversation about a spanking relationship with someone, then they (and you) should be willing to share something like that.

[Susanb196]

Thank you for your response and advice.  

[SirStephen]

3 hours ago, Skidball said:

I never meet anyone, once in a while maybe get a reply or two back here and there, or I'll be on a roll with someone and everything is going great, and I'm thinking this gonna be awesome. And then it just stops and goes away and never here from them again ?  So why am I even doing this ???

I thought it was just me that happens to. Obviously not, always nice to know 
 

[SpankorBSpanked]

One thing to keep in mind is that many of the individuals who frequent this site (and similar sites) have never actually been spanked, or may simply fantasize about being spanked or spanking someone.  Nothing wrong with that, but if you are looking for a real time experience (on either end of things) you might be disappointed.  

The "ghosting" usually takes place when the numerous chats you have had with an individual have taken things to the point where the next step would be to actually meet.  Even if that means for a cup of coffee.  However, once the fantasy starts to get closer to becoming "reality" is when people tend to put the brakes on.  

Others simply chose to roleplay here and cyber-spank.  Nothing wrong with that either I suppose . . .    

[RIspanko]

I have met a  few people   from here over the years but it certainly is a painstaking process most of the time. All you can do is try and be patient and hope something clicks

[Justlooking4otk]

This ^ sums it up. Have to keep expectations in check at this site, lots of false leads.

[littledemon]

I've met quite a few spanking partners exclusively through online means (here included), but it's probably easier for me being a female bottom. The success rate is not high (meet up 1 out of 10 I talk to), but it's mainly due to incompatibility or logistical challenges more than being ghosted.

[Geoffreaux]

I too experience the same thing on many sites. I came to the conclusion that I am looking for a unicorn, and just hope to chat with someone friendly. 

[flompf]

1 hour ago, littledemon said:

I've met quite a few spanking partners exclusively through online means (here included), but it's probably easier for me being a female bottom. The success rate is not high (meet up 1 out of 10 I talk to), but it's mainly due to incompatibility or logistical challenges more than being ghosted.

Dang, you've talked to 10 people?

[DaChief]

Sad but true fact that these sites attract a lot of people who are only into the fantasy aspects, or who maybe want to meet, but panic at the last minute and they don't. There's also tourists and trolls and blah, blah, blah. 

You have to be patient. I've been doing this for 30+ years. Talked to tens of thousands of people over the years, actually met and spanked a few hundred, the majority of those at parties. Made around 30-35 long term friends who I allowed into my personal life. But I have talked to tens of thousands. I've said it before on this site, and I'll say it again; I always go to a first meeting with a Plan B for what I'll do with my time if the woman stands me up. 

It is worth it when you truly connect with someone though. But yes, it can be discouraging. 

[Lotsapappa]

Reality bites. Littledemon is right she has advantage being female EE. But this is a free site and all of us can get a lot out of it than we put in if realistic. And I have met people in real life including mid thirties female EEs. I have advantage of being in DMV, driving a cool car and being a great dancer. But also failed. I have yet to met female ER in person as I am not willing to travel far at this time or go to organized events. 

I would say don’t blame site or your location or your interests - something for everyone here - but ENJOY being rejected ghosted or even trolls. Then decide if you want to go extra mile or many. 

The part that puzzles me though is the Main Chat. Typically 20-30 people and same “hi” “how is everyone” then 2 people have public chat interests no one. It seems like high school again and I am not part of the cool crowds.

 I actually enjoy one regular that has same “I need a very hard spank” line begging for PM. He can't be reasoned with. He doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop... ever, until you are dead

This reminds me just to keep trying no matter the odds are against as others are succeeding. Female ERs reading this feel free to PM me. 

[littledemon]

19 hours ago, flompf said:

Dang, you've talked to 10 people?

Maybe a few more than 10 on here, maybe a hundred over years across platforms. I don't count casual chatting without any real intention or possibility to meet up though.

[Spanknutt]

On 1/10/2023 at 11:02 AM, SpankorBSpanked said:

One thing to keep in mind is that many of the individuals who frequent this site (and similar sites) have never actually been spanked, or may simply fantasize about being spanked or spanking someone.  Nothing wrong with that, but if you are looking for a real time experience (on either end of things) you might be disappointed.  

The "ghosting" usually takes place when the numerous chats you have had with an individual have taken things to the point where the next step would be to actually meet.  Even if that means for a cup of coffee.  However, once the fantasy starts to get closer to becoming "reality" is when people tend to put the brakes on.  

Others simply chose to roleplay here and cyber-spank.  Nothing wrong with that either I suppose . . .    

Agreed. And for the newbies, sometimes they are scared and you have to work with them gently for a long time to gain their trust. Sometimes, it's best to get to know them as people before talking too much about spanking.

[Skidball]

Thank you everyone for your support and commets.

[Angelgirl1]

I’m relatively new to this.   I’ve had a lot of people in my inbox, several say their willing to travel to my area meet.  But it seems after a couple of weeks of chatting, the newness wears off, the conversation slows, and then ultimately disappears.   It’s disappointing.  

[PaulWTV]

Horse racing and Lottery tickets are disappointing. But one of these days…plus can you accept being in your final decade looking back wishing you didn’t give up on TTWD so easily?

My advice is to be more open about your interests with people you can physically touch vs online. Who cares if someone thinks you are a odd? Maybe not be open about in office but that might actually encourage people to come in. Spanking is yawn to many people and pretty vanilla. 
 

Numbers game your not getting rejected enough. Recall Charlie’s “Winning”. We are warlocks with tiger blood. I need a bokken. 

[dmirk]

I’ve had decidedly mixed results.  
 

A few where we met up and actual spanking took place. A fair number of just chats, some of which were spankings not to be, and ghosted more than once for sure. 

It’s not ideal but it gets results at times. Yeah, I wish it was more times. 

[Adyguy6970]

I think part of the problem is that we're all spread out across the world and travel is easier for some than others.  For example, I'm based in the UK East Midlands which I suspect is under represented if anything, and I don't drive so rely on public transport.  Although I would love to tan the bottom of a lady or gentleman who thoroughly deserved it, I suspect the chances of it happening in reality are slender.  I can but try though.