Methods to control spankees rubbing their bottom during a a spanking

[REALTEARS]

hi just interested to know how do spankers stop spankees rubbing their bottom during a very hard spanking

i use a strict method stand them up and strap their hands hard then back over the knee to continue the haibrush spanking it works!

[Spankingmyhuby]

When I am administering a spanking to my husband ,he knows to keep his hands away flat on the floor. Rubbing is not permitted until he has spent time in the corner after the correction. 

The few times he has reached back in the past he has received a additional spanking of 10 minutes after corner time for his first correction.

It's definitely a deterrent after pleading and barely getting past his first spanking.He definitely doesn't want a return trip across my knee.

MS. L.

 

[Zhal]

I've never really had this issue. As for me, I'm not a rubber, not even after the whole spanking is over. I just let the pain of the spanking stand on its own. Currently, I don't use corner time, but I can see its effectiveness.

[MrBottoms]

"do you want this to ever stop? ........ get those hands away"  usually defines the moment. 

[anon227]

Spank the thighs until the spankee removes their hands, or pin the hands to the small of the small of the their back.

[Needing correction!]

Use a position which occupies the hands: 

Examples might be- 

Over a chair back grasping the seat 

Over a table graping the far edge 

Over a stool grasping a strut

 

 

 

 

 

 

[David!]

Never thought about rubbing my bottom while it's being paddled, but the urge to try and block the paddle is strong... which is why my wife pins my free hand to my back as soon as she gets me over her lap. The other arm is pretty well blocked from reaching back by my position on her lap, so I end up grabbing the back leg of her chair or pounding on the bed or upholstery, depending on her perch. Once she lets go of my other wrist I know she's finished, and I'm free to slide off her lap. Then I reach back and rub with both hands, kneeling while still stammering apologies for my behavior and trying to work myself up to choking out a thank you for the spanking she's just given me!

[SpankingBanker]

The threat of more spanks with a more severe implement for each time she reaches back.

I also have a couple of spanking benches with built in restraints for those who really cannot stay still.  It also positions your spankee very nicely.

[nicoleS39]

For more severe spankings, my husband uses restraints. The way in which he restrains my wrists and ankles depends on the type of punishment and implements he uses on me.

[Spank61]

15 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

The few times he has reached back in the past he has received a additional spanking of 10 minutes after corner time for his first correction.

Great that you are used to administer a 2nd spanking after corner time.

[Spankwhisperer]

I only spank over the knee.   A naughty girl reaching back is expected, so no additional punishment is threatened.  When she does reach back, I calmly scold her, ‘don’t interfere with your punishment Little Girl.’   Then I take her hand, interlock our fingers and hold our joined hands at her hip.  The spanking continues from there.   

[rubyredd]

If I reach back I would typically expect the Top to pin my hand up at my lower back or at my side - maybe smack my hand (if it is a handspanking) or give it a light-to-moderate swat with the implement. Some prefer to focus on the thighs as additional punishment - which is fine. Very rarely have I received specific & separate punishment to my hands for reaching back, but I am not opposed to it. 

[dre4mgirl]

if I reach back, my husband just grabs my hand and pins it at my lower back. He understands that it is a reaction to pain. He might swat my thighs a few times but that's about it. I wouldn't get an extra or more severe punishment for a genuine reaction. 

[REALTEARS]

Having asked this question maybe I am being too strict. By strapping their hands standing up in Then back of the knee for a hard hairbrush spanking

good advice in the answers 

thank you

[rubyredd]

3 hours ago, REALTEARS said:

Having asked this question maybe I am being too strict. By strapping their hands standing up in Then back of the knee for a hard hairbrush spanking

good advice in the answers 

thank you

Strictness is not always a bad thing. I feel like it would help refocus me if the spanking stopped because I was not behaving appropriately - and an alternate punishment was administered before resuming the spanking. It would only take a few with the strap to remind me not to reach back. 

Reaching back could be quite dangerous with a heavier implement or with one that could break the skin. Plus, if you already let your spankee that reaching back has consequences, then you should follow through with that. Just my take on it. 

It might not work for every spankee, of course.

[Laszlo]

I have been told that the fact that reaching back, kicking, and crying do not stop a spanking, with me, it makes the lack of need for control very appealing. The woman can let go and ride the spanking. 

Edited November 10, 2022 by Laszlo

[Laszlo]

I hold their wrist back while they are over my knee and continue the spanking. If the woman is bent over my kitchen table being given a paddling, I put my knee under her torso, hold her with one arm, and continue the paddling with the spanking arm. 

[badbackside]

I can't imagine trying to cover, certainly not rub my behind during a spanking. If I wanted it rubbed, I would beg the ER to do it in exchange for extra or longer punishment. If I were to try to protect or rub my backside in anyway, I would expect him to respond without mercy. If you are only using a hair brush, order the EE to fetch a paddle or strap and have the EE buy some baby oil for next time. If she/he tries to rub her bottom to get the sting out, you'll have to inflict even more. Tell them to get their hands of their butt immediately in your sternest voice, soak a wash cloth in baby oil or water and rub it all over their own rear until it is sopping wet with either the oil or the water and give them 15 to 20 extra stokes on their wet rear-end with the paddle or strap. Warn them that this is what will happen. I strive to push my backside into each punishing blow as a signal of my submission to my punishment. If I involuntarly grabbed my behind that would be one thing, though I'd expect to be punished, but rubbing your bottom. That would be like calling him a curse word instead of "Sir"

[Spanknutt]

On 11/10/2022 at 12:06 AM, nicoleS39 said:

For more severe spankings, my husband uses restraints. The way in which he restrains my wrists and ankles depends on the type of punishment and implements he uses on me.

I'm curious, do you have a way to get yourself free if something were to happen to him while you are restrained? I have always used a false tie, safety snap, etc. when doing restraints one-on-one. Something to think about.

[Submissive Danny]

My wife usually holds my hand behind my back while she's spanking me. If I were to reach back it means extra spankings.

[rubyredd]

On 11/10/2022 at 6:13 PM, Laszlo said:

I have been told that the fact that reaching back, kicking, and crying do not stop a spanking, with me, it makes the lack of need for control very appealing. The woman can let go and ride the spanking. 

Being able to just let go and react naturally is a powerful thing.

[Justin Jones]

On 11/10/2022 at 4:51 AM, rubyredd said:

If I reach back I would typically expect the Top to pin my hand up at my lower back

This is what I do, it also keeps her from squirming.  

[nicoleS39]

@Spanknutt....Thanks for the concern. I have discussed this with my husband as a result of your post. He is always nearby when he puts me in restraints...but...and never leaves me "unattended"...but....I get your point that...lets say he has a heart attack or aneurism or something...then I would be in big trouble. He is looking into some options. He is very healthy and fit, but...yes...the unexpected "can" happen. lol...just joking and not diminishing your legitimate point...but maybe a meteor hits him....lol. Lol...would just be my luck...lol.

[Longtimespanking]

32 minutes ago, nicoleS39 said:

@Spanknutt....Thanks for the concern. I have discussed this with my husband as a result of your post. He is always nearby when he puts me in restraints...but...and never leaves me "unattended"...but....I get your point that...lets say he has a heart attack or aneurism or something...then I would be in big trouble. He is looking into some options. He is very healthy and fit, but...yes...the unexpected "can" happen. lol...just joking and not diminishing your legitimate point...but maybe a meteor hits him....lol. Lol...would just be my luck...lol.

I've had exactly the same concern since I am quite a bit older than most of the women I spank regularly.  I have tested this and found it workable, using at least one wrist cuff which has a velcro type of closure seems to provide a means of releasing the restraint in the event it becomes necessary.  I believe that most women are strong enough to pull hard against the restraint cuff and force the velcro open, after having a few of them demonstrate it to me when I expressed my concerns, they were all able to get out of it within seconds.  There are, of course, also other possibilities which were mentioned previously that include intentionally leaving one restraint only partially tightened, or breakaway parts.  

One can never be too safe while using restraints, as the unexpected can certainly happen, and it's for the safety of the disciplinarian/spanker as much as it is for the submissive/spankee.  You would want your submissive able to release herself and provide assistance to you in case of an emergency! 

[danadares]

Bondage is quite unnerving to me. Too unpredictable. I would not engage in anything where I or my partner could not "escape" with just a little effort.