Misunderstood

[Potatobunny]

I feel I am the only person in the world who desires the need to be spanked and not in a sexual way by someone. Anytime anyone has ever tried they tried to make it sexual by just smacking then rubbing or they hit me waaaayyyy too hard and hurt my back. Another thing is once someone knows that what I desire from them they refuse and hold it over me to try to make me do things I don't want to do. I don't want sex or sexual contact from anyone. I have my reasons for it. I was abused as a child and one of the only things I ever desired was for a parent who would discipline me and let me be a child. I was made to carry adult responsibilities and have always had to be the person in charge and was never able to act out and be spanked or disciplined. My parents "didn't believe in spanking" but outright abuse was ok because " other kids get spanked  you don't" so to me it isn't sexual so much it feeds a part of me that as a child I needed to just be able to rely on an adult. As an adult myself I can't rely on other adults for anything because I won't have sex with them. I just want to find someone who can take an authority figure without making it into kinky sexual garbage. I also like to be tickled but people, again, want to make it sexual so I, as an adult, lack a lot of experiences I should have had that probably would make my life less stressful and me less anxious. If anyone in the Upstate Carolinas is interested in being my "parent figure" I'm down unless you are a creepy weird dude 😝

 

[michgal.k]

Hang in there newbie. The road to finding a match is often fraught with people looking to take advantage. I started out with a professional female spanker. Besides taking away the sexual component, because she was a pro, the sessions were tailored to my needs alone. Also, she was a wealth of information on safety and how to articulate your needs. I highly recommend trying this first. Good luck. 

 

K 

[DaChief]

Hi and welcome to the website. If you haven't already reviewed the Safety and Advice section, then please do. 

You aren't the only one who seeks this in a non-sexual capacity. But as with everything else, you'll have to weed out some creeps to find that. The guys who cruise these sites for a quickie are a dime per six-thousand. Stand your ground and you'll find what you're seeking. 

I'm a few hundred miles away from you, so all I can offer is advice, which is there anytime you want it. 

Best of luck in finding what you seek, and don't be afraid to ask the seasoned vets for help. 😉

[JennyOTK]

Hello and welcome 😊 

 

no, you aren’t alone in what you seek, but yes it’s a lot more difficult to find than other forms/dynamics of this thing we do. Unfortunately you’re going to get a whole lot of people who pretend to be what you’re looking for, only to twist it as you get to know each other, along with those who will inundate you with requests, but at least they’re upfront about it. Yes, it’s incredibly discouraging especially when you think you’re making progress with someone, but hang in there. It’s what I’m trying to do anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

good luck. I genuinely hope you find what you are seeking. 

[secretman]

Trust me, you're not the only girl who needs that.

Heck, you're not even the only girl I know personally in Spartanburg SC who needs that. 

You're at the right place though, there are a lot of people out there like you.

[David5]

On 10/10/2022 at 1:33 PM, Potatobunny said:

I feel I am the only person in the world who desires the need to be spanked and not in a sexual way by someone. Anytime anyone has ever tried they tried to make it sexual by just smacking then rubbing or they hit me waaaayyyy too hard and hurt my back. Another thing is once someone knows that what I desire from them they refuse and hold it over me to try to make me do things I don't want to do. I don't want sex or sexual contact from anyone. I have my reasons for it. I was abused as a child and one of the only things I ever desired was for a parent who would discipline me and let me be a child. I was made to carry adult responsibilities and have always had to be the person in charge and was never able to act out and be spanked or disciplined. My parents "didn't believe in spanking" but outright abuse was ok because " other kids get spanked  you don't" so to me it isn't sexual so much it feeds a part of me that as a child I needed to just be able to rely on an adult. As an adult myself I can't rely on other adults for anything because I won't have sex with them. I just want to find someone who can take an authority figure without making it into kinky sexual garbage. I also like to be tickled but people, again, want to make it sexual so I, as an adult, lack a lot of experiences I should have had that probably would make my life less stressful and me less anxious. If anyone in the Upstate Carolinas is interested in being my "parent figure" I'm down unless you are a creepy weird dude 😝

 

I feel the same way. When I'm giving a spanking I love discipline spankings the best. And it nothing sexual for me either. I think the actual spanking itself is my sex. But I do love spanking layers before I get to the bare behind. I live in about 30 minutes north of Charlotte and would be happy to chat with you.