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With your current partner,As a spanker why did you have to discipline your spankee ? Why did you as a spankee receive a first spanking ? I will answer after hopefully some responses. Maybe I need to write about this under writings. First spanking was quite memorable for me and my husband.                                       MS L.

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My husband and I are both lifelong spankos; he is a Top and I am a bottom. It is just a natural part of our relationship because spanking forms the basis of our sexuality. I received my first spanking from him because we both love spanking - not for discipline. We also both enjoy really long sessions with a variety of implements. Discipline is not his thing as he is more of a sexual sadist than a Disciplinarian. I was more into DD before we met, but I love our dynamic. 

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My partner has been spanking me for several years. It began when she gave me few playful swats one day and I dared her to put me across her knee. The spankings were purely erotic fun to begin with and mostly still are, but she sometimes spanks me as discipline. The first disciplinary spanking was the result of a disagreement about cooking. At the weekend we take it in turns to the cooking and it was my turn. She was hungry and wanted me to start preparing the midday meal, but I kept putting it off. We had a discussion that was beginnning to get heated when she said: "That's enough, bend over!" After a moment's hesitation, I decided that I had better obey her. I was wearing just a pair of underpants, she took the paddle from its hook on the bedroom wall and gave me a moderately hard spanking on the seat of my briefs. It was not as hard as some fun spankings she had given me, but it felt different somehow, because I was being disciplined. As soon as she was finished, I went to the kitchen to start cooking, with a slightly stinging bottom but with no more thoughts of having an argument.

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My wife accidentally saw some mild pornography I had on my home computer. 

At least that is the spanking I have always considered my first real spanking as an adult. Having made the discovery, my wife immediately declared I deserved to be punished. Being a spanko, I said she should spank me, knowing she had never been able to give me any sort of effective spanking, so this might be fun and I'd avoid any serious punishment. "That never works!" she said, aware that the several times previously that I had persuaded her to spank me for fun (with her hand, a plastic hairbrush, a plastic kitchen spoon), she felt awkward and embarrassed and I felt I hadn't really been spanked. 

As she stood there glaring, tapping her toe, and trying to think of a suitable punishment, I suggested several possible spanking implements to try and get her to spank me. When I suggested she use her rubber-soled slipper, she agreed "that might work" and went to the closet to get it. Still not worried that it might be painful, I suddenly realized it would make a loud slapping noise on my bare bottom that the neighbors might hear and recognize as a spanking, so I closed the bedroom window. The sash cord was broken, so the window was propped open with a piece of scrap wood about 18 inches long, an inch and half wide, and a quarter inch thick. As I eased the sash down, my wife came over, and discarding her slipper took the piece of scrap wood and smacked it against her palm. "That could really work!" she announced, and I suddenly realized I might get a really painful spanking! 

I tried to stammer some sort of protest, but my wife was motivated as never before, and had my pants down and me across her lap before I knew it, and began blistering my bare bottom. She demonstrated to her complete satisfaction and my tearful squirming distress that it really did work! Ever since, when she gets angry or frustrated with me, and thinks I deserve to be punished, she puts me over her knee and thoroughly paddles my bare bottom. 

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7 hours ago, David! said:

My wife accidentally saw some mild pornography I had on my home computer. 

At least that is the spanking I have always considered my first real spanking as an adult. Having made the discovery, my wife immediately declared I deserved to be punished. Being a spanko, I said she should spank me, knowing she had never been able to give me any sort of effective spanking, so this might be fun and I'd avoid any serious punishment. "That never works!" she said, aware that the several times previously that I had persuaded her to spank me for fun (with her hand, a plastic hairbrush, a plastic kitchen spoon), she felt awkward and embarrassed and I felt I hadn't really been spanked. 

As she stood there glaring, tapping her toe, and trying to think of a suitable punishment, I suggested several possible spanking implements to try and get her to spank me. When I suggested she use her rubber-soled slipper, she agreed "that might work" and went to the closet to get it. Still not worried that it might be painful, I suddenly realized it would make a loud slapping noise on my bare bottom that the neighbors might hear and recognize as a spanking, so I closed the bedroom window. The sash cord was broken, so the window was propped open with a piece of scrap wood about 18 inches long, an inch and half wide, and a quarter inch thick. As I eased the sash down, my wife came over, and discarding her slipper took the piece of scrap wood and smacked it against her palm. "That could really work!" she announced, and I suddenly realized I might get a really painful spanking! 

I tried to stammer some sort of protest, but my wife was motivated as never before, and had my pants down and me across her lap before I knew it, and began blistering my bare bottom. She demonstrated to her complete satisfaction and my tearful squirming distress that it really did work! Ever since, when she gets angry or frustrated with me, and thinks I deserve to be punished, she puts me over her knee and thoroughly paddles my bare bottom. 

Your wife and myself feel the same about pornography. Reading or looking at porn is something we won't tolerate. I monitor what my husband looks at even concerning spanking material. When were dating I made it clear not to hide reading material pornography ect. Doing so will result in a spanking.The piece of scrap wood was I am sure a painful lesson that you learned from your wife.                              Ms L 

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3 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

Your wife and myself feel the same about pornography. Reading or looking at porn is something we won't tolerate. I monitor what my husband looks at even concerning spanking material. When were dating I made it clear not to hide reading material pornography ect. Doing so will result in a spanking.The piece of scrap wood was I am sure a painful lesson that you learned from your wife.                              Ms L 

Ms.L.  I am curious why you and other women are so concerned about men looking at pornography? Why is this something that upsets you enough to dish out particularly severe spankings? All men are curious I'd like to look at other women. At least this keeps them misbehaving in other ways.  I wonder if this is something that is common with the ladies here on the site.

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1 hour ago, Spank_that_ass said:

Ms.L.  I am curious why you and other women are so concerned about men looking at pornography? Why is this something that upsets you enough to dish out particularly severe spankings? All men are curious I'd like to look at other women. At least this keeps them misbehaving in other ways.  I wonder if this is something that is common with the ladies here on the site.

This is what I thought before I got that spanking. My wife made it clear that she felt my looking at other women, even in pictures, was a criticism and an insult to her sexuality and ability to keep me satisfied. I certainly never had thought so, but once she said this I could see why she felt this way, and didn't argue when she said I should be punished. I ended up getting thoroughly punished by that spanking, which more than satisfied my spanking needs and afterward my sexual needs. I can't say I never looked at pornography again, but not for quite a while, and then rarely and very discreetly. I don't want to hurt my wife's feelings, and I would expect to be severely spanked if she caught me looking at pornography again.

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5 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

The piece of scrap wood was I am sure a painful lesson that you learned from your wife.                              Ms L 

Yes, it was a very painful paddling. There was another window with a broken sash cord and a similar prop in the dining room downstairs, and a few weeks later she dragged me by the wrist to get it, and then to the livingroom couch where my pants came down and I was taught another painful lesson. Soon there was another piece of scrap wood in the basement TV room, where there was a couch but no window! As long as we lived in that house, those three pieces of wood were regularly used to paddle me whenever I deserved it, and she never failed to make me really regret my bad behavior. By the time we moved I had replaced all the sash cords, but the props remained on the window sills, and one came with us when we moved!

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12 hours ago, Spank_that_ass said:

Ms.L.  I am curious why you and other women are so concerned about men looking at pornography? Why is this something that upsets you enough to dish out particularly severe spankings? All men are curious I'd like to look at other women. At least this keeps them misbehaving in other ways.  I wonder if this is something that is common with the ladies here on the site.

Well you are quite a bit more curious than my husband. First I have a set of rules for my husband who must obey . Pornography is one of them. I don't need to explain to my husband why he can't watch pornography. You made the statement that pornography keeps from misbehaving in other ways,that in it self is admitting quilt.My husband does not question my rules or is curious. If he did the only person that would be curious is me , curious as to how red his bottom would be when I am done spanking.                            MS L

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My recent ex maxed out one of my 10,000$ credit cards last year .  We have a large income gap and I wanted to keep the house functional while I was out of town on business . 

She was ashamed as she figured she could do everything herself. . 

 

Had a good talk with her at airport and explained why she needs to tell me when to pay ect .  Here nor there she got a good stern otk ass spanking ..

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On 7/17/2022 at 12:51 PM, underpants said:

My partner has been spanking me for several years. It began when she gave me few playful swats one day and I dared her to put me across her knee. The spankings were purely erotic fun to begin with and mostly still are, but she sometimes spanks me as discipline. The first disciplinary spanking was the result of a disagreement about cooking. At the weekend we take it in turns to the cooking and it was my turn. She was hungry and wanted me to start preparing the midday meal, but I kept putting it off. We had a discussion that was beginnning to get heated when she said: "That's enough, bend over!" After a moment's hesitation, I decided that I had better obey her. I was wearing just a pair of underpants, she took the paddle from its hook on the bedroom wall and gave me a moderately hard spanking on the seat of my briefs. It was not as hard as some fun spankings she had given me, but it felt different somehow, because I was being disciplined. As soon as she was finished, I went to the kitchen to start cooking, with a slightly stinging bottom but with no more thoughts of having an argument.

Very nice story underpants. Your wife has a hook on the bedroom wall with a paddle good for her .What is it about you husbands who procrastinate?      Ms L 

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Everyone I have spanked for discipline has requested to be spanked to help meet goals of some sort - weight management, quitting smoking, getting organized or whatever. I have never been the one to ask.

For other types of spankings, I may have asked or a spankee may have asked. Stress-relief, a game of chance, a birthday, masochism, or just for fun. There really doesn't have to be a reason for those who enjoy it.

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22 minutes ago, Spanknutt said:

Everyone I have spanked for discipline has requested to be spanked to help meet goals of some sort - weight management, quitting smoking, getting organized or whatever. I have never been the one to ask.

For other types of spankings, I may have asked or a spankee may have asked. Stress-relief, a game of chance, a birthday, masochism, or just for fun. There really doesn't have to be a reason for those who enjoy it.

I would assume your knowledge and experience of administering a spanking helped the spankees achieve their goals.Also you are correct when you say spankings can be for fun and I have given a few of those also.                          Ms L 

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Without counting any play or experimenting, with my first husband, or any "rabbit holes" we might have gone through, and just looking back to my first truly real punishment spanking as an adult, real in terms of sincerity and circumstances over intensity ... I would probably want to highlight the first and only punishment spanking I got from my very first disciplinarian in 2008...    Yes I had been spanked before, and more intensely, but this one probably felt the most "real" for me...

Struggling with PTSD and anxiety, he found out that I had turned to cutting...  while it was nothing extreme, and barely noticeable, it was still self-harm.  All of his prior punishments were non-spanking related, but on this occasion, I was to receive an actual one...  I had never seen him so stern, disappointed, upset and concerned... The moment I showed up at his door, I felt immediate guilt and shame, realizing the seriousness of what I had gotten myself into, and just how much I disappointed him, as he was a man I saw like a father figure or teacher, and I seriously looked up to him, he was the first one to ever take me in hand as an adult, and helped me learn how to function normally...  His care for me was absolutely genuine.

His wife was home, who was a nurse, and the first thing he did was look over the cut, and called her in to make sure it was okay and bandage it up for me, then sent her out of the room...    I was spanked otk, and then with a cane...   But I have to say, I was crying my eyes out before the spanking even started!  I don't even recall the spanking even hurting (He was a bit frail and had a lot of health problems) But I was crying my eyes out nonetheless, and he seriously had to hug and hold me a great deal afterward as I had apologized profusely...  

I made up my mind to never cut again, as I never wanted to see that expression of disappointment again, and he helped me work through those urges, and suggested things that I could do instead, fortunately he wasn't scared away by this issue I had....   The small scar had healed, and I never wanted to open it again and I always remember that...

I think that was probably the only punishment spanking I had received from him before he passed away, but it certainly was memorable, and probably what I consider the first "real" and genuine punishment spanking that I had...  

Most of what I had before then was just play and experimenting with my husband who knew I was interested in it... Though we did try DD later on..

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11 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

Well you are quite a bit more curious than my husband. First I have a set of rules for my husband who must obey . Pornography is one of them. I don't need to explain to my husband why he can't watch pornography. You made the statement that pornography keeps from misbehaving in other ways,that in it self is admitting quilt.My husband does not question my rules or is curious. If he did the only person that would be curious is me , curious as to how red his bottom would be when I am done spanking.                            MS L

Ms. L.,  I understand that this is one of the rules you have set for your husband and that you expect him to obey it.  I was just curious why you set this rule for him.  I wasn't aware that I was admitting guilt about this.   I do certainly understand based on other comments here that if he violates your rules his bottom will be glowing.   

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On 7/19/2022 at 4:05 AM, Spankingmyhuby said:

Very nice story underpants. Your wife has a hook on the bedroom wall with a paddle good for her .What is it about you husbands who procrastinate?      Ms L 

Having the paddle on the bedroom wall means that it is in easy reach, but visitors to the apartment don't see it of course. However we know a couple who keep a paddle on the wall in their kitchen, where visitors do sometimes see it. I am not sure how I would feel about this. It could be embarrassing but at the same time it might be liberating if people knew that my partner spanks me.

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My first adult spanking was from my husband, whom I was dating at the time. I had tried to seduce him into sex, but he was and still is very conservative about sex before marriage. It was my second attempt, and he totally surprised me by pulling me over his knee and smacking my bottom hard and fast and long. He did not even pull up my skirt, but it was the "spark" of my realization such was exactly what I needed...and more.

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My wife also will not tolerate my looking at porn. For her, my getting off to porn is no different than cheating. Any form of self pleasure is seen as a insult to her. She has caught me masturbating and it results in some of the most severe bare bottom spankings I've ever experienced.  

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8 minutes ago, NorCalMan said:

My wife also will not tolerate my looking at porn. For her, my getting off to porn is no different than cheating. Any form of self pleasure is seen as a insult to her. She has caught me masturbating and it results in some of the most severe bare bottom spankings I've ever experienced.  

Yes NorCalMan I feel the same as your wife. My husband knows better than hide reading porn. He would get a lengthy spanking and I would take away his privilege to watch sports on TV. We do read spanking material together and enjoy that. He told me about spanking needs and spanking is a part of our lives that we share.  I take that your wife does approve of spanking forums?         MS L.

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13 hours ago, Spankingmyhuby said:

Yes NorCalMan I feel the same as your wife. My husband knows better than hide reading porn. He would get a lengthy spanking and I would take away his privilege to watch sports on TV. We do read spanking material together and enjoy that. He told me about spanking needs and spanking is a part of our lives that we share.  I take that your wife does approve of spanking forums?         MS L.

Interesting that you and your husband enjoy reading spanking material together. My partner likes some spanking material, but she is very choosy and dislikes anything that is too sexual. For example, she very much likes a photo I found online of a fully-dressed woman sitting on a couch and spanking her husband, who is also fully dressed, across her knee. She also likes videos of domestic situations showing women disciplining their husbands, but she does not like anything suggestive of a dominatrix studio. I wonder if this is generally the case with women?

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3 hours ago, underpants said:

Interesting that you and your husband enjoy reading spanking material together. My partner likes some spanking material, but she is very choosy and dislikes anything that is too sexual. For example, she very much likes a photo I found online of a fully-dressed woman sitting on a couch and spanking her husband, who is also fully dressed, across her knee. She also likes videos of domestic situations showing women disciplining their husbands, but she does not like anything suggestive of a dominatrix studio. I wonder if this is generally the case with women?

Yes we also don't read anything sexual and have no interest in dominatrix style discipline. We look at spanking material that is more like our lifestyle (Wife lead marriage/ domestic discipline).                     MS L 

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I dunno—I think women are vastly different from each other and making a generalization is dangerous. Far better to get to know the woman as an individual.

(Sorry, I’m still figuring out how to use the board—the quote is below.) 

Personally, I love porn and my husband and I have used it to spark our own creativity, come up with new ideas, and work our way through our changing bodies and sex drives.
 

i write spanking erotica. Sometimes it has sex, sometimes it doesn’t. It’sa way for me to explore and learn. There are some forms of porn I absolutely avoid because they make me feel bad or spark shame about this kink we have.

But I’ve never objected to my husband watching pornography. It excites me.

That said? I don’t speak for women. I just speak for me.

 

On 7/26/2022 at 6:24 AM, underpants said:

Interesting that you and your husband enjoy reading spanking material together. My partner likes some spanking material, but she is very choosy and dislikes anything that is too sexual. For example, she very much likes a photo I found online of a fully-dressed woman sitting on a couch and spanking her husband, who is also fully dressed, across her knee. She also likes videos of domestic situations showing women disciplining their husbands, but she does not like anything suggestive of a dominatrix studio. I wonder if this is generally the case with women?

 

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