Female spankee wants to share experiences, talk, get advice (from both female spankees and male spankers)

[MarinaX]

Hello everyone, I'm new here but not new to spanking. I was hiding it for years and finally 3 years ago found myself a spanking partner (not a romantic relationship but a spanking + sex relationship). I do enjoy it,  I would prefer to have it on a more regular basis. Currently we meet 1-3 times a month. This is second person to ever spank me, first one was more about being dominant and less about spanking, it happened 3 times and I didn't like it.

 But I do have a need to talk about it, to share my experiences - with women who receive spankings AND men who give them. We can talk here or you can send me a message to my inbox. I am open to everything.

Just for a start, these are my preferences:

- spanking goes before and also during sex

- I like my bottom to get hot and red, but not blue or hurt

 I like longer spankings, not too strong

-bottom needs to be bare

- i like to be positioned over the table, couch or end of bed with my bare bottom high in the air

- I am comfortable with light anal play (figging included)

That would be all for now, looking forward to hear from others

[MarinaX]

I also like my partner to be strict, calm and a bit cold. I like to receive orders and obey them, I like being told I am about to get spanked and how. I like being told it’s a discipline or a punishemnt. I love being taken OTK. I like being spanked by a hand and belt. I like being slightly embarrassed by having to undress and assume the position. 

[MarinaX]

I also like the anticipation. My spanker texts me before coming to spank me and I am expected to wait for him bent over the table with my panties down and bare bottom up, and it really turns me on. 

[quietmandd22]

That all sounds yummy! Thanks for sharing.

[MarinaX]

4 minutes ago, quietmandd22 said:

That all sounds yummy! Thanks for sharing.

You’re welcome! I see you’re a male spanker… would you like to talk?

[quietmandd22]

Sure, How are things in Italy? I've always wanted to go, but I haven't made it across the Atlantic yet. I have some Italian ancestors and I love the food.

[MarinaX]

I haven’t been across Atlantic. so… Italy is great. you should come. And more traditional. Men are there men. How about you? Is it Italian blood that got you into spanking? What would you like to do to me?

[Child of Light]

Welcome to the site 

[spike]

Ciao Marina,

Come hai imparato a scrivere in modo succinto in Inglese? Are you native to Italy or an English-speaking transplant from American or elsewhere?

[Veronica Proctor]

I knew corporal punishment for real, during my young days. After a specific period, I did not know more about it, until I got married, with a man who put me back in that world, now in a different way. Everything you feel, is what the rest of spankees feel, approximately. In my case, I practice spanking through role-playing, which makes me go deeper into my role. We are several people for those games. The pain and humiliation are real. Sex is out of those games, although, after playing, the excitement makes a sexual release necessary.

[nicoleS39]

Hi...thank you for sharing. I am probably a bit on the "odd" side from others here regarding spanking. I need my husband to spank, punish, and train me very hard and I need to submit and be accountable to him in all aspects of our life together...15 years now.  Spanking does not drive our sexual relations, as the focus is on discipline, but we have what I feel is a very awesome and sexual relationship...as a by product...of the often harsh discipline, deep submission, and the benefits it has brought "us" since we have been together. I actually have a long and complicated story I will not rehash here...but if you are interested it is in my "about me" in my profile. I certainly do not advocate that the way we live this out is for "everybody"....maybe not anybody else actually...but I feel blessed and loved and fulfilled in how it works for us and keeps our love strong...and keeps us ever closer together.

[JayFoxx]

Hi Marina, thank you for sharing. As a spanker, I also don't like to bruise, just a nice long spanking. I don't want to be a Dom, Daddy or master, but I am authoritative. I understand spankees want different experiences, and it's important to discuss them openly before the relationship.

[MarinaX]

On 7/16/2022 at 8:19 PM, spike said:

Ciao Marina,

Come hai imparato a scrivere in modo succinto in Inglese? Are you native to Italy or an English-speaking transplant from American or elsewhere?

Hi, sorry but I'm not into giving too many details of my origin, backgroung or location. Hope you understand, Marina

[MarinaX]

17 hours ago, JayFoxx said:

Hi Marina, thank you for sharing. As a spanker, I also don't like to bruise, just a nice long spanking. I don't want to be a Dom, Daddy or master, but I am authoritative. I understand spankees want different experiences, and it's important to discuss them openly before the relationship.

Hi Jay, i agree about man not being a Dom / Daddy / Master... just their regular selves, but determined. Spanking needs to be non-negotiable. I need to be told what to do - and obey, whatever I'm told to. The very fact I'll be getting spanking, no matter what... is what is so thrilling to me.

[MarinaX]

On 7/16/2022 at 4:15 PM, Child of Light said:

Welcome to the site 

Thank you!!

[JayFoxx]

Marina, that expectation for the spanker is probably equally as thrilling, for me anyway.

 

[nicoleS39]

Marina....yes. I understand what you are talking about...with regard to your spanker  ot being your Dom or Daddy or Master...but "real" to who they are. My husband is like that for me...he is my husband ...who I submit and serve as his wife...not his daughter or slave. And yes...strong enough to tell me what I must do, yet trustworthy enough to want what is right and healthy for me...and fully able to tan my hind end and hold me accountable.

[MarinaX]

Thanks everyone for sharing... I was on holiday and just got back, excited to continue talking to people here!

[MrSpanko]

Hi Marina, 

My wife and I recently integrated spanking into our relationship. The spanking is a big turn-on for us both, so it usually ends with sex.
The bottom definitely needs to be bare, and throughout the spanking we get more and more undressed.
We both like long, strong spanking, but with a good build-up. I use the bare hand, wooden spoon, cane and the plastic spatula that my wife bought at the supermarket just for this purpose
We also tried the belt, but I don't like it. With the other instruments, I can be much more precize which makes me feel more in control of the redness/bruises I inflict. 
I try to limit the bruises as much as possible. Afterwards, I take care of her butt by using a lotion that reduces the bruises.
I prefer to have her over the knee, but I also make her stand and lie down in other positions.

[Christopherspankshard]

Nothing like a red painted bottom, that connection between the two involved. Is more intimate than most relationships. I hope you find someone to spank you often.

[MarinaX]

On 9/11/2022 at 1:22 PM, MrSpanko said:

Hi Marina, 

My wife and I recently integrated spanking into our relationship. The spanking is a big turn-on for us both, so it usually ends with sex.
The bottom definitely needs to be bare, and throughout the spanking we get more and more undressed.
We both like long, strong spanking, but with a good build-up. I use the bare hand, wooden spoon, cane and the plastic spatula that my wife bought at the supermarket just for this purpose
We also tried the belt, but I don't like it. With the other instruments, I can be much more precize which makes me feel more in control of the redness/bruises I inflict. 
I try to limit the bruises as much as possible. Afterwards, I take care of her butt by using a lotion that reduces the bruises.
I prefer to have her over the knee, but I also make her stand and lie down in other positions.

Hello, thanks for sharing! This is so exciting, being married to someone who has the same preferences. I'm a bit envious, as my spanking partner is not my romantic partner, so we only meet when we both have time - 2-3 times a month, if I'm lucky. Last time it was a week ago and I got the belt and riding crop. I prefer soft implements. I also don't like the pain to be too strong, as it kills my desire in the process.

[MarinaX]

On 10/12/2022 at 2:48 AM, Christopherspankshard said:

Nothing like a red painted bottom, that connection between the two involved. Is more intimate than most relationships. I hope you find someone to spank you often.

Hi, I do have a spanking partner I see 2-3 times a month. I'd prefer more, to be honest, at least 1-2 times a week.

[KentuckyGuy]

What a great post!

[TedHoldd]

Hi! Thanks for your sharing 🙂 I’m sure you’re an awesome spankee🤭 Your attitude towards dpsnking is really hot🥵. Thanks again!

[MarinaX]

On 10/20/2022 at 9:00 PM, TedHoldd said:

Hi! Thanks for your sharing 🙂 I’m sure you’re an awesome spankee🤭 Your attitude towards dpsnking is really hot🥵. Thanks again!

I'm happy you like it.