Wife spanking should be more common?

[Topspanker]

3 hours ago, rubyredd said:

I am gonna need you to share a video clip of this one.

I will find a clip of it and post it. There’s actually two.

[brittygirl]

2 hours ago, Topspanker said:

I will find a clip of it and post it. There’s actually two.

I’m pretty sure you’re misremembering this episode. The one on wife spanking with the wooden spoon was horrible and the guy is in jail for assaulting his wife in front of their children. She never agreed to spanking in their marriage and he used it on her as an intimidation tactic. He also abused their children and he saw NOTHING wrong at all with any of his actions. I’m also for SSC spanking in relationships, that was not a good example af all. Unless Dr Phil had two episodes about spanking.

[Topspanker]

On 8/15/2022 at 10:33 PM, brittygirl said:

I’m pretty sure you’re misremembering this episode. The one on wife spanking with the wooden spoon was horrible and the guy is in jail for assaulting his wife in front of their children. She never agreed to spanking in their marriage and he used it on her as an intimidation tactic. He also abused their children and he saw NOTHING wrong at all with any of his actions. I’m also for SSC spanking in relationships, that was not a good example af all. Unless Dr Phil had two episodes about spanking.

No, I said it correctly, this was a very new episode. Thats why i said there is two, it hasn't popped up online yet but have signed up for notifications when it does. DEFINETELY familiar with the one your talking about though, that guy was a wicked level abuser and horrible person.

Guys like him are literally the reason some people frown a great deal on TTWD, as well as accusing us of being mentally ill which is false. I know 3 female therapists here in my state that guess what. I don't believe being a spanko makes you mentally ill, neither do they. Hell, they are too. I've known doctors, lawyers, Lots of nurses, cops, reporters, all sane, productive people.

I have found most mental health professionals to actually be supportive of it, even if they disagree with it. I have never had an EE tell me that there therapist freaked out etc. Not saying it hasn't happened to someone somewhere, but I have yet to see it.

Critical thing is Consent, with that they are supportive, without it, well. 

[nicoleS39]

From Top Spanker...I have found most mental health professionals to actually be supportive of it, even if they disagree with it. I have never had an EE tell me that there therapist freaked out etc. Not saying it hasn't happened to someone somewhere, but I have yet to see it.

Critical thing is Consent, with that they are supportive, without it, well. 

As I have mentioned in some previous postings...I spent 3 years in prison. I was early released and spent 7 years on parole. So I had to regularly report to my parole officer and also participate in an assigned counselor...mostly about anger management issues and being a prostitute. 

One day my parole officer noted I seemed to be doing well...and he thought my marriage was the best thing ever to happen to me...which...yes...it was. He asked me why I thought I was doing so well...and I was honest with him. I told him my husband helped me find a real relationship with Jesus I never knew possible, loved me and treated me well...and frequently tanned my hide hard!  He just laughed...and he said...well...to each their own. He knew my past history, and I am sure he thought it was just I found a new sexual kink...that satisfied me.After that...every report into him in person...he would ask with a smile...well...still gettin' your ass spanked."...and I would say..."absolutely". He really had no idea the lifestyle and dynamic my husband I had...but I personally think the thought of me getting spanked was a turn on for him...lol.

In my counseling...kind of the same thing. She said...well...everybody id different....and "whatever you got going with your husband...is working  well for you guys I guess." I did not share the intensity of our dynamic with her fully...but she did know he took the belt to me. She asked me if that was OK with me...and I said..."yes."  
 

I would imagine she may have shared my story with somebody along the way. I saw her for 5 years...and no longer feel the need to see a professional counselor.

 

[Topspanker]

3 minutes ago, nicoleS39 said:

 

From Top Spanker...I have found most mental health professionals to actually be supportive of it, even if they disagree with it. I have never had an EE tell me that there therapist freaked out etc. Not saying it hasn't happened to someone somewhere, but I have yet to see it.

Critical thing is Consent, with that they are supportive, without it, well. 

As I have mentioned in some previous postings...I spent 3 years in prison. I was early released and spent 7 years on parole. So I had to regularly report to my parole officer and also participate in an assigned counselor...mostly about anger management issues and being a prostitute. 

One day my parole officer noted I seemed to be doing well...and he thought my marriage was the best thing ever to happen to me...which...yes...it was. He asked me why I thought I was doing so well...and I was honest with him. I told him my husband helped me find a real relationship with Jesus I never knew possible, loved me and treated me well...and frequently tanned my hide hard!  He just laughed...and he said...well...to each their own. He knew my past history, and I am sure he thought it was just I found a new sexual kink...that satisfied me.After that...every report into him in person...he would ask with a smile...well...still gettin' your ass spanked."...and I would say..."absolutely". He really had no idea the lifestyle and dynamic my husband I had...but I personally think the thought of me getting spanked was a turn on for him...lol.

In my counseling...kind of the same thing. She said...well...everybody id different....and "whatever you got going with your husband...is working  well for you guys I guess." I did not share the intensity of our dynamic with her fully...but she did know he took the belt to me. She asked me if that was OK with me...and I said..."yes."  
 

I would imagine she may have shared my story with somebody along the way. I saw her for 5 years...and no longer feel the need to see a professional counselor.

 

Exactly. Point is as long as there is consent between both parties, most people just kind of shrug it off. Some don't know how to react, others get turned on by it, others turned off by it, list could go on. Consent is key word. Glad it works for you, one thing I have learned is most ee's legitimately need it, just as bad as they want it. Its literally part of there Physics. Muggles (Vanilla folks) will never fully understand that. I know I'm going to get some heat for this statement, but most women, are in fact turned on by the idea of there partner spanking them. Acting on it and thinking about are two different things though.

[nicoleS39]

Topspanker...yes...I am not sure "most" women are turned on by the thought of their partner spanking them...but I "do" think many more would be then we realize. I think we would be surprised now big the percentage would be. But...as you say...those"turned on"....or actually "wanting" that....and those actually willing to allow that in their real life...are two entirely different things. While "maybe" 80 percent are liking the "thought"...probably a very much less percentage would probably accept the opportunity if it came their way. I dunno...maybe 4 percent of the 80 percent who "like" the thought.

I dunno...just rambling. All conjecture of course....

[amberthedragon]

That's bullshit. Only if the woman wants it.

[AbleHanded]

On 9/3/2022 at 1:12 PM, amberthedragon said:

That's bullshit. Only if the woman wants it.

I couldn’t agree more. 

[NewTimmims]

Other way around!

[danadares]

On 9/24/2021 at 7:27 PM, jelena53 said:

"I do strongly believe that men should spank their wives and that ought to be the norm, not the exception as it is today."

 

Ideally, the number of men who spank their wives should be exactly the same number as wives who want to be spanked by their husbands. I have no idea how many that is, and have no opinion of what it should be.

[sunshine19830]

I’m an unmarried Christian woman. I firmly believe that only one person can ‘wear the pants’ in the family, and that person also holds the belt. That said, it’s not a dictatorship. We would be a couple, making decisions that affect our family together, but if it absolutely came down to it, he has final say. We work together for our family, but I answer to him and God. That’s my opinion. 

[MaryJo1996]

This is just misogynistic bullshit. Any man who thinks this is a danger to women, and any woman who thinks this is in need of serious psychological help.

[MrBottoms]

On 11/1/2022 at 8:13 PM, sunshine19830 said:

I’m an unmarried Christian woman. I firmly believe that only one person can ‘wear the pants’ in the family, and that person also holds the belt. That said, it’s not a dictatorship. We would be a couple, making decisions that affect our family together, but if it absolutely came down to it, he has final say. We work together for our family, but I answer to him and God. That’s my opinion. 

"One is to serve the Other", which is biblical. Not merely opinion.

[MrSpanko]

I'm a male spanker who spanks his wife regularly, but I strongly disagree. It's up to the couple if they want spanking in their relationship and who gets spanked.

[SunnySideUp83]

Unmarried Christian women, and absolutely. For one, I think this would lower divorce rates if you both went in knowing what to expect. And all it comes down to is respecting each other. You can have disagreements, but what he says goes. 

[BansheeGal]

On 11/24/2022 at 2:26 PM, MrBottoms said:

"One is to serve the Other", which is biblical. Not merely opinion.

That's not in the Bible.

In case anyone sees this and thinks so, this is not a quote from scripture. Closest thing to it is in 1 Peter and it has to do with using your spiritual gifts to serve each other in the church.

What you WILL find in scripture however, in the book of Ephesians specifically, is that wives are to reverence their husbands, husbands are to love their wives and both are to submit to each other. 

[BansheeGal]

On 11/15/2021 at 2:01 AM, BansheeGal said:

Strongly disagree. I think it comes from a very patriarchal worldview to say that it should be the norm and gender specific. If they applied it both ways, I could maybe get behind that but as soon as you start putting one gender in a position of authority over the other across the board, you're implying that one is more mature/more capable than the other instead of viewing everyone as equals. It essentially turns women into daughters with benefits. 

If I get married, I won't get spankings because I am a wife. I'll get spankings because I broke a rule that we agreed on and am taking the punishment that we agreed on. Him administering the punishment is an act of service to me, not an exercise of authority.

Adding to what I said a year ago, because I am always learning and growing and having more thoughts, I no longer think that egalitarian spanking is necessary for true equality. Mainly because I really don't want to be giving any spankings and I think I can find a man who doesn't need them, and we would be well matched because I do. We can be equal and have different needs, different strengths and weaknesses.

I want him to have the authority to punish me, real authority and real punishment that I will dislike. But he won't have that authority because he's my husband or because he's a man. He'll have it because I have freely given him that authority and we've discussed the parameters that I'm comfortable with. 

I want to not have a choice as to whether I get a spanking or not...but I have to consent to not having a choice. I like him commanding me and setting rules for me...because I have consented to allowing him to do that. But I won't ever give up my autonomy and I will spend my life fighting for every woman's right to withhold consent, vanilla or spanko.

Some people need to watch the Handmaid's Tale and see where the idea of women submitting and men dominating without consent ultimately leads. And if you're a man and you're watching the show thinking it's a great idea, just wait 'til the end of season 1 and then we'll see how you feel about it.

[MrBottoms]

On 12/22/2022 at 11:11 AM, BansheeGal said:

That's not in the Bible.

In case anyone sees this and thinks so, this is not a quote from scripture. Closest thing to it is in 1 Peter and it has to do with using your spiritual gifts to serve each other in the church.

What you WILL find in scripture however, in the book of Ephesians specifically, is that wives are to reverence their husbands, husbands are to love their wives and both are to submit to each other. 

Well, yes it is. Ephesians 5:21., just prior to your specific Ephesians reference. I merely substituted "serve" for "submit", which I equate the two as a relative interpretation.

[BansheeGal]

21 minutes ago, MrBottoms said:

Well, yes it is. Ephesians 5:21., just prior to your specific Ephesians reference. I merely substituted "serve" for "submit", which I equate the two as a relative interpretation.

Which reads, "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."

[nicoleS39]

On 12/22/2022 at 12:26 PM, BansheeGal said:

I want to not have a choice as to whether I get a spanking or not...but I have to consent to not having a choice. I like him commanding me and setting rules for me...because I have consented to allowing him to do that. But I won't ever give up my autonomy and I will spend my life fighting for every woman's right to withhold consent, vanilla or spanko.

Well said....🙂🙂