Spankees Embarrassment

[Spankingmyhuby]

Question: Spankees what is more embarrassing ? The fact that you are spanked in a mostly vanilla society does make your spanking a little embarrassing. What is worse someone from your own sex knowing that you are spanked or someone of the opposite sex knowing your are spanked? Take into account that we are talking about people knowing who are vanilla. My closer girlfriends know I spank my husband but none of his friends are aware of his discipline.         Ms L

[PET5]

Most embarrassing one for me involved witnesses 

[DadsBelt]

None of my male friends know that I get spankings, and I think if they found out that would be much more embarrassing. I've had a couple of close calls though at the gym when my ass was still recovering from a spanking, and another guy saw it in the showers - had to make some quick excuses. My ex however spanked me in front of her girlfriend before though, and that was also incredibly mortifying (but I think, secretly very exciting too). 

[indisgrace]

I think it would embarrass me if any of my friends knew ... but especially the guys. Despite being a straight male, I suffer from and don't much like macho culture either ... #fuckthepatriarchy

[Spanknutt]

I'm not a spankee, although occasionally I will switch it up with the right person. I would die if any of my male friends knew. Female friends would probably think it is hot (just a guess). 

[selfsp12]

This forum not withstanding, only two people know of my interest in being spanked. My wife know I'd like to be spanked, when ever I try to talk about it with her I find it embarrassing. She does not know that I self spank. There is a part of me that wants her to know, and a part that i think would be mortified. My therapist knows I self spank, which we've talked about quite a bit. I had decided before finding someone that I would tell them about this part of me. I specifically choose a women therapist as I thought that would be less embarrassing and less judgey then another male. Embarrassing yes, but it was easier ti talk about once I got that white elephant settled (so to speak).   Judgey she was not, but I still have trouble using the word 'spanking'. I say a session or my unique form of meditation. I'm working on being able to use the spanking word more freely.

[Bobbyt42]

I think anyone not of a like mind on the subject knowing about this side of me would be a true disaster..I wither and die when I consider how they might chat about it behind my back...horrors.

 

 

[selfsp12]

2 hours ago, Bobbyt42 said:

I think anyone not of a like mind on the subject knowing about this side of me would be a true disaster..I wither and die when I consider how they might chat about it behind my back...horrors.

 

 

Very good point, and something to keep in mind. Once it is out, you cannot control where it goes. 

[Rand E]

It's hard for me to relate to this, given the cooperative DD arrangement I have with my wife.  None of our family, friends, or acquaintances know about our DD relationship.  We also follow strict rules that our DD relationship is confidential, so the idea that we would ever embarrass one another in some non-private settings, or discuss it with others without mutual consent, is completely out of the question.  In fact, this confidentiality and mutual respect requirement is a cardinal DD rule itself, and if either of us were to break that rule, it would be all hell to pay.

[SpudStateSpanky]

This part of my life is kept in absolute secrecy.  Only my disciplinarian knows, and well, members here.  If my guy friends found out, I could never face them again.  Though I think it would be more acceptable to women, I don’t even want the women I know, knowing.

[Zhal]

Sometimes when I think about it for more than a passing couple seconds, it's thinking about my age combined with the fact that I still need spankings. Thinking things like "I'm in my 40s, and I still need to be spanked?" Several of my friends do know I get spanked, but they're OK with it. These friends are mostly female, though guy friends know too.

[Busted4fun]

On 6/17/2021 at 3:36 PM, Spankingmyhuby said:

Question: Spankees what is more embarrassing ? The fact that you are spanked in a mostly vanilla society does make your spanking a little embarrassing. What is worse someone from your own sex knowing that you are spanked or someone of the opposite sex knowing your are spanked? Take into account that we are talking about people knowing who are vanilla. My closer girlfriends know I spank my husband but none of his friends are aware of his discipline.         Ms L

Aside from my wife who is the ER, only a couple of long gone ex girlfriends know of my spanking interests. My wife and I agree that spanking stays between us, and does not get discussed with any of our friends. If it were to leak out amongst our friends, I would describe it as more uncomfortable than embarrassing. Embarrassment comes during the session with various parts of the submission. 

[David!]

We all seem to agree that other spankos knowing we get spanked is not a problem, but we don't want vanilla friends or even strangers to know we get spanked. The question is which is worse, someone of our own sex finding out or the opposite sex. I tend to believe that most vanilla women would approve or at least accept that my wife should be able to spank me if I really deserve it, even if they find it weird or embarrassing. I think many vanilla men would disapprove and think I am a creep for letting her spank me, even knowing I really deserve it. So another male finding out is much worse!

[StrictGent]

I have told a couple of vanilla friends, all women, and they have been fascinated. I wish we could tell all our friends and normalize spanking, I really do. 

[OhRedhead]

I think my vanilla female friends knowing I am spanked would be very difficult. Discretion is important to me.

[Redwombutt]

I'm old enough to have been embarrassed more times than I can remember, so one more embarrassment doesn't matter. What's the difference between getting your bottom spanked by your wife or getting pulled up for a traffic offence by the police. Both are embarrassing, so live and learn. I still dread the day that my wife gets out the paddle when family are about, but that's why I behave myself when visiting or having visitors. This is how spanking is effective.

[David!]

My wife would usually wait until family or visitors went home to get out her paddle, although once when family were staying with us it suddenly turned out there was an errand we had to take care of together. She had her hairbrush in her purse, and when we got back I managed to rush to our bedroom without seeing anyone. I remember lying face down on the bed nursing my sore bottom, and listening to voices throughout the house, very embarrassed that someone might realize I'd just been spanked in the car. She told them I felt ill, and I said it was something I ate when I was fit to rejoin them, so I don't think anyone guessed. But I'm still on my best behavior around visitors because I don't want to be paddled, even in private. Spanking is definitely effective! 

[Bogey]

My wife and I have enjoyed spanking and being spanked by others several times in our lives. Never any embarrassment. Just fun