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What is the situation with munches and spanking parties? I am currently serious about finding a spanking partner. I feel as if I have exhausted my possibilities on finding a partner through the net. A lot of people have referred me to go to fetlife and find varying spanking events. Is this a good option? What are people's experiences with them? How do they work? What is the age demographic? I never wanted to engage in this previously because my anonymity is very important to me. I dont like meeting anyone in this area of my life unless I have had the time to look them over. It feels risky in my opinion, maybe im paranoid. Because unless anyone knows any other ways to meet a spanking partner online, I feel as this is my only other option. 

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I'm on fet and my hubns and I have gone to a couple of munches.  I only really just got into spanking in January2020 amd then covid hit lol so we didn't make it out to many events. Munches are.fine.  You don't have to talk about Your specific thing, you can keep it very vanilla.  If you have a very sensitive job though, it can be dicey.   But the only way to get vetted for spanking events or other people is to have actually met other people.who can vouch for you.  

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16 hours ago, Megthe said:

I'm on fet and my hubns and I have gone to a couple of munches.  I only really just got into spanking in January2020 amd then covid hit lol so we didn't make it out to many events. Munches are.fine.  You don't have to talk about Your specific thing, you can keep it very vanilla.  If you have a very sensitive job though, it can be dicey.   But the only way to get vetted for spanking events or other people is to have actually met other people.who can vouch for you.  

How useful is fetlife as a source?

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For events very useful.  You can search by city and they come up by date.  With Covid there aren't many in person events going on right now but there are still quite a few virtual ones happening in my area

Just be warned, it is a bombardment of nudity in all forms.  

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Fetlife is great for event listing and the people profiles are extensive and most people do complete them (people here could learn a lesson!)

It's not so good for finding people to play with as it's not set up as a dating site.

Once you get over that bit it can be good as a well written email can have impact as it's not competing as one of hundreds like on dating sites.

 

 

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Up until February, we had spanking parties every month at a Dallas hotel.  We have not had one since.  The big Texas All-State party was scheduled to start tomorrow but was cancelled for 2020.  I am thinking there will not be another until a Covid vaccine comes out.  Fetlife has the information needed for the spanking parties and who plans on attending.  I would recommend joining but I doubt you need to be in a hurry.  

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Do you want a romantic long-term partner or do you just want a spanking relationship short term? I think that will change the best strategy a great deal.

I’m certainly no expert on this but I have met people online. They have started this as conversations because I am extremely cautious.
as far as longer-term relationships go, I have been fortunate in making friends with people and explaining my spanking issues before we became romantically involved.
This took time but it works. I’m confident I could do it again. The people that I have become friends with first have been open to experimenting  and like receiving some like receiving some and are willing to give me serious spankings.  We talked about this at some length before I let things get too far down the road.
I am much, much older than you are so I don’t know how it works at your age. But I will tell you that there is no way I would ever go to a spanking gathering because of my personality and because the sort of work that I do. It could have caused me an enormous  problem Had this gotten out at an early stage in my career. Any kind of reputation like this, even attending as an observer, would absolutely kill my ability to do some of my work.  It wouldn’t matter now, but I still wouldn’t go to one of these events, because I don’t like crowds. I also seriously doubt I would find someone that’s a spanker first that fit the other things that matter to me.   to me, just for me, the relationship has to come first and they have to be somebody I want to be close to before I would spank them or be spanked by them. Many people are different, this is just me.
I have heard that you can put spanking into Tinder and find people. I can’t imagine you could do it on Facebook.
I apologize for the length of this reply. I think if you’re just looking for a spanking hook up, it’s pretty easy. But, what I think you’re asking for is a serious relationship. And at least for me, the relationship needs to start before I introduce spanking and I have been successful in doing it.

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17 hours ago, JonTx said:

Do you want a romantic long-term partner or do you just want a spanking relationship short term? I think that will change the best strategy a great deal.

I’m certainly no expert on this but I have met people online. They have started this as conversations because I am extremely cautious.
as far as longer-term relationships go, I have been fortunate in making friends with people and explaining my spanking issues before we became romantically involved.
This took time but it works. I’m confident I could do it again. The people that I have become friends with first have been open to experimenting  and like receiving some like receiving some and are willing to give me serious spankings.  We talked about this at some length before I let things get too far down the road.
I am much, much older than you are so I don’t know how it works at your age. But I will tell you that there is no way I would ever go to a spanking gathering because of my personality and because the sort of work that I do. It could have caused me an enormous  problem Had this gotten out at an early stage in my career. Any kind of reputation like this, even attending as an observer, would absolutely kill my ability to do some of my work.  It wouldn’t matter now, but I still wouldn’t go to one of these events, because I don’t like crowds. I also seriously doubt I would find someone that’s a spanker first that fit the other things that matter to me.   to me, just for me, the relationship has to come first and they have to be somebody I want to be close to before I would spank them or be spanked by them. Many people are different, this is just me.
I have heard that you can put spanking into Tinder and find people. I can’t imagine you could do it on Facebook.
I apologize for the length of this reply. I think if you’re just looking for a spanking hook up, it’s pretty easy. But, what I think you’re asking for is a serious relationship. And at least for me, the relationship needs to start before I introduce spanking and I have been successful in doing it.

No, I am not looking for a long term partner. If some feeling were to develop we would cross that bridge if/when it happens. Defiantly not my intent.

Now tinder and other dating sites. Yes, I have "heard" you can do that. But I have yet to see a success story. Tinder is awful. It is hard enough to get basic conversation let alone anything specific. If you are average or less in looks, then completely forget about it. Because even if you are above average or a super model it is hard as a guy. Now if you are willing to put money down on some of the paid benefits, you might maybe see an increase in matches. But unless you are gay or a girl I wouldnt even think about it. Just the blunt truth. 

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21 hours ago, Megthe said:

For events very useful.  You can search by city and they come up by date.  With Covid there aren't many in person events going on right now but there are still quite a few virtual ones happening in my area

Just be warned, it is a bombardment of nudity in all forms.  

"it is a bombardment of nudity in all forms."

Now I am not faint of heart or anything and I am no puritan as well. But this is one of the top reasons I have avoided even looking in fetlife's direction. I do not like using websites that run like pornsites. Makes me feel sleazy. That's the reason why my only real presence in the "spanking world" is here. There's just more class.

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7 hours ago, Rook said:

girl I wouldnt even think about it.

As I said, I don’t know anything about it. I wish you the best of luck in finding someone

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