Is spanking inherently a form of ageplay?

[secretman]

I was having this discussion earlier and I wasn't sure if I could really come to a conclusion. 

On the one hand, it is clearly inherently treating someone in a childish kind of way, but on the other hand there's a lot of different kind of mindsets people approach the interest with. 

What are your thoughts? 

[otkpantsdown 49]

My thoughts are for me it usually involves age play. I have know I am a spanko since I was five years old. My perfect age to be spanked is 12. Thats the age I accidentally saw a friend my age being given a severe bare oak spanking with a paddle. That week I asked my mother to spank ME like that, she refused. When I am spanked I revert to the naughty 12 year old I was.When I do the spanking it is what ever my spankee NEEDS.

I MUST STATE HERE IN NO  TERMS THAT CAN BE MISUNDERSTOOD: I DO NOT SPANK OR WANT TO SPANK OR TALK ABOUT SPANKING OR SEE PICTURES OF ANYONE UNDER THE AGE OF 21 

If you have such pictures and want to show them to me come over. I live very close to the police station and we will go show them also.

[Amethyst_Moon]

I don't think so. It can with some people, but I don't think it's inherently that way no matter what. Some people, like me, were never spanked as a child and didn't know anyone who was (or if I did, they definitely never mentioned it). I was mildly aware of the fact that the occasional paddling happened at my schools growing up, spending most of my school years living in the south. But it wasn't talked about much, so it was never really on my radar at all. Spanking wasn't something I personally experienced, or that I was very aware of, in the world around me.

Almost all of my knowledge and experience with spanking is as an adult, so I don't really connect it to childhood discipline. For me, I naturally see it as an adult activity, so I feel like a grown adult when engaging. Because I don't really have any childhood connection to spanking, age play, or just naturally feeling childish when spanked, just is not a natural part of it for me at all. If anything, I almost feel more "adult-like" when engaging in what I personally know as an adult activity.

[ukspanko]

It's an interesting point for me. I was spanked growing up and at the time ( early to mid 80s ) in the UK it was certainly still around but maybe not as much as it had been for previous generations. My adult spanko adventures have certainly been influenced by some of what I experienced but not entirely. I think I'm on the receiving end I feel safer going into a naughty boy headspace but if I'm doing the spanking it tends to be purely for pleasure. I can't 100 % say but I do feel I was hardwired this way and even if I hadn't had my childhood experiences I'd still be this way.

[Lita]

       For a lot. Me and my Partner most definitely. I was ignored and got by because of Family money and looks (plastic surgery at 15-not major but unessacary. 3 procedures by 17 and an eating disorder) with an Alpha Overachiever who was pressured into being THE BEST. I can't put it right and I'm better than I was. My S.O. who has a well off Family has and is excelling but forsook big money and notoriety to work with the Losers (like me) who because of abuse,poverty,and other things beyond their control fall through cracks or get exploited. Her Family weren't so happy but now-especially during the pandemic-is very respected. 

    Sorry for going a long way to say that I was raised to be a pretty teenager for life while they were fully grown at 16. We are the same age and younger than most here and for looks we are each others type. The ageplay just started happening and was went with. Other relationships it was there too. 

        One thing is that our friends get along but there's a noticeable difference. One time a couple of my friends and a couple of hers were all over but not really together and one of them said "Why do I feel like a fucking babysitter right now?-Because we are would YOU leave them unsupervised right now?" It was a joke but me and another got embarrassed. My other friend is more like the "older" ones and laughed. I remember it being a nice night. We all fell asleep on the sectional couch. 

        Anyway I may fall on the extreme end of things but for a lot of people it's Ageplay because of working through trauma and being different. 

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[JoKitten]

It's wrapped in with it as a part of the life and overall context I lived in that era that I find actually comforting although like C.O.L. I wouldn't say it's inherently so, like you have to be more in tune with being 'Little' to get the sort of connection some of us have to the entire business of being treated "younger than our years" which would take in non c.p. discipline such as being sent early to bed, lines and so on too.

Some of us really like nay appreciate being cared for people who provide much of the structure including rules to keep us healthy and good that we had back then.

[dutchbrat]

I'm a spankee/sub but for me age play doesn't play any role in this beautiful life style. I don't feel like a child when I'm spanked/disciplined at all. As an adult I do have the choice to receive discipline, kids don't, so I'm not pro spanking of children/teens, that's also why I could never feel a spanking as a form of age play, because it's against my values and principles. To enjoy a good spanking I really don't need it to act as if I were a little Of course I say this with all the respect for all that DO love this type of D/s. No judgement here, just describing the way it is for me.

[secretman]

On 5/24/2020 at 4:44 PM, Child of Light said:

Maybe age regression for some, but I don't think it's inherently a form of age play. 

How is "age regression" not a form of "age play"? 

 

 

[BenjaminBoy]

On Wednesday, June 03, 2020 at 2:50 PM, Child of Light said:

For some I think it could be age regression/ age play, I don't think it's inherently that though. 

For me, I revert to the age when my needs were set.

[KentuckyGuy]

It is my preference but I do not think it is inherent.

[Christy]

I think there is some inheritance involve for some of us.   I know folks who have discover relatives at party's or online. 

[BenjaminBoy]

Funny, but perhaps not addressing what is somewhat of a serious question. 

[BenjaminBoy]

On Monday, May 25, 2020 at 12:42 PM, dutchbrat said:

I'm a spankee/sub but for me age play doesn't play any role in this beautiful life style. I don't feel like a child when I'm spanked/disciplined at all. As an adult I do have the choice to receive discipline, kids don't, so I'm not pro spanking of children/teens, that's also why I could never feel a spanking as a form of age play, because it's against my values and principles. To enjoy a good spanking I really don't need it to act as if I were a little Of course I say this with all the respect for all that DO love this type of D/s. No judgement here, just describing the way it is for me.

Needing to relate to our younger years has nothing to do with other children. It is to do with the individual and their past influences.  For some it is essential and happens naturally in a punishment situation. 

[BenjaminBoy]

On Monday, May 25, 2020 at 7:32 AM, JoKitten said:

It's wrapped in with it as a part of the life and overall context I lived in that era that I find actually comforting although like C.O.L. I wouldn't say it's inherently so, like you have to be more in tune with being 'Little' to get the sort of connection some of us have to the entire business of being treated "younger than our years" which would take in non c.p. discipline such as being sent early to bed, lines and so on too.

Some of us really like nay appreciate being cared for people who provide much of the structure including rules to keep us healthy and good that we had back then.

I totally agree and understand. My discipline and punishment needs stem not only from a 'born with' mindset but are also influenced and coloured by childhood and teenage experience. 

My needs are set in mid teenage years as a schoolboy but my punisher has to be caring, authoritative in a calm and quiet way and has to cane me HARD for my own good.  It has to hurt or is meaningless. 

I also get corner time and lines as part of the whole equation. 

[SearcherForWisdom]

I would say no. Not for me. If i wish to get spanked then as a 41 years old male that i am.

 

 

[BenjaminBoy]

On 8/18/2020 at 9:14 PM, SearcherForWisdom said:

I would say no. Not for me. If i wish to get spanked then as a 41 years old male that i am.

 

 

That is of course perfectly normal. 

We are all different in our needs and mindset and there should be respect and understanding for all variations. 

[thatsmolasb]

On 8/17/2020 at 4:44 AM, BenjaminBoy said:

I totally agree and understand. My discipline and punishment needs stem not only from a 'born with' mindset but are also influenced and coloured by childhood and teenage experience. 

My needs are set in mid teenage years as a schoolboy but my punisher has to be caring, authoritative in a calm and quiet way and has to cane me HARD for my own good.  It has to hurt or is meaningless. 

I also get corner time and lines as part of the whole equation. 

I can easily relate to that.

[hungsmall]

On 5/24/2020 at 2:44 PM, Child of Light said:

Maybe age regression for some, but I don't think it's inherently a form of age play. 

i agree! for me, spanking has an element of age regression. But i know from talking to others that spanking in their adult age can have no element of age play whatsoever.