Alternative Punishments

[lolathorn]

I know spankings are a good punishment, but I was wondering if anyone had any knowledge on some other good ones to use with or instead of. I know a lot of people use corner time 

[momma_s_boy]

Depending on physical limitations.:

push-ups...  sit-ups...   walk in place...  

these don't work for me since my stroke...

 

[Jaded]

Losing privileges (electronics etc).  Writing an essay.   Going to bed early.  It’s best to come up with a suitable punishment that fits the offense, so hopefully it works. 

[Chastener]

Cornertime is excellent if done properly.  That is, with the disciplinee naked, nose in the corner, hands on head, and absolutely silent for the assigned time.  I slightly disagree with Jaded --probably for the first time since I've been on here-- in that writing lines is more productive than writing an essay:  "The spanking I received was for my own good," or something like it, written perhaps 100 times is better than a woman's expressing her literary talents in an essay, even one about her offense.

[Jaded]

1 hour ago, Chastener said:

Cornertime is excellent if done properly.  That is, with the disciplinee naked, nose in the corner, hands on head, and absolutely silent for the assigned time.  I slightly disagree with Jaded --probably for the first time since I've been on here-- in that writing lines is more productive than writing an essay:  "The spanking I received was for my own good," or something like it, written perhaps 100 times is better than a woman's expressing her literary talents in an essay, even one about her offense.

I am not 100 percent against writing lines. Lines do have the repetition, so the person rethinks the behavior.  Over time, I saw essays were more beneficial.  For example, writing a 500 word essay about the dangers of texting and driving (providing statistics and actual facts of accident/death info) may teach someone more than writing “I will not text and drive “1000 times.   Everyone learns differently, so that has to be kept in mind also.  On a side note, I have used corner time a lot, but see no need that the person must be completely naked in the corner, unless it’s erotic spanking.  Just my opinion.  

[MrBottoms]

13 hours ago, Jaded said:

   Everyone learns differently, so that has to be kept in mind also. 

I try to structure a punishment to fit the individual or the issue, or both. I have imposed written essays or book reports or verbal/written exams which I evaluate (grade) Or some "memorize & recite" material (in lieu of written lines) as positive learning reinforcement in addition to any imposed corporal discipline (negative reinforcement), which usually has a certain affect, as I am nearby tapping a paddle, strap or cane. ?

[cowboy]

My former Dominant would use mouth soaping for foul language and lieing.  This, along with a good spanking was effective.  My current Dominant does not mouth soap, so now it is just spankings here. 

[MrBottoms]

What I try to avoid is to impose a repeat punishment which might apparently not make a noticeable impression. Results are the primary focus. 

[momma_s_boy]

14 hours ago, Jaded said:

I am not 100 percent against writing lines. Lines do have the repetition, so the person rethinks the behavior.  Over time, I saw essays were more beneficial.  For example, writing a 500 word essay about the dangers of texting and driving (providing statistics and actual facts of accident/death info) may teach someone more than writing “I will not text and drive “1000 times.   Everyone learns differently, so that has to be kept in mind also.  On a side note, I have used corner time a lot, but see no need that the person must be completely naked in the corner, unless it’s erotic spanking.  Just my opinion.  

totally agree...  because being a spankee does not always equal submissive... 

[Christy]

18 hours ago, Jaded said:

I am not 100 percent against writing lines. Lines do have the repetition, so the person rethinks the behavior.  Over time, I saw essays were more beneficial.  For example, writing a 500 word essay about the dangers of texting and driving (providing statistics and actual facts of accident/death info) may teach someone more than writing “I will not text and drive “1000 times.   Everyone learns differently, so that has to be kept in mind also.  On a side note, I have used corner time a lot, but see no need that the person must be completely naked in the corner, unless it’s erotic spanking.  Just my opinion.  

I agree with you.  No need for being naked unless its sexual in some way.   I also have had better response to having someone hand write a 2 page essay as punishment.

[lifewithspanking]

I  feel alternative punishments besides or in addition to spanking greatly enhances the meaningfulness of the spanking and helps clarify the lesson and embeds it in a person heart to greater degree than jsut spanking  ie early bedtimes, grounding, essays, line writing, corner time, note of apology etc-imho-Mike

[dutchbrat]

In the few relationships and a spanking friendship I had in the past there were definitely alternative punishments, that greatly enhanced the effect of the punishment. So it was not instead of a spanking but as an "extra". Usually it was writing lines (very long lines...), early bedtime, I've been grounded, lost privileges, and things like that. Or a mix of those even if it was for something really serious. Corner time was used as well, which I don't really consider a punishment and/or embarrassing at all. Getting corner time before the spanking though is something I don't like, especially if I've got to wait a long time knowing what is going to happen next... so in that situation it can be sort of an extra punishment... feeling like a nervous wreck waiting for the "execution" ?

[swimmer8976]

I've used soap in the mouth, writing lines, and corner time as both a bottom and top.  They all have their own advantages and disadvantages.  I love the head space that soap gets me in - it really brings me back as a childish punishment.  And although the actual experience it is not necessarily a lot of fun, the emotions it evokes for me are incredible.  

As for lines, there is nothing exciting about them whatsoever.  Which I guess is the point, because they make an excellent punishment.  

Corner time, especially when combined with a spanking, adds to the overall experience.  It's a childish punishment that evokes some of the same emotions that soap does for me, and really makes you focus on the spanking.

[Nalgadas]

I get slap on the balls. When we are in bed my wife just said pull down your underwear and open your legs, she gives me 5 to 7 hard slaps.

[Chamed]

I checked out this thread as it seemed to be what I was looking for.  And it has to a point.  I started for the first time on line mentoring.  I'm looking for both rewards and punishments for use on line.  corner time can still be ordered along with essay writing.  
with cut and paste lines wouldn't work.  she doesn't have a lot of money so I can't tell her buy a spank-o-matic.

And I'm still stuck on rewards.  She wants to be treated as a child due to poor RL parenting.  So I need to both punish and reward.  I'd really appreciate help.

[Lita]

      Sitting on a pillow in public

[a-mw-spanker1]

On 6/3/2020 at 12:56 PM, Lita said:

      Sitting on a pillow in public

That’s what I do after I spank

[Megthe]

On 6/3/2020 at 1:56 PM, Lita said:

      Sitting on a pillow in public

I went to a D-s group meeting and one of the girls running it sat on the floor on a pillow at her D's feet.  At the time I thought it was a comfort thing, something about her hips or her back... It never occurred to me it could be a punishment!

[RobertC]

bra and panties cornertime scheduled each week = set time each wekk or each day

 

[scarlet]

On 6/3/2020 at 7:31 AM, Chamed said:

I checked out this thread as it seemed to be what I was looking for.  And it has to a point.  I started for the first time on line mentoring.  I'm looking for both rewards and punishments for use on line.  corner time can still be ordered along with essay writing.  
with cut and paste lines wouldn't work.  she doesn't have a lot of money so I can't tell her buy a spank-o-matic.

And I'm still stuck on rewards.  She wants to be treated as a child due to poor RL parenting.  So I need to both punish and reward.  I'd really appreciate help.

@Chamed I have quite a few friends that sound similar to your -ee

 

For rewards you can consider letting her stay up a little later on a weekend or giving her time to color or do something artsy/crafty while you chat with her (still that intimate feeling in a long distance dynamic with the little aspect of coloring)

[Needsitbad]

There are tons of creative punishments but here is one I learned a long time ago that is pure hell:

A clothespin on the tongue (wooden or plastic) and in between put an alka seltzer tablet

Sounds odd but it is very unpleasant.  And as far as I can see, mostly harmless assuming you're using a normal clothespin and not some industrial strength item used to hang horse blankets.

 

 

[TimidMouse]

Holding cans above your head or small weights would even work for a short period of time. Your arms start to burn to be put down. That was used a lot to get children to say "may I" instead of "can I" when I was young, hence cans were used. I personally think that was a little extreme for small children asking permission for things and that being common phrasing not a cuss word or anything intentionally bad but each generation and region has their own version of manners. Planking, wall sits, exercises that are hard to hold for long, could be multiple different exercises together. Most exercises could be used with discretion of the person's wellbeing and safety but it can bring that same uncomfortable feeling. Running a couple miles was something I had to do as a kid too lol that didn't feel like a punishment to me though, you have to be aware of I guess what is uncomfortable to your person because while running may have not been a  punishment for me, maybe for someone else or extending the run. 

[ukspanko]

My colleague at work told me that when her kids were young if they behaved she would sing their favourite song. When they got older if they didn't behave she would sing their favourite song....

She's used the same technique with me...

[sassylittle]

@TimidMouse makes an excellent point.

"Running a couple miles was something I had to do as a kid too lol that didn't feel like a punishment to me though, you have to be aware of I guess what is uncomfortable to your person because while running may have not been a  punishment for me, maybe for someone else or extending the run. "

What one person considers as a punishment, another person might not.

When I was at school my Religious studies teacher loathed me with a passion! She was one of those religious zealots who believed that the world was flat and hers was the only right way. Well, my nature has always been to question things especially things that don't make much sense! She told the HeadMaster that if she had to teach me for another year , that she was going to end up having a mental breakdown. Her proposed punishment was for me to do her classes alone in the Head of Humanities office for my last year. What she didn't realise was that was a perfect situation for me. I studied much better alone and got most of my course work, for other subjects, done in those hours so didn't have to do much homework! It was a win-win for me, not only did I get much of my course work done during school hours but I also didn't have to listen to her shit? I got the highest grade, in that year, along with another student for Religious studies and sure enjoyed telling her that I did that without her help and Thanks for the lessons?

Just bear that in mind- there isn't a set approach to every person and what works for one, might not for another.

[ukspanko]

I remember being made to do all the washing up when I was eight as a punishment from my Grandmother for being rude to her.