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52 minutes ago, Zhal said:

There are some people who have some harsh ideas about switching. You know what? How the quiznak does their opinion affect me? Let them have their opinions. When it comes down to it, having a "switches are a stain on my profession" attitude just means I will never seek a spanking session with you.

Well said!  Completely agree.  I love switching, whether with the same person or someone else and I don't really care whether someone has a problem with that.  In my opinion, as long as everything is 100% consensual, there is no right or wrong when it comes to a spanking relationship.  Let people do what works for them!

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On 12/21/2019 at 12:39 PM, aust0226ap said:

I do enjoy* both. But ive never switched with the same person. 

Sounds like you have engaged with doms and with subs, but I would think if you engaged with another true switch, things wouldn't be complete unless you did the deed on one another at least once.  Switch is not something I do, it's something that I am, as much a part of me as being a spanko.

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On 5/19/2020 at 9:13 AM, Zhal said:

There are some people who have some harsh ideas about switching. You know what? How the quiznak does their opinion affect me? Let them have their opinions. When it comes down to it, having a "switches are a stain on my profession" attitude just means I will never seek a spanking session with you.

Have to agree with this, though a decade ago I'd have been offended or angry. Plenty of fish in the sea. I will say, an earlier poster mentioned that so many men have difficulty finding a spanker that they may (as a sub) portray themselves as a switch in order to sort of swindle a spanking from a woman. That's sad. It sours things for everyone involved. Nobody wins in that sort of situation. Best to be honest from the get go. 

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On 5/19/2020 at 9:13 AM, Zhal said:

There are some people who have some harsh ideas about switching. You know what? How the quiznak does their opinion affect me? Let them have their opinions. When it comes down to it, having a "switches are a stain on my profession" attitude just means I will never seek a spanking session with you.

Have to agree with this, though a decade ago I'd have been offended or angry. Plenty of fish in the sea. I will say, an earlier poster mentioned that so many men have difficulty finding a spanker that they may (as a sub) portray themselves as a switch in order to sort of swindle a spanking from a woman. That's sad. It sours things for everyone involved. Nobody wins in that sort of situation. Best to be honest from the get go. 

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We could cuss and discuss this forever.

A bit of a side bar is the fact that we worry too much about whether someone else thinks what we want to do is appropriate. I know that I’ve loved giving spankings and loved taking them since I was a child. That should be enough, but given the fact that we are all forced into somewhat compartmentalized and secretive parts of our lives with spanking, it’s easy to self doubt, even our spanking  preferences!
 

 

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On 5/20/2020 at 12:40 AM, Rand E said:

Sounds like you have engaged with doms and with subs, but I would think if you engaged with another true switch, things wouldn't be complete unless you did the deed on one another at least once.  Switch is not something I do, it's something that I am, as much a part of me as being a spanko.

Not sure I agree 100% with this.  I think things can be plenty complete when you are on one side in a particular relationship.  There are certain people who I am more naturally submissive too, and others who I would rather spank.  It doesn't always have to go both ways.  A lot of which side I prefer has to do with age and personality for me.  Does that make me not a true switch?

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1 hour ago, swimmer8976 said:

Not sure I agree 100% with this.  I think things can be plenty complete when you are on one side in a particular relationship.  There are certain people who I am more naturally submissive too, and others who I would rather spank.  It doesn't always have to go both ways.  A lot of which side I prefer has to do with age and personality for me.  Does that make me not a true switch?

At the risk of repeating myself, what is an “true switch?”  Did someone tell you you weren’t a real switch? Then I would ask why their opinion matters.  It sounds to me like you enjoy both spanking and being spanked. And, it sounds like you have a great deal of adaptability: you like to spank people with one sort of personality and be spanked by others. That sounds healthy to me.

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3 hours ago, swimmer8976 said:

Not sure I agree 100% with this.  I think things can be plenty complete when you are on one side in a particular relationship.  There are certain people who I am more naturally submissive too, and others who I would rather spank.  It doesn't always have to go both ways.  A lot of which side I prefer has to do with age and personality for me.  Does that make me not a true switch?

I understand the notion of adapting to a dom or a sub.  That's a flexibility that you have as a switch.  I would think that orientation definitely increases the number of potential partners, especially if your dom/sub traits are fairly evenly balanced and you can call them forth as needed depending on your role in the arrangement.  I agree with you, there's nothing incomplete about having straight dom and sub partners. 

As far as the term "true" switch, I'm just using the term to refer to those of us who have fairly evenly balanced dom and sub traits.  That is, your not a sub who happen to top on the rare occasion or vice-versa.  Just curious, what do you consider your dom/sub ratio to be?    

So, assuming you are a true switch in the sense I described above, and you hooked up with another true switch, then I would find it odd that you would settle on a straight set of dom/sub roles and not want to explore switching up the roles.  On the other hand, if having a switch partner is not your cup of tea, I get it.  

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1 hour ago, JonTx said:

At the risk of repeating myself, what is an “true switch?”  Did someone tell you you weren’t a real switch? Then I would ask why their opinion matters.  It sounds to me like you enjoy both spanking and being spanked. And, it sounds like you have a great deal of adaptability: you like to spank people with one sort of personality and be spanked by others. That sounds healthy to me.

Probably a better choice of terminology would have been "balanced" switch or something along those lines.  In order for the term to be applicable, I think the dom and sub traits need to be fairly evenly balanced, not necessarily 50/50, but 60/40 or even 70/30 maybe.  I expect there are plenty of straight doms who have been spanked out of curiosity or some rare impulse, but it's not really in their nature, or the vice-versa case of a sub that has given the rare spanking but is not much into it.

Speaking of terminology, I was thinking we should coin the phrase "ultimate" switch.  That would be a switch who can convincingly be the dom to a straight sub, or the sub to a straight dom, without them being any the wiser.  A veritable spanking chameleon adapting to any environment.  Any of you switches out there that can manage that, my hat is off to you.

 

 

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13 hours ago, Rand E said:

I understand the notion of adapting to a dom or a sub.  That's a flexibility that you have as a switch.  I would think that orientation definitely increases the number of potential partners, especially if your dom/sub traits are fairly evenly balanced and you can call them forth as needed depending on your role in the arrangement.  I agree with you, there's nothing incomplete about having straight dom and sub partners. 

As far as the term "true" switch, I'm just using the term to refer to those of us who have fairly evenly balanced dom and sub traits.  That is, your not a sub who happen to top on the rare occasion or vice-versa.  Just curious, what do you consider your dom/sub ratio to be?    

So, assuming you are a true switch in the sense I described above, and you hooked up with another true switch, then I would find it odd that you would settle on a straight set of dom/sub roles and not want to explore switching up the roles.  On the other hand, if having a switch partner is not your cup of tea, I get it.  

I was much more of a spankee when I was younger but its evened out as I've gotten older and developed much more of a desire to spank.  I'd say I'm probably about 60/40 on the sub side.  And yes, if I found the right person I would absolutely want to switch roles with them.  It just hasn't happened in my (admittedly limited) experience.

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