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This question may be best suited for those in a D/s or Domestic Discipline type of relationship. 

Submissives and spankees...

What sort of acts of submission do you perform for your Dominant or Spanker? Meaning...do you kneel? Do you call him Sir? Do you do chores?

Dominants and Spankers...

What sort of acts of submission do you require from your sub or spankee?  Does she cook for you? Dress a certain way?

I'm looking for ideas...

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No 2 situations are alike and what works for one will not work for all so I tailor my requests to suit. This can be anything from greating me naked on her knees with hands behind her head. ( this would normally only be if going into a session). To what the person wears. Bed time is a big one for me and needs to be strict, the body donesnt function well on little sleep. 

If its a distance relationship comunication is important and a daily journal will help. 

I like a lady to act as a lady and dress so so no torn jeans and no swearing. ( soap does focus the mind ) I vould go on but dont want to bore you. 

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Hey shy, one thing that I have found so very lovely is when the lady cooked a meal for me she did so with an apron on and nothing else on the lower section of her body.  watching her cheeks bounce as she scurried around the kitchen displaying my recent handiwork was indeed a visual pleasure.  Of course I couldn't resist entering and giving her some lovely smacks with my palm on her already  reddened cheeks.  It did extended my dominant headspace as well as her submissive  one.

 

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10 hours ago, shygurl said:

This question may be best suited for those in a D/s or Domestic Discipline type of relationship. 

Submissives and spankees...

What sort of acts of submission do you perform for your Dominant or Spanker? Meaning...do you kneel? Do you call him Sir? Do you do chores?

Dominants and Spankers...

What sort of acts of submission do you require from your sub or spankee?  Does she cook for you? Dress a certain way?

I'm looking for ideas...

Be require to dress for maintenance spankings 

 

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I'll try to be brief...  As an outward display of ownership and submission, I must shave my head.  Other areas as well.

Clothes are not allowed inside the house and outside too if possible.  

Clamps or butt plug or C&B bondage during chore time.

Serve coffee  and brush her hair in bed.  Prepare and serve breakfast.  Clean all dishes after every meal.  Many other household chores.

Never question a discipline or maintenance spankings.  Take position and accept what she deems necessary.

Message me for more details.

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I am currently submitting to a couple, my Sir and his partner Lily.  I am not supposed to use Sir’s first name, so I always just refer to him as “Sir.”  It’s all right with Lily if I use her name or ma’am, so depending on the context I’ll use either.  
 

I have about 30 or so rules to follow each day, which I keep track of with a phone app.  Sir and Lily have access to the app so they can check in to see how I’m doing. If I break my rules I get punished, usually with a bath brush spanking on my bare butt.  
 

We don’t live together full time, but when we’re staying together I’m responsible for certain household chores.  I’m also expected to follow all directions willingly and promptly.  No complaints or “in a minute.”  It means I’m kept pretty busy, but that’s fine and healthy for me.  Left to my own devices, I tend to isolate and neglect daily tasks.  
 

Sometimes, when I start feeling cranky or rebellious about doing what’s expected of me, I ask for a hard, thorough spanking to remind me 1) who’s in charge around here and who is not, and 2) exactly what will happen to me if I disobey or show disrespect. 
 

I really don’t have any elaborate protocols to follow.  I just do as I’m told, 24/7.  Sir has told me that he’ll eventually teach me some more advanced protocol to be used when we attend lifestyle events and things, but honestly we don’t often go anywhere.  😛

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1 hour ago, geeky_child said:

I have about 30 or so rules to follow each day, which I keep track of with a phone app.  Sir and Lily have access to the app so they can check in to see how I’m doing. If I break my rules I get punished, usually with a bath brush spanking on my bare butt.  

 

 

Can I ask what app you use?

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Mainly I expect honesty and respect. I expect them to disclose if they broke a rule.  To be addressed as Ma’am, when/if we are discussing serious things. (Rules, during lecture).  I expect them to listen, because I would never ask anything unreasonable of them.   I’m not the type that wants someone to serve me , sexually/non sexually.     If they want to just help me with something or do something nice , that’s appreciated.  Just as I believe rewarding them for good behavior is something I should do.  

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Dominance and submission can be woven into almost any part of the fabric of daily life. I recently was reading about a woman who felt like her Dom always tying her shoe for her was a submissive act. His response was to ask which is more submissive, his tying her shoes or her giving up the right to tie her own. There are a million little ways to express it on either side of the slash, from subtle to blatant. It only takes some creativity and agreement from both parties to turn even the most mundane of activities into an act of service.

There are some interesting resources on Tumblr (it's not all just porn, though unused to think of it that way before I actually went and checked it out - there actually are ways to avoid seeing such material there) and a lot of good writing surrounding Dominance and submission once you know where to look.

One such excellent example is this (there is some slightly NSFW language in the post, so be forewarned):

https://instructor144.tumblr.com/post/189440543492/the-many-faces-of-service

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I’ve been thinking about this lately, too. I don’t live with my Dom/boyfriend, we’re long distance, but we stay together around every other weekend. I’ve been trying to think of ways to ask him to be more dominant on the day-to-day. Now that we’re dating, a lot of the relationship is softer, I guess you could say. More couples things and whatnot, which I do really enjoy. Usually now his dominant side mostly comes out only when I’ve done something wrong. I sorta miss the feeling of always feeling like I needed to be in my best behavior around him. I’d like more day to day stuff. So reading these responses has been interesting.
Right now, I am required to send him a schedule at the beginning of every week and report back to him at the end of each day as to how I‘ve done with it (and following rules in general), so that is nice and helps me stay accountable.

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8 hours ago, BottomsUp11 said:

I’ve been thinking about this lately, too. I don’t live with my Dom/boyfriend, we’re long distance, but we stay together around every other weekend. I’ve been trying to think of ways to ask him to be more dominant on the day-to-day. Now that we’re dating, a lot of the relationship is softer, I guess you could say. More couples things and whatnot, which I do really enjoy. Usually now his dominant side mostly comes out only when I’ve done something wrong. I sorta miss the feeling of always feeling like I needed to be in my best behavior around him. I’d like more day to day stuff. So reading these responses has been interesting.
Right now, I am required to send him a schedule at the beginning of every week and report back to him at the end of each day as to how I‘ve done with it (and following rules in general), so that is nice and helps me stay accountable.

I understand and can relate to this.  When I became close friends with my sub, she’d sometimes ask me to be more dominant.  But when we were just hanging out and doing vanilla activities, it was different.   Of course after a few yrs of mentoring, many things she wanted help with became better.  So there wasn’t a need to be as stern, lecture as much, yet she wanted that.  Can be hard to find a balance.  Maintenance spankings can help, having the dominant still lecture sternly about things of concern/reminding you of behaviors they don’t want you going back to.  

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On 11/14/2019 at 3:42 AM, shygurl said:

This question may be best suited for those in a D/s or Domestic Discipline type of relationship. 

Submissives and spankees...

What sort of acts of submission do you perform for your Dominant or Spanker? Meaning...do you kneel? Do you call him Sir? Do you do chores?

Dominants and Spankers...

What sort of acts of submission do you require from your sub or spankee?  Does she cook for you? Dress a certain way?

I'm looking for ideas...

I call him Sir.  I also let him come up with dealers choice orders.  For instance, he gets out of work and calls me, tells me make sure the bed is made, the wau he likes it.  Or calls me and tells me he wants my hair up, or for me to be wearing (or not wearing) a certain thing when he gets home.  The direction changes every time.  We also have 2 long term set rules.  The cupboards have to be closed and my shoes have to be in a specific specific spot in a specific way.  When I am being good submissive (hello good girl spanks) I make sure those are done.  When I want a more aggressive, harder role.play I can easily play-manipulate.it.  Just open a few cupboards or put my shoes across the door way so he can't miss them.  My nature is to be good every time I can be, but being "bad" on purpose is an option.  I really love the dealers choice for that reason.  Random little things that show him I am being submissive and also the orders really turn me.on lol. 

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When I was D/s, always addressing him as Sir in person and text, with every sentence. This was big for him and forgetting a Sir in any sentence resulted in punishment. Being naked, kneeling with my head down and arms stretched out when he would arrive. Asking permission to do anything when he was present. Sending a daily picture of me in position when he wasn’t with me. Washing him in the shower. Serving him his drinks, food, etc. 

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I was in the Dominant role with one woman and she used to approach me, kneel, and ask, :How may I serve you, Sir?" I did not tell her to do this; she was volunteering her service to me. I thought it was the most fantastically submissive thing I had ever experienced. As much as the submissive had already done, she still wanted to do more! I bet your dominant would love this ...

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I have a couple of spanking partners.

With one we are into role play. My favourite role is that of an errant wife sent to a disciplinarian for punishment. I arrive at his house fully dressed but always wearing a purple pvc mac (my punishment coat).  Otherwise I must outwardly appear totally "normal". Gloves,  a largish handbag, some form of head covering (sometimes a scarf, sometimes a hat) and high heel shoes (Not boots, even in winter).  Make-up and jewellery to be appropriate but not excessive.  Under my coat I wear a satin long-sleeved blouse (my choice of colour) and a black satin pencil mid-calf length skirt. (No rear slit, so walking is not easy!) I make sure that the colour of my blouse is not visible. Underwear is simple. A bra and matching suspender belt, the latter holding up my stockings and a half slip. No knickers, but I am allowed an old fashioned girdle, although being too small for me, it pulls my buttocks in quite tightly. Whatever else I might take off, I always keep on the suspender belt, stockings, high heels and punishment coat.

On arrival at his house (within walking distance of mine) I am ushered into the hall, where I hand him my handbag. From it he takes the note from my "husband" outlining my supposed misdeeds, a pair of handcuffs and a school plimsole.  After reading the note, the handbag is handed back to me and my wrists are then cuffed together in front of me. I have to follow him to his study at the rear of the house, but whilst he goes in, I have to stand quietly outside the door.  I am usually there for about five minutes, although once I was kept there for almost an hour! 

When called in, I have to go silently to the centre of the room and bend over. My body is not as supple as it once was, so it's not quite touching the toes, but not far from it. The satin of my skirt is drum tight across my buttocks. My punisher then guesses the colour of my blouse and I confirm this or not. He lifts up my mac to expose my skirt and he gives me six strokes of the plimsole across each buttock in turn. If he has guessed the blouse colour correctly, the six becomes eight! (I have to admit that once in a while, my mac is open enough for him to see my blouse on arrival!) 

Trust me, just having six of the plimsole across each satin covered buttock hurts. I have to remain in that position whilst he returns to his desk. I find this position to be so erotic - a fully dressed woman having willingly submitted herself to the pain of the first stage of discipline, but with more to come. It's strange, but as I get used to the pain in my buttocks, my muscles in my calves start to ache, the effect of being perched on high heels! 

Suitably warmed up, the main event starts after about five minutes and continues for a couple of hours. Suffice it to say that at its conclusion, sitting down comfortably is only rarely possible!

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I was in a nonDs relationship with a woman where we occasionally had "Princess Days" in which I was submissive from the time we awoke until the time we went to sleep. I absolutely loved these days, and she appreciated all the chores that got done and that I was devoid of attitude (which is an ongoing problem for me in relationships). Here are the rules she wrote up, with no input from me:

PRINCESS DAY GUIDELINES

1.  When I’m acting as Princess and disciplining you, you will never go OTK with me.  You will always be bent over something such as furniture or the bed.  I will always use an implement and never my hand.

2.  I don’t want to be referred to as Princess on days when I am not acting as Princess. 

3.  On Princess days I want to be addressed as Princess and not Mistress.

4.  You will always thank me for discipline.

5. You may kiss my hand after you have performed some task or service for me if I offer it.

6.  You will always kiss my hand when I offer it.

7.  You will not back talk on my Princess days.

8.  You will perform the tasks assigned to you promptly and without complaint.

9.  We can mutually decide when to have a Princess day the day before or at another scheduled date. 

10.  You will be agreeable, pleasant and easy to deal with on Princess days.

11.  You will check with me often during your tasks on Princess days to see if I have need of you.  It angers me to have to come find you.  Unless you’re doing something such as shopping, not more than 30 minutes should lapse in between check ups.

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There are many acts of submission. Three examples of non-sexual ones are:

1.- When passing through a doorway, allow my Husband to proceed first, opening the door for Him if present.

2.- When eating, do not touch my utensils until my Husband has first taken up His.

3.- When sitting, do not cross my legs but rather sit with legs spread.

Please message me if interested in more examples. Thank You.

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7 hours ago, Naughtysparky said:

I don’t know if this is an act of submission or not. As a male ee I keep my self shaved below the belt. I’m a hairy guy, so I only shave to my mid thighs so when I go OTK it hurts more

Have you noticed much difference in the pain or sting level from being hairless? Does it make you feel more submissive than otherwise?

 

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