Emotionally Arousing Spanking Fantasies

[wide_eyed]

On 10/27/2019 at 3:12 PM, christyspanks said:

Thanks for sharing your personal situation. I would fully agree that there is a particular marriage of that psychological component which I'm sure stems from your childhood, and the physical burning, stinging pain of the spanking you're receiving. You need to experience both together in order to really fulfill what your heart is yearning for. It's not even that you want to intentionally do things which would cause you to deserve a spanking, but you know that there are reasons why this is something you deeply deserve. There's a very particular process by which the embarrassing punishment you know you deserve will unfold and all of the components must be there. I am most fascinated by the idea of seeing you in every stage of this process and being able to see clearly how it's all effecting you. What a powerful release it would be for you to lovingly accept what you know you deserve, by someone you know loves you...and to feel comforted by the fact that it's all right for you. As embarrassing and shameful as it is for your private parts to be fully exposed and your bottom lashed with a belt or a paddle....you know that you're in the hands of someone who is lovingly correcting you....and all of this touches you so deeply that you can only surrender as the semen starts pouring out of your penis. 

Um, yeah.

And that goes for all your other posts in this thread.

Really any comment here is kind of superfluous, you've obviously been paying attention to what your husband has been saying (and displaying). Here's a small variation: being coaxed to orgasm immediately before the punishment by the disciplinarian describing the spanking to come and how much more effective its going to be once I've had that orgasm.

On 10/26/2019 at 10:46 AM, Batti Batti said:

After that, and especially if you were there to see the spanking, you would have seen them at their most vulnerable, and that would bring memories which wouldn't likely go away for either of you. A few words from you could bring up all the shame, all the hurt, again, and that's something which could have both an erotic and a very intimate dimension, but one with so much to do with a power given to you.

This is incredibly humbling. When it comes to spanking talk this sort of thing is more powerful for me than any sort of phrase referencing a spanking. Inducing those feelings in me is a powerful display of intimate dominance. Even just having the ability is a touch scary.

On 3/3/2020 at 11:07 PM, Chawsee said:

I, too, have strong reactions against many things I've witnessed in the spanking world-- in particular the abusive and hateful way that bottoms are sometimes treated by domineering tops. Why those EEs stay with such ERs and continue to tolerate this treatment is beyond me.

My own experience is limited but from what I've seen online, I agree. These people suck. I suspect the bottoms stick around because they have limited options and they crave the intimacy. I don't agree with it, and I wouldn't make the same choices, but I get it.

[OTK4Me78]

On 10/27/2019 at 3:12 PM, christyspanks said:

Thanks for sharing your personal situation. I would fully agree that there is a particular marriage of that psychological component which I'm sure stems from your childhood, and the physical burning, stinging pain of the spanking you're receiving. You need to experience both together in order to really fulfill what your heart is yearning for. It's not even that you want to intentionally do things which would cause you to deserve a spanking, but you know that there are reasons why this is something you deeply deserve. There's a very particular process by which the embarrassing punishment you know you deserve will unfold and all of the components must be there. I am most fascinated by the idea of seeing you in every stage of this process and being able to see clearly how it's all effecting you. What a powerful release it would be for you to lovingly accept what you know you deserve, by someone you know loves you...and to feel comforted by the fact that it's all right for you. As embarrassing and shameful as it is for your private parts to be fully exposed and your bottom lashed with a belt or a paddle....you know that you're in the hands of someone who is lovingly correcting you....and all of this touches you so deeply that you can only surrender as the semen starts pouring out of your penis. 

I don't know really what to say other than that what you wrote here really touches something deep within me. I have only been spanked a few times as an adult. And only had an experience of an orgasm once during a spanking. I can honestly say it was not a sexual thing. If that makes sense. I wasn't aroused. I wasn't even erect. In fact, it was the one and only time that the Woman spanking me really lit my backside up. It was a simple OTK bare handed spanking, but she was relentless. I am not the kind of guy who wriggles around like a kid trying to get away, or whines and moans. But this one time is also the only time I shed tears. I felt emotionally "free" afterward. I have sought a Woman who could or would bring me to that place again. So far to no avail. But i still have hope.

[SwitchWithMe]

On 10/15/2019 at 12:06 PM, christyspanks said:

I love  the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

I personally can get a strong and intimate reaction— mentally, emotionally, erotically... every way— with the right person through just talking, describing. As a switch, from the spanker end, this is what I consider most important. Having a dialog and connection with my spankee so that they are already triggered before the discipline even starts. It is a good investment, one gets so much more out of it as a disciplinarian than if one just started whacking. I also find this the most interesting way to do it.

From the spankee end, that is also true. There though, I have a bank of stories, themes, visuals I can rely on. Things that can amplify my experience as a disciplined spankee. That’s cool. But it’s like masturbating to get a release with one’s lover. If that’s every time, that can suck. So it so much better to share that “spanking spank bank” with my spanker.

[Blisteredbottomboy]

The emotional component is very big for me.  The thought of the embarrassment and humiliation stirs me inside and the resulting erection is intense.  Standing in the corner and being scolded makes me shake with anticipation.  Just the thoughts alone before even a swat.  It seems like once the swats start the erection comes and goes but there's some arousal going on as i drip cum while being spanked.  Just sitting here writing about it is creating all these feelings enough to make me shake physically. I'm normally an incharge guy so giving up control and turning to submissive is freeing but also very embarrassing.  I think because i'm not a full time submissive that makes it more embarrassing. Then there's the positions that I'm put in certainly intensify the feelings, otk or spread and such.  The vulnerability of it all and having my pants pulled down creates a shaking feeling also.  Then after to be sent to the corner almost as soon as my nose is in the corner the erection comes back as I feel the burn in my backside.  In the corner not knowing if's the spanking is over or if I'm going to get more comes right back to the embarrassing anticipation.  These feelings can last for a long time and the intense feelings you get later, even the next day when you sit down and feel the soreness or look in the mirror and see all the marks brings it all back.

It's embarrassing to even write about but thank you for letting me express some of how it feels!

[wide_eyed]

1 hour ago, Blisteredbottomboy said:

The emotional component is very big for me.  The thought of the embarrassment and humiliation stirs me inside and the resulting erection is intense.

Yes. It feels like the emotional component is what makes it sexually arousing. I'm not sure which one happens in time first, but it really doesn't matter. Even if there is an erection before the emotions start coming on strong, I would still feel that that sexual arousal was somehow dependent on the potential for emotional vulnerability.

[boy_otk]

I'm certainly affected both emotionally and sexually when I think about spanking. I feel spankings inherently are indeed an erotic concept, and even during purely platonic discipline spankings, the erotic component is still present, but it is ignored. I have never been spanked yet in real life so I cannot speak to how it will affect me when I am being spanked. But as far as thinking about it goes, yes, it is certainly both sexually and emotionally overwhelming.

[christyspanks]

It's so interesting when you think about how the brain processes emotions, and I can only assume that the brain is working overtime to process the myriad of emotions that are taking place in the mind of someone who is anticipating and/or receiving a powerful spanking. I say powerful because I'm referring to a spanking that requires a person's pants to be pulled down and for them to feel the burning, stinging pain and embarrassment as it's happening. I'm way more fascinated by seeing or being with someone who is nervously/fearfully anticipating their fate, knowing that right there in that moment their brain, nervous system and private areas are all working together in a complex network, which have an extraordinary effect on THAT particular person. 

Not everyone would have this same sort of anticipatory reaction emotionally....but I know that there are some who almost helplessly masturbate or even ejaculate as this storm of emotions are happening. Their own painful and embarrassing fate becomes deeply arousing, to the point where they yearn for what they fear the most. It's very similar to a moth being drawn to a flame. 

[wide_eyed]

8 hours ago, christyspanks said:

Their own painful and embarrassing fate becomes deeply arousing, to the point where they yearn for what they fear the most. It's very similar to a moth being drawn to a flame.

I like this image. The end is with their composure at a total loss, they are exposed, unable to control their emotional expression. That exposure, for us fetishists at least, is both intimate and erotic.

[Shameless]

Christy, your initial post basically describes how I react to even the thought of a punishment. It is a weird combination of dread, humiliation and sexual arousal. That’s a primary reason I try to schedule a discipline session well in advance - I really like that feeling!?

[christyspanks]

On 4/9/2020 at 12:26 PM, wide_eyed said:

Yes. It feels like the emotional component is what makes it sexually arousing. I'm not sure which one happens in time first, but it really doesn't matter. Even if there is an erection before the emotions start coming on strong, I would still feel that that sexual arousal was somehow dependent on the potential for emotional vulnerability.

I fully agree with this. I think a lot of us struggle with the concept of revealing ourselves emotionally. It almost feels as though we are exposing ourselves naked for someone. What draws me to someone is knowing how difficult it is for them to "bare themselves" emotionally, yet at the same time I would know that their exposure and vulnerability is what they fear/crave the most. I would know that I have to be sensitive and careful with that person, to help them experience that magical combination of emotional exposure (being embarrassed, ashamed, regretful, worried, nervous, scared etc) while also supporting their sexual response to it all. The fulfillment for me would come in being able to see the deepest part of someone so vividly displayed. Their flood of emotions triggering an undeniable sexual response and exposes them in the most extreme way. 

[firm_receiving_firm_giving]

On 10/15/2019 at 11:06 AM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

Yes, I can feel major emotions prior, and just hearing the descriptions of my impending punishment brings great emotions.  Knowing it's real and the discipline will happen and there is no way out makes it 10 times more intense emotionally.   -Chris

[LikeSpank]

All I know is that whatever Christy writes turns me on. Her husband is sooo lucky. 

[Megthe]

My husband can get me to climax just by talking about spanking me.  I don't orgasm and can't orgasm during an actual hard spanking or punishment, but talking about being spanked without a lot of scolding will put me right over the edge.  

[Lita]

On 10/15/2019 at 12:06 PM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

I think I have posted in this thread but EVERYTHING is emotional for me. I was always kinda curious about it but when it happened it was for doing what teenage girls do. A lot of us were spanked because it's acceptable. The fact it's often a ritual makes it "responsible". So I could be repressed and feel like I'm missing out or own it and hopefully not engage in self destructive behaviors. Exhibitionism mine. I've been lucky after I learned how to care for other people and not just say "do anything you want to me" when I hurt them emotionally. 

[Chawsee]

On 10/26/2019 at 8:02 AM, christyspanks said:

For me there has always been a strange fascination in seeing someone become electrified with emotions and arousal at the same time, as a result of their anticipation of their spanking, during the spanking or even after it. These various stages of the punishment process each have their own unique elements which I believe contribute to the overall experience for the person being spanked. I personally have never had an interest in angrily or forcefully spanking someone, as it is much more intriguing for me when I know the person I'm spanking (or witnessing being spanked) is actually yearning for the experience. They're yearning for the vulnerability, the nervousness, the embarrassment, the exposure....all because these emotions have the greatest effect on them. To be a part of this process in which a spankee reaches the pinnacle of emotional arousal is a very powerful and memorable experience. 

Perfectly said, @christyspanks. Please post more stuff like this. You have an impressive understanding of the psychology and physiology of spanking.

[KentuckyGuy]

The idea of having someone care enough about me to spank me is so emotionally arousing that I can think of nothing more powerful.  It causes me to be aroused sexually as a result, even though to spank me in a sexual way would be a turn off.  So very hard for me to explain but I imagine others here understand it

[Handily]

 

5 hours ago, KentuckyGuy said:

The idea of having someone care enough about me to spank me is so emotionally arousing that I can think of nothing more powerful.  It causes me to be aroused sexually as a result, even though to spank me in a sexual way would be a turn off.  So very hard for me to explain but I imagine others here understand it

Makes perfect sense to me.  If I am going to be spanked by a pro, I am very aroused before, during and after the session, although there is sometimes no evidence of it - and certainly no actual sexual activity - during the session.

                                                                                                                                                                                                               -H.

[ianl]

It is indeed very odd how the brain processes such events for sure, Personally for me, I have a love hate thing with punishment, I truly do fear it, and yes if I know it is coming I get all the nerves and the emotions that come with it, that is one side of me who is scared of it, then there is the rebel in me who would test, and see what I can get away with, even knowing I could be close to the edge and the thrill of that is actually very exciting/arousing, I imagine most males who go on to be punished would have an erection at least at the start of it, but a proper punishment would probably soon see it off. 

[danadares]

On 4/16/2020 at 4:05 AM, christyspanks said:

What draws me to someone is knowing how difficult it is for them to "bare themselves" emotionally, yet at the same time I would know that their exposure and vulnerability is what they fear/crave the most. I would know that I have to be sensitive and careful with that person, to help them experience that magical combination of emotional exposure (being embarrassed, ashamed, regretful, worried, nervous, scared etc) while also supporting their sexual response to it all. The fulfillment for me would come in being able to see the deepest part of someone so vividly displayed. Their flood of emotions triggering an undeniable sexual response and exposes them in the most extreme way. 

Since childhood, I have had this strong sexual connection to punishment spanking, through what I both experienced and witnessed. That connection has always confused me. The paragraph above and others in this thread describes my obsession in ways better than I could describe it, both my mindset regarding someone "baring themselves" and what I want to imagine is the mindset of my ER.

[christyspanks]

I'm glad to see that this topic is still fairly prominent here and that there are many spankees who recognize and appreciate the emotion driven arousal surrounding their spankings. Some would probably say I'm too serious, but I prefer the more meaningful and deeply emotional aspects more than the "funishment". This deeply emotional experience could be rooted in the childhood of the spankee or perhaps other life experiences, but at some point those emotions like fear, dread, nervousness, guilt, shame, embarrassment became a source of endless arousal and fantasies. When I think about spanking someone, I think about spanking that person who is having those fantasies and helping them to experience those emotions in the most intense way possible. I probably think about this happening with a male spankee mostly, because at some point his pants will likely be lowered and I would be able to witness the storm of emotions he's experiencing, simply by looking at his penis. I'm intrigued by the way his brain can connect these feelings directly to his private parts and how much more vulnerable and exposed he would feel as I was seeing it. Now, not only am I fully aware that he's nervous and afraid of what's happening, I know that his fears and emotions are making his penis stand straight up, which only intensifies his embarrassment. 

What makes it even more embarrassing for him is the fact that I am not forcing this punishment upon him. On the contrary, he fully confessed to me that his most fervent masturbation is centered around the thought of being spanked like this. We planned and orchestrated his spanking together, to ensure that it would be the most emotion filled experience possible for him. So he only has himself to blame for the fact that he is nervously standing in front of me with his erect penis giving him away. I'm sure that his obvious arousal would subside as he was being spanked, but the anticipation before it happened and the comfort he received afterwards would bring it back in full force. I could envision him crying and expressing how grateful he is to have this punishment administered upon him, and inevitably he would be brought to a very emotion filled ejaculation. 

I also take it very seriously when I know that his thoughts of being spanked and taught such a painful, embarrassing lesson have taken over his sexuality. To know that these thoughts are much more powerful for him than the thought of sex or anything normal sexually and he will need to experience this punishment and embarrassment for the rest of his life. 

Edited January 9 by christyspanks

[DisobedientHuby]

I yearn for the whole experience. I desperately want her to spank me to tears but to get there she would have to read my mind to determine when I am tired and vulnerable enough. Every spanking is emotional but the thought of it that excites me not so much the act because when she paddles me it is quick and painful with no real time to think about anything but the sting. The longer the spanking the more emotion but to date no tears. The thought excites me so much I want to climax but I know that if I do and she finds out she will be disappointed and that thought brings me closer to tears than any spanking. I  just wish all the components that I think would make it feel real would come together sometimes it is very close to that and at other times not so much

[normalguy]

On 1/9/2023 at 12:22 AM, christyspanks said:

I'm glad to see that this topic is still fairly prominent here and that there are many spankees who recognize and appreciate the emotion driven arousal surrounding their spankings. Some would probably say I'm too serious, but I prefer the more meaningful and deeply emotional aspects more than the "funishment". This deeply emotional experience could be rooted in the childhood of the spankee or perhaps other life experiences, but at some point those emotions like fear, dread, nervousness, guilt, shame, embarrassment became a source of endless arousal and fantasies. When I think about spanking someone, I think about spanking that person who is having those fantasies and helping them to experience those emotions in the most intense way possible. I probably think about this happening with a male spankee mostly, because at some point his pants will likely be lowered and I would be able to witness the storm of emotions he's experiencing, simply by looking at his penis. I'm intrigued by the way his brain can connect these feelings directly to his private parts and how much more vulnerable and exposed he would feel as I was seeing it. Now, not only am I fully aware that he's nervous and afraid of what's happening, I know that his fears and emotions are making his penis stand straight up, which only intensifies his embarrassment. 

What makes it even more embarrassing for him is the fact that I am not forcing this punishment upon him. On the contrary, he fully confessed to me that his most fervent masturbation is centered around the thought of being spanked like this. We planned and orchestrated his spanking together, to ensure that it would be the most emotion filled experience possible for him. So he only has himself to blame for the fact that he is nervously standing in front of me with his erect penis giving him away. I'm sure that his obvious arousal would subside as he was being spanked, but the anticipation before it happened and the comfort he received afterwards would bring it back in full force. I could envision him crying and expressing how grateful he is to have this punishment administered upon him, and inevitably he would be brought to a very emotion filled ejaculation. 

I also take it very seriously when I know that his thoughts of being spanked and taught such a painful, embarrassing lesson have taken over his sexuality. To know that these thoughts are much more powerful for him than the thought of sex or anything normal sexually and he will need to experience this punishment and embarrassment for the rest of his life. 

Wow Christy. So we’ll said.  You described me! Ha I’d love to chat about this some if you care to message me. Your inbox doesn’t take messages.  

[christyspanks]

8 minutes ago, normalguy said:

Wow Christy. So we’ll said.  You described me! Ha I’d love to chat about this some if you care to message me. Your inbox doesn’t take messages.  

Hi Jake, I'm glad that my post resonated with you so closely. Feel free to try to message me again as I've deleted some old emails. If that doesn't work you can email me directly at christee1980@yahoo.com

I'm sure that we will have plenty to discuss in regards to your emotion filled spankings

[DisobedientHuby]

On 10/15/2019 at 11:06 AM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

The thought of it arouses me for sure. So much so that she will use it during sex when she is ready for me to climax. She will tell me how hard she will spank me if I do not please her and she demands obedience which really get me there.  I am not aroused when I am over her knee however I can become very emotional.  I don't come to real tears easily but she has had my eyes watering and the guilt of what got me spanked can be overwhelming. I definitely am very verbal over her knee almost immediately begging her to stop even though I really don't want her to.  The pain is so intense I would say anything for a brief break.