Emotionally Arousing Spanking Fantasies

[christyspanks]

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

[Naughtyboy50]

Hi Christy,

super interesting question.  Yes, I definitely relate to what you describe, at least my perception of what you are asking/describing.  Spanking and discipline carries a very emotional reaction for me (not crying) - in the form of wanting or craving, embarrassment, trepidation, dread and nervousness with intense physical arousal - even when simply discussing the topic.  It’s like all senses go into overdrive at the mention of spanking in general.  Both simply mentioning a possible spanking session or threat, and discussing the topic in general. My feelings about spanking as a topic   for me,  are very emotional and sexual in nature. However, the emotional piece is the most important part of the entire subject.

 

i hope that answered your question 

NB50

[christyspanks]

Thanks for sharing your response. I now wish that I could go back and edit my posting where I mentioned "intense arousal causing you to become intensely aroused" ha. I'm glad you were able to see through that to the question being asked. I think you are exactly the kind of person that I am the most intrigued with, in that you are driven by the emotional response you feel when thinking about being spanked. Those feelings of dread, nervousness and the embarrassment are all drawing you like a moth to a flame. The myriad of emotions are hard wired to the most sexual part of you and I'm sure you've reached the point of ejaculating many times, simply from thinking about and speaking about being spanked. 

[Naughtyboy50]

Well said - I'm not sure I have ejaculated from the thought alone, but definitely close to the edge...Seems like we are aligned 

[stormmason]

Yes I do. Especially if it's because of a certain instance (being scolded and humiliated before the spanking because I wasn't applying myself, ten fold if it's related to school or writing). 

[gravano]

On 10/15/2019 at 12:06 PM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

I am aroused in the way you describe by the thought of being spanked by a strong woman.  The actual act often produces a more fearful response that destroys the the arousal unless it is clearly an erotic spanking. 
 

The language of spanking is extremely arousing for me, and I actually need to fantasize about spanking to get aroused.  However, while this seems fun (and often feels that way), I am told that this is the result of sexualizing fear and trauma from an early age to cope with it. 

[Batti Batti]

Very interesting question. I remember vividly when I spanked one woman, with whom there was that bit of an 'edge' between us - she annoyed me in various ways, which made the desire to spank her have a particular emotional dimension, feeling her to deserve it. It made the whole thing all the more intensely arousing for us both. 

I also imagine the idea of watching someone punished who one feels truly deserves it would have a similar charge.

[christyspanks]

For me there has always been a strange fascination in seeing someone become electrified with emotions and arousal at the same time, as a result of their anticipation of their spanking, during the spanking or even after it. These various stages of the punishment process each have their own unique elements which I believe contribute to the overall experience for the person being spanked. I personally have never had an interest in angrily or forcefully spanking someone, as it is much more intriguing for me when I know the person I'm spanking (or witnessing being spanked) is actually yearning for the experience. They're yearning for the vulnerability, the nervousness, the embarrassment, the exposure....all because these emotions have the greatest effect on them. To be a part of this process in which a spankee reaches the pinnacle of emotional arousal is a very powerful and memorable experience. 

My only experience thus far with this has been with my husband....who lovingly asks me to help him relive his childhood spankings, and the storm of emotions he feels will cause him to become so overwhelmed and he will eventually start ejaculating. 

[Batti Batti]

Can you imagine a situation in which you are there to witness someone being made to admit all they have done wrong, and finally accept that they deserve to be punished, and being told how they will be, in what manner, but not straight away, so as to be able to witness all their feelings of shame, trepidation, anticipation for some time? I think that would create a really intimate connection between you and them, even if someone else is to carry out the punishment.

[Handily]

5 minutes ago, Batti Batti said:

Can you imagine a situation in which you are there to witness someone being made to admit all they have done wrong, and finally accept that they deserve to be punished, and being told how they will be, in what manner, but not straight away, so as to be able to witness all their feelings of shame, trepidation, anticipation for some time? I think that would create a really intimate connection between you and them, even if someone else is to carry out the punishment.

 A similar situation would be one in which you and another person are both together preparing for, undergoing, and re-living, a spanking admistered to the two of you by another person.

            H.

[Explorify]

12 minutes ago, Handily said:

 A similar situation would be one in which you and another person are both together preparing for, undergoing, and re-living, a spanking admistered to the two of you by another person.

            H.

      I  agree that this would be extremely exciting and should lead to an intense bond between the 'ee's.  Has anyone experienced such a thing IRL? -Ex.

[christyspanks]

 

16 minutes ago, Batti Batti said:

Can you imagine a situation in which you are there to witness someone being made to admit all they have done wrong, and finally accept that they deserve to be punished, and being told how they will be, in what manner, but not straight away, so as to be able to witness all their feelings of shame, trepidation, anticipation for some time? I think that would create a really intimate connection between you and them, even if someone else is to carry out the punishment.

oh most definitely! This is a good example of exactly the sort of thing I'm talking about. I think it would start with a person who has developed intense thoughts and fantasies surrounding their own spanking. The thoughts and fantasies are difficult because they know it's something that will hurt them, embarrass them, and make them feel ashamed...yet these feelings draw them like a moth to a flame. To be willingly placed in a position where he or she would have to confess their wrong doing in front of others would create an extraordinary vulnerability. To be able to simply discuss this process with a spankee and see them react emotionally and sexually is fascinating. It exposes the deepest, most sexual part of them

[Batti Batti]

5 minutes ago, christyspanks said:

 

oh most definitely! This is a good example of exactly the sort of thing I'm talking about. I think it would start with a person who has developed intense thoughts and fantasies surrounding their own spanking. The thoughts and fantasies are difficult because they know it's something that will hurt them, embarrass them, and make them feel ashamed...yet these feelings draw them like a moth to a flame. To be willingly placed in a position where he or she would have to confess their wrong doing in front of others would create an extraordinary vulnerability. To be able to simply discuss this process with a spankee and see them react emotionally and sexually is fascinating. It exposes the deepest, most sexual part of them

After that, and especially if you were there to see the spanking, you would have seen them at their most vulnerable, and that would bring memories which wouldn't likely go away for either of you. A few words from you could bring up all the shame, all the hurt, again, and that's something which could have both an erotic and a very intimate dimension, but one with so much to do with a power given to you. And they would know you could heighten their shame by telling others too.

[Davyd]

I notice that for most male ee's their cock has various reactions during the process of spanking them... Undressing results in hardness of cock. that generally fades during the scolding and spanking.. to reappear when standing in corner later.  I have no interest in finding out if they want or need a release after their spanking so whatever they do is never done in my presence. 

One single gal I use to chat with a lot-she went to a spanker on a fairly regular basis- told me that after the nude spankings she got that had no sexual play at all (she never wanted that with the er) when she left his home, before she drove off with a very sore butt, she needed to masturbate. I think that the trigger between spanking and release varies with each person. 

[Naughtyboy50]

On 10/26/2019 at 7:02 AM, christyspanks said:

For me there has always been a strange fascination in seeing someone become electrified with emotions and arousal at the same time, as a result of their anticipation of their spanking, during the spanking or even after it. These various stages of the punishment process each have their own unique elements which I believe contribute to the overall experience for the person being spanked. I personally have never had an interest in angrily or forcefully spanking someone, as it is much more intriguing for me when I know the person I'm spanking (or witnessing being spanked) is actually yearning for the experience. They're yearning for the vulnerability, the nervousness, the embarrassment, the exposure....all because these emotions have the greatest effect on them. To be a part of this process in which a spankee reaches the pinnacle of emotional arousal is a very powerful and memorable experience. 

My only experience thus far with this has been with my husband....who lovingly asks me to help him relive his childhood spankings, and the storm of emotions he feels will cause him to become so overwhelmed and he will eventually start ejaculating. 

This is a super interesting perspective.  For me, the emotional and psychological part of the spanking is just as important as the physical act.  Somehow feeling like I’ve done something to deserve the spanking has a profound impact on the experience. I personally don’t want to be humiliated/insulted but do crave stern scoldings      My wife will occasionally partake in the physical act, however the psychological part is not something she is interested in to date.  Maybe one day....   it is such a conundrum for me because I appreciate the willingness and effort for the physical act but without the emotional and psychological components, there is a big hole left for me in the experience.  It’s a Really  challenging dilemma 

[christyspanks]

4 minutes ago, Naughtyboy50 said:

This is a super interesting perspective.  For me, the emotional and psychological part of the spanking is just as important as the physical act.  Somehow feeling like I’ve done something to deserve the spanking has a profound impact on the experience. I personally don’t want to be humiliated/insulted but do crave stern scoldings      My wife will occasionally partake in the physical act, however the psychological part is not something she is interested in to date.  Maybe one day....   it is such a conundrum for me because I appreciate the willingness and effort for the physical act but without the emotional and psychological components, there is a big hole left for me in the experience.  It’s a Really  challenging dilemma 

Thanks for sharing your personal situation. I would fully agree that there is a particular marriage of that psychological component which I'm sure stems from your childhood, and the physical burning, stinging pain of the spanking you're receiving. You need to experience both together in order to really fulfill what your heart is yearning for. It's not even that you want to intentionally do things which would cause you to deserve a spanking, but you know that there are reasons why this is something you deeply deserve. There's a very particular process by which the embarrassing punishment you know you deserve will unfold and all of the components must be there. I am most fascinated by the idea of seeing you in every stage of this process and being able to see clearly how it's all effecting you. What a powerful release it would be for you to lovingly accept what you know you deserve, by someone you know loves you...and to feel comforted by the fact that it's all right for you. As embarrassing and shameful as it is for your private parts to be fully exposed and your bottom lashed with a belt or a paddle....you know that you're in the hands of someone who is lovingly correcting you....and all of this touches you so deeply that you can only surrender as the semen starts pouring out of your penis. 

[Naughtyboy50]

Wow. You are 100% on the money. 

[Marcsbabygirl]

Oh yes. I get aroused when I kno I’ve done something naughty & my bf will def b disappointed. I’m so turned on when he’s scolding me in a very calm voice while he’s putting me over his knee. The anticipation so sexual I cum just thinking about it

[Cjmusicfan]

On 10/15/2019 at 12:06 PM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

Hey.  Totally agree with your post. Was in a relationship many years ago where disciplinary spankings were like foreplay. Would love to chat this up!! 

[firm_receiving_firm_giving]

On 10/15/2019 at 11:06 AM, christyspanks said:

I'm curious if there is anyone here who is effected emotionally and sexually by the actual act or even just the thought of being spanked/punished? There have always been scenarios in my mind in which I envision someone becoming very emotional, perhaps even crying as they think about how much they deserve to be spanked/disciplined....and the intense arousal they are feeling as they think about this causes them to become intensely aroused. So there becomes this powerful marriage of intense emotions and burning arousal which causes them to masturbate feverishly. 

I love the thought of seeing someone reach this state, where even just the thought or description of the punishment he or she deserves bring them to a powerful, emotional climax. If this sounds like you, maybe we can share thoughts. Perhaps this is a connection you've needed to find for a long time. 

Oh yes, I get very much into the emotion and leadup to the spanking.  The dread, trying to get out if it, etc.  I'm much more of a spankee than spanker and need the strict discipline (or threat of) in my life.   I'm very much into the emotion of it.   

[Takeit]

I like to get spanked hard

[Chawsee]

On 10/21/2019 at 10:47 PM, gravano said:

The language of spanking is extremely arousing for me, and I actually need to fantasize about spanking to get aroused.  However, while this seems fun (and often feels that way), I am told that this is the result of sexualizing fear and trauma from an early age to cope with it. 

I've read the psych theories about spanking fetishes being caused by sexualizing trauma from an early age. Don't know accurate this is, since some spankos were never spanked as children. But it may be very true for others. Either way, it's an interesting question. I relate to your first sentence above.

[Sparklebuns]

This is true for me. The idea can excite me to the point of almost climax. Adding the thought of some embarrassment along with the spanking heightens it even more. If I am able to have sex after a spanking, the orgasm is strong. I think a good piece of it is the mental state spanking puts me in, but also the stinging burning and pain of it. I enjoy the mental state a stern lecture and the submission it’s put me into. I’m not sure why or how I am this way. It’s been since I was very young. I remember “discovering” myself while thinking of and fantasizing about being spanked. Is this what you’re asking?

[gravano]

On 2/27/2020 at 1:19 AM, Chawsee said:

I've read the psych theories about spanking fetishes being caused by sexualizing trauma from an early age. Don't know accurate this is, since some spankos were never spanked as children. But it may be very true for others. Either way, it's an interesting question. I relate to your first sentence above.

I realize that it is not true for everyone, but it is definitely true for me because I have strongly conflicting emotions about it which have caused me a lot of trouble.  I experience a lot of things spankos are OK with as cruel and hateful and have very strong reactions to them which seems pretty clearly linked to trauma.  

[Chawsee]

4 hours ago, gravano said:

I realize that it is not true for everyone, but it is definitely true for me because I have strongly conflicting emotions about it which have caused me a lot of trouble.  I experience a lot of things spankos are OK with as cruel and hateful and have very strong reactions to them which seems pretty clearly linked to trauma.  

This makes sense, Gravano. No one in the world knows better what you've been through than you, yourself. I was not traumatized growing up, but I, too, have strong reactions against many things I've witnessed in the spanking world-- in particular the abusive and hateful way that bottoms are sometimes treated by domineering tops. Why those EEs stay with such ERs and continue to tolerate this treatment is beyond me. Just realize that not all disciplinarians are like that.