Holding Position

[Lita]

I never can. I'm a crybaby and won't hold still. And I try because getting talked to about it along with the extra I get-not necessarily more whacks but having to wear what I'm told,etc. can be humiliating. But it's not just what I want. I couldn't imagine being the one in charge. 

[Adek]

On 2/12/2020 at 5:54 AM, Chawsee said:

I require a spankee to assume the position I put him in and to remain there. This is for his safety as well as mine. On a parallel note, when I give the instruction to get over my knee, I mean NOW. I'm not a sadist, though, so my requests are never cruel. The spankee's comfort is foremost in order for him to get the most out of the session. But yes, immediate compliance, and holding the position requested, is requisite. 

Hi Chawsee, I'm really interested in how you have succeed with this. My ER does not want all the rigmarole of restraints and we both want discipline to be applied quickly and with minimal inconvenience to her schedule. You say that holding position is a requisite but how do you make your EE comply? I simply am unable to stay still. I think both of us are disappointed after the spanking.  I get completely out off position pulling trousers up, turning round etc... I don't want to but I have only one thought at the time which is to run. We are both relatively new. If not is there a simple way a woman <60Kg can restrain a man 75kg to take a punishment spanking?

[Chawsee]

On 1/13/2021 at 7:39 AM, Adek said:

Hi Chawsee, I'm really interested in how you have succeed with this. My ER does not want all the rigmarole of restraints and we both want discipline to be applied quickly and with minimal inconvenience to her schedule. You say that holding position is a requisite but how do you make your EE comply? I simply am unable to stay still. I think both of us are disappointed after the spanking.  I get completely out off position pulling trousers up, turning round etc... I don't want to but I have only one thought at the time which is to run. We are both relatively new. If not is there a simple way a woman <60Kg can restrain a man 75kg to take a punishment spanking?

Hi Adek! I know what you're saying. It's hard to remain perfectly still, and most spankees receiving a punishment session can't do it, especially when they're new at this. There are a few things that can help. First, since these are punishment spankings, rather than erotic sessions, make sure your ER is doing an adequate job of scolding/lecturing you. This puts the spankee in a more receptive mindset, which, believe it or not, makes them better able to tolerate punishment. I recommend that she give you instructions, such as, "Over my lap! Now put your hands flat on the floor and stay in that position! You understand?" Being told exactly what to do can really help. For example, you would never be allowed to pull up your trousers or turn around while I was spanking you.  But you would have been told exactly what TO do.

Next, work on relaxing into the swats, instead of bracing against them. If you can't do this for the duration of the spanking, at least start out that way, if possible. It acts as a warm-up, gets blood flowing to the buttocks, and softens the muscles so they can handle more. As you focus on relaxing into the swats, also focus on keeping your breathing deep. It's our natural instinct to tense up and hold our breath while being spanked. Train yourself, instead, to relax and breathe deep. Both help, a lot. Another reason you may not be able to hold position could be that she's starting out too hard too soon. Some punishment disciplinarians don't believe in warm-ups, and that's fine, as a hard spanking from start to finish works well for them and their spankee/s. However, I do believe in warmups. It causes less physical damage and increases what a spankee can handle during a session. It's prudent to begin each spanking with a proper warmup, at least while you're learning.

If all else fails, your ER can leg-lock you, which WILL hold you in place without the use of BDSM restraints. However, I recommend this as a last resort, if it becomes necessary for both your safety and hers. She would not want to land a swat improperly because you're thrashing, nor take a blow herself from your flailing body, so learning to quiet your movements benefits both of you. The downfall of the leg-lock, though, is that it tends to induce even more panic in the spankee because of the confinement it creates. It's also less comfortable because your weight is now supported over one leg of your ER, instead of her entire lap. But it does work, and even a smaller woman can effectively restrain a larger man this way. 

Be patient with each other and give yourself time to toughen up. It takes a while, trust me. Also remember that everyone's pain threshold is different. The buttocks are rich with nerve endings, so they're already sensitive, and some people simply have more nerve endings present in this area than others. Even strong, tough men sometimes have a tender bottom, and there's no shame in this at all. In fact, it's actually endearing. Hope this helped. Feel free to PM me if you need me to explain any of this better. 

[Adek]

2 hours ago, Chawsee said:

Hi Adek! I know what you're saying. It's hard to remain perfectly still, and most spankees receiving a punishment session can't do it, especially when they're new at this. There are a few things that can help. First, since these are punishment spankings, rather than erotic sessions, make sure your ER is doing an adequate job of scolding/lecturing you. This puts the spankee in a more receptive mindset, which, believe it or not, makes them better able to tolerate punishment. I recommend that she give you instructions, such as, "Over my lap! Now put your hands flat on the floor and stay in that position! You understand?" Being told exactly what to do can really help. For example, you would never be allowed to pull up your trousers or turn around while I was spanking you.  But you would have been told exactly what TO do.

Next, work on relaxing into the swats, instead of bracing against them. If you can't do this for the duration of the spanking, at least start out that way, if possible. It acts as a warm-up, gets blood flowing to the buttocks, and softens the muscles so they can handle more. As you focus on relaxing into the swats, also focus on keeping your breathing deep. It's our natural instinct to tense up and hold our breath while being spanked. Train yourself, instead, to relax and breathe deep. Both help, a lot. Another reason you may not be able to hold position could be that she's starting out too hard too soon. Some punishment disciplinarians don't believe in warm-ups, and that's fine, as a hard spanking from start to finish works well for them and their spankee/s. However, I do believe in warmups. It causes less physical damage and increases what a spankee can handle during a session. It's prudent to begin each spanking with a proper warmup, at least while you're learning.

If all else fails, your ER can leg-lock you, which WILL hold you in place without the use of BDSM restraints. However, I recommend this as a last resort, if it becomes necessary for both your safety and hers. She would not want to land a swat improperly because you're thrashing, nor take a blow herself from your flailing body, so learning to quiet your movements benefits both of you. The downfall of the leg-lock, though, is that it tends to induce even more panic in the spankee because of the confinement it creates. It's also less comfortable because your weight is now supported over one leg of your ER, instead of her entire lap. But it does work, and even a smaller woman can effectively restrain a larger man this way. 

Be patient with each other and give yourself time to toughen up. It takes a while, trust me. Also remember that everyone's pain threshold is different. The buttocks are rich with nerve endings, so they're already sensitive, and some people simply have more nerve endings present in this area than others. Even strong, tough men sometimes have a tender bottom, and there's no shame in this at all. In fact, it's actually endearing. Hope this helped. Feel free to PM me if you need me to explain any of this better. 

Wow Chawsee, thanks for such a full and detailed answer. I will share this post with my wife so we can both learn from it. I really do appreciate the amount of effort you put into responding to newbies and your insights over a number of posts have helped a lot. 

[Chicagospankee]

My mentor is ok with some squirming and wiggling. You can’t hold perfectly still because it hurts! But if I’m trying to scoot off her lap or standing up when I’m supposed to be bending over she gives a warning and then penalty strokes if I don’t obey. I think that is fair, and I like being told to stay in position. It’s a small way you can test how serious your spanker is. If I start getting extra swats I shape up really quickly and it brings my mind to why I have to be in that position instead of how I can get out of it. It focuses me and helps me submit to My punishment and shows respect of authority to my spanker. I appreciate the feeling of submission and allowing my spanker to take control and care for me even if it hurts my butt a lot to do it. 

[MrBottoms]

19 minutes ago, Chicagospankee said:

My mentor is ok with some squirming and wiggling. You can’t hold perfectly still because it hurts! But if I’m trying to scoot off her lap or standing up when I’m supposed to be bending over she gives a warning and then penalty strokes if I don’t obey. I think that is fair, and I like being told to stay in position. It’s a small way you can test how serious your spanker is. If I start getting extra swats I shape up really quickly and it brings my mind to why I have to be in that position instead of how I can get out of it. It focuses me and helps me submit to My punishment and shows respect of authority to my spanker. I appreciate the feeling of submission and allowing my spanker to take control and care for me even if it hurts my butt a lot to do it. 

Yes of course. You have our most deepest sympathy. ?  However...........there is not to be Squirming, Wiggling or even Clinching in "My Administration". Lest there be penalty strokes to follow.   ?

[Chawsee]

21 hours ago, Adek said:

Wow Chawsee, thanks for such a full and detailed answer. I will share this post with my wife so we can both learn from it. I really do appreciate the amount of effort you put into responding to newbies and your insights over a number of posts have helped a lot. 

Thank you for your kind words, Adek. I'm still learning myself, so I'm far from having all the answers. But if I can share anything that's helped me along the way, I'm happy to. Give your wife my best regards.

[REALTEARS]

i sometimes find it really hard to stay in postion as i kick squirm reach back eps when bare bottom hairbrushed otk it does lead to harder disipline but learning the hard way!

[Oldbrat]

On 8/5/2019 at 10:06 AM, Whackslyrical said:

What do others thing about the spankee having to hold position, with the threat of extras if they stand up or reach back to rub?

If held firmly over the knee this obviously doesn't apply - though excessive kicking and wriggling could rather spoil the aim.

Bent over (unrestrained) in any way it is more down to the spankees self discipline.

Frankly - I like to get a break of position as it shows a stroke has been effective, as well as giving me the opportunity to prolong the session.

 

Just wondering what others thought on this are?

 

 

I am not sure if this actually answers your question. This question is hitting home for me. Since she is my HOH -yes at her home or long distance, I humiliated my self for not holding position real recently. I can go into why I didn't, however, it doesn't change the fact I did not. 

 

The question on whether a threat of extras if I stood up or reach back to rub would have prevented it. I am so ashamed to admit it would not have helped.  Please don't take this as a submissive/slavish or masochistic statement; however, I did not sleep more than a couple hours trying to deal with how lucky I am to be loved and in love with this beautiful, intelligent, loving lady and my disrespectful, offensive, distasteful behavior. I do feel that added punishment was appropriate because I was unable to stay in position. Plus, totally agree with if pinned with legs firmly and if possible at least the upper body dangling, over the knee leaves the spankee/disciplinee/one being punished safe from harm and removes the question of staying virtually mute.

 

I am vanilla, no disrespect intend in advance, and see Domestic Discipline as different from the bdsm lifestyle; so again, please don't take this as a submissive/slavish or masochistic statement, But honestly, I wish she had not been so understanding. I wish Mom word have sent me bare bottom to a wall, honestly don't recall if she has a corner, and then bend me over applied somewhere between six to thirty-nine with a strap or paddle then put me back over her knee with at least upper body dangling to prevent me from doing it again starting over again. I believe my action was not only disrespectful but could have been dangerous had she been in the process of a swing. It could have re-broken my tail bone or added damage to my sciatica. No, I am not trying to top from the bottom; there is a reason for the maximum of thirty-nine.

 

My former wife would agree with you on a breaking point, she would make sure she paced her strength and strokes  giving herself the opportunity to blister the entire bottom without effecting  my sciatica or where my tailbone as well as giving her the opportunity to prolong the session and get multiple trophies visible on my bottom .

[MrRitter]

I once got a spankee so good with the bath brush (I'll admit, it was mainly the brush itself that did the work), that I wound up having to sit on her to keep her from jumping off the bed with each swat! 

In more "normal" instances, I find the classic leg lock does quite well for OTK.

[rubyredd]

11 minutes ago, MrRitter said:

I once got a spankee so good with the bath brush (I'll admit, it was mainly the brush itself that did the work), that I wound up having to sit on her to keep her from jumping off the bed with each swat! 

In more "normal" instances, I find the classic leg lock does quite well for OTK.

That sounds cruel and unusual. ?

[MrRitter]

I had to do what I had to do to get the job done. 

[NaughtyCollegeGirl]

Some wiggling is okay, or even tensing up, but if you touch your bottom, disobey your ER, or don't get back into position within a few seconds when receiving strokes, you can bet on penalty swats. 

[REALTEARS]

I personally find it hard to keep position sometimes when over the knee and the bath brush is ponding my bare bottom I kick squirm kick and clench and yell! I am getting better at self control but learning the hard  way bet a few people on here could teach me control! I am learning the hard way by extra spanks?!!

[rei]

    I just can't. Even if it's involuntary (? I always have my doubts) I'm going to have to let go. I also have a problem with getting wet-not just from that but in general. It's not harmful but it's so embarrassing. It's not pee but it can be so much that I just will. Luckily most of the people I have been with.... my S.O. thinks it's cute I can't believe I'm posting 

[EliotandTom]

When I'm bent over in the corner for ten or fifteen minutes after an extremely severe spanking, I sometimes can no longer take it and involuntary jump up and rub my butt. When this happens, I am contrite and ashamed. Firstly, I deserve my flaming behind and should have to suffer with it before I am allowed to get dressed and serve probation for the day. Moreover, I have submitted to someone who has been gracious enough to agree tan my butt for my misbehavior, and disobeying his directions is rebellious and ungrateful.  In fact, often I cry "I'm sorry, sir," and, without being told, go straight to the closet, retrieve the strap before and lay it on the chair before I am given directions for my repeat penalty spanking after which I am made to bend over the chair so that Sir can give me around 15 licks with the strap. However during my spankings proper, I never have any problem holding position. In fact, I try to arch my back and stick out my backside into each stroke. I deserved this, I consented, even asked for it: I need to participate in my own punishment. Even if I've had a double-spanking for getting up and grabbing/rubbing my butt while I am in the corner, I still while bent over the wooden make sure that my backside is fully presented and easily accessible for my Sir to punish.         

[ColoradoRed7]

Yes, my wife will have an extra hard swat if I move out of position even a little. She LOVES it. She will say in a loud voice, HOLD STILL! She also purposely gets the redwood paddle, which really stings and I am not allowed out of position. She next wants to have me sit in the snow for a minute, then get spanked where I am not allowed to move.

It is scary! 🥶

[NewTimmims]

Oh yeah I give extra for that

[Justin Jones]

My GF is like statue her mom taught her well .  

[nicoleS39]

Fir more prolonged, severe spankings...he restrains me. I just cannot hold position for those. It is as much about my safety in moving in such a way that might cause him to accidentally hit me where it is not safe and could cause i jury...as it is about demonstrating his dominance over me. I have learned to appreciate it, even though it means the severity will always be much more i tense...for both reasons.

[Longtimespanking]

1 hour ago, nicoleS39 said:

Fir more prolonged, severe spankings...he restrains me. I just cannot hold position for those. It is as much about my safety in moving in such a way that might cause him to accidentally hit me where it is not safe and could cause i jury...as it is about demonstrating his dominance over me. I have learned to appreciate it, even though it means the severity will always be much more i tense...for both reasons.

This is exactly why I also often choose to restrain the women I spank, particularly when the spanking is going to be lengthy or more severe.  Dominance as their disciplinarian definitely figures into it, and intensifying their emotions by increasing their vulnerability by being restrained is also part of it. But preventing unwanted, sudden movements that could unintentionally result in injury is also a major factor and no one would want that to happen. 

I feel that someone who chooses to be submissive needs to agree to be 100% submissive by consenting to be restrained in whatever manner I feel is needed at any given time. 

[DisobedientHuby]

On 3/20/2020 at 10:15 PM, Lita said:

I never can. I'm a crybaby and won't hold still. And I try because getting talked to about it along with the extra I get-not necessarily more whacks but having to wear what I'm told,etc. can be humiliating. But it's not just what I want. I couldn't imagine being the one in charge. 

I have the same issue when the pain seems to be more than I can take. I put my hand back or get out of position this usually assures that she is not finished but if she let's me off the hook I end up resenting  her for it because I asked her to take control of me in the first place and I know enough is really never enough. 

[ianl]

I am not overly experienced, but I would think its really important not to be moving about, for your own safety, taking a blow to an area that has organs and such big no no, but flipside I imagine during a serious punishment it would be really difficult not to move when it hurts like hell. 

[MmPrague]

My tastes are quite variable according to the mood, but there is a lot to be said for having to grab your ankles and hold that position. For me it makes the experience that much more intense. I would say some wriggling is acceptable but jumping up or protecting your buttocks should earn you extra strokes. 

[TroubleMaker76]

As an EE I like to hold a position either in the corner or having to touch my toes with my bared bottom in the air not knowing when I’ll be smacked again.