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Hi there--

I'm editing this topic a little. I'm wondering, for people who do enjoy erotic spanking, or the act of spanking, when did you know that spanking was more than just discipline or some such? When did you know it would be important to your life or identity? Was it hard to come to terms with that?

Rich.

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My parents didn't spank growing up but they knew spanking turned me on. I always played house with my neighbor and cousins and would constantly spank them (starting at 8). 

Then  they discovered that I had taken McLintock, magnificent 7, and a whole bunch of cartoon videos featuring spanking up to my room to watch on my TV. 

 

I could never understand why they weren't more angry, until I accidently opened a box addressed to my dad that contained a cane and an inscribed paddle for use on my mom. 

Spanking must be genetic for me :) 

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I find it sad and a little ridiculous that because a couple people cross the line, those of us that don't can't discuss events that made us how we are. 

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5 hours ago, FinallyFree said:

I find it sad and a little ridiculous that because a couple people cross the line, those of us that don't can't discuss events that made us how we are. 

Is it just me or are you kind of testy lately?  lol

I get where you're coming from but one can easily say "yes I was spanked as a child".  There's no reason to go into any further discussions.  

I don't recall what the original thread completely stated but the topic would have likely gone in a bad direction.

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Sure you can say that and stop there but if that's all that can be said why even bother?  It does no good to mention it all if you can't expand on why you think it has a bearing on your current situation.  Those of us that have had perfectly innocent spanking experiences growing up have been cut out of the discussion of why we are how we are altogether.  Why am I a spanko?  I can't tell you because it will violate the rules.  I may as well go watch the bratting in chat. 

 

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5 minutes ago, FinallyFree said:

Sure you can say that and stop there but if that's all that can be said why even bother?  It does no good to mention it all if you can't expand on why you think it has a bearing on your current situation.  Those of us that have had perfectly innocent spanking experiences growing up have been cut out of the discussion of why we are how we are altogether.  Why am I a spanko?  I can't tell you because it will violate the rules.  I may as well go watch the bratting in chat. 

 

Lmao there's still bratting in chat?  Yeah, I guess if how you were spanked, what with, what position, how many times, etc etc has to be added to why you are a spanko it would pose a great problem.  Hmmm so am I even allowed to say things like... My mom says I was a complete brat as a child and needed spanked at least once a week.  After that spanking, I'd be good for a week before I would need it again.  

P.S.  Admins, my apologies if my comment infringes on the rules at all.  

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I fully understand that some cross a line but when you aren't supposed to expand beyond, "yes I was spanked" even to simply say by who or why, how you felt about it, then yes, it can be a problem in explaining why you are what you are.  

 

 

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I get what you're saying Free.  I haven't been around much to notice how exactly people were taking it over the line.  I guess for me, it doesn't matter as much because I don't think my interest in spanking stemmed from childhood.  For those that believe it did, they're unable to talk about it and possibly fully understand their need.  One would think that maybe with a little discussion, the members as a whole could come to a middle ground so to speak.

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I remeber i was about 8 or 9yo, my brother and myself got into trouble to be honest i dont even remeber what i did. We were sent ro our rooms to await our punishment. My brother was first i could hear my dad spanking him with the belt and him begging for him to stop. I just sat in my room, not crying, not worried, but strangely enough couldnt wait. When he came to my turn my dad came in pulled my pink jammies down put me across his lap and started spanking my little butt. I can remeber thi king is he going easier on me then my brother because this doesn't hurt at all. I got a total of 10 swats with the belt and a couple with is hand. But wven talking about it now im getting arroused. My first husband used to spank me i never asked he just did. I begged my second husband he never would, my current hubby wven made me a paddle, it hurts like hell and i love it! 

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14 minutes ago, Spankedmedic said:

I remeber i was about 8 or 9yo, my brother and myself got into trouble to be honest i dont even remeber what i did. We were sent ro our rooms to await our punishment. My brother was first i could hear my dad spanking him with the belt and him begging for him to stop. I just sat in my room, not crying, not worried, but strangely enough couldnt wait. When he came to my turn my dad came in pulled my pink jammies down put me across his lap and started spanking my little butt. I can remeber thi king is he going easier on me then my brother because this doesn't hurt at all. I got a total of 10 swats with the belt and a couple with is hand. But wven talking about it now im getting arroused. My first husband used to spank me i never asked he just did. I begged my second husband he never would, my current hubby wven made me a paddle, it hurts like hell and i love it! 

I see that you're new to the site so welcome.  It would be a good idea to for you to read this post 

 

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On 8/15/2017 at 4:46 PM, FinallyFree said:

I fully understand that some cross a line but when you aren't supposed to expand beyond, "yes I was spanked" even to simply say by who or why, how you felt about it, then yes, it can be a problem in explaining why you are what you are.  

 

 

In the chat, in inevitably causes people to cross the line. It's like Godwin's law. The probability of things getting creepy when someone brings up child CP approaches 1. You might say, "Punish the people who make it creepy", but everyone's definition of creepy is different. Moreover, it generally leads to debate--which is also nasty and against the rules. 

I can give some advice. Since eroticism is a major component of spanking for me, I often get into PM discussions that I feel are inappropriate for the site. When that does come up, I go to ChatStep or TinyChat--basically services that let you set up instant chatrooms without registration. So you can continue your discussion without someone else needing to register. If you're worried about violating the rules, you could take discussions there. You could also have a link to a blog or pastebin post where you discuss the history of your spanking, and how you became a spanko. Then you can just say "PM me to know more about how I became a spanko" on your profile, and send people to that link. It's a win-win--you get to not worry about violating the site's rules, and SN doesn't have to worry about being liable if things get inappropriate somewhere else. 

You can't discuss child CP much at all in the main chat, and you can't (technically) discuss it much in PMs, though I suspect you'd be safe unless someone reported you for making them uncomfortable. That's an inconvenience, sure--but welcome to the SN "black sheep" club. There are a lot of people who have to censor themselves a lot more in the chat room. I have to filter about 95% of myself--anyone has to filter themselves a bit in any community. It's just part of how things are. 

Finally, here are some ways that you may be able to get your "fix" in the public chat without violating the rules. 

  • A lot of people (myself included) talk about how certain punishments make us feel childish--degraded in a certain way, or comfortable/secure. 
  • There's a lot of child-like "play"--diapering, timeouts, mouth soaping, even OTK. 
  • You can talk about spanking experiences and how they affected you without specifying that they were in your childhood. 
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Guest Warwick

I guess as an 'ee it's mostly about pure discipline for me but when I've explored my 'er side its much more about giving a deserving lady a nice warmed up bottom and a massage. I can only be honest about myself and thats how I am. 

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For me spanking 'folds' into age regression and being a little, the resumption of as adult came from that community. I think the issue with children and cp being mentioned on this site can be seen from the OP which invites us to look the point in childhood where  spanking moved beyond what was in there life to something more sensual if not sexual and at that point you've taken three 'toxic' ingredients and made a powerful cocktail even if that wasn't their intent.

That said, as Bi-kellie alluded to there are ways a legitimate connection from your own personal experiences can be  shown without violation of the Rules and what you do offsite is only subject to the law as it applies in your Country/Province.

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I believe there are people that are born with a predisposition to spanking for whatever reason in the universe. Reincarnation from previous lives? I don't know, I just know and believe I'm one of them, my wife does as well. That we were lovers in the Victorian era as she loves the clothing of that age the most. Others  I believe are drawn into it by an event or events in their lives, including being spanked in childhood. No-one here will ever say they were erotic or exciting at that time, because they weren't. My wife had stated that I'm secretly wishing my mother would have spanked me more in my youth. I adamantly disagree, as that's the furthest reason from the truth. The thought of it doesn't excite me at all. But at the hands of my sexy, mature, loving wife? That's very arousing to me. Others may be seeking the feelings of security and love they felt from the parent that punished them, I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist so I'm just speculating. Some may have watched a movie when young, with a spanking scene in it, that got them aroused (me as well). And in today's world, the internet as we all know is loaded with content on the subject, mostly free and accessible to everyone, including kids ( I disagree with how easy anyone can get anything) from the web. There should be more parental, easier ways to block porn from our babies. That's another topic! Wherever, however we found the itch for exploring and experimenting and living the lifestyle, isn't of much importance to me, and I believe most spanko's. I've tried looking back at my past years ago, trying to figure out why? After years of looking at the events I remember when young, I could never definately say, ahhhh that's what did it. I just accept that it excites, enthralls, and can be exhilarating to share with a mate. As long as there's no baggage from the past, just enjoy the present, and don't sweat it! Unless your standing on the right side of a seated lady, who's holding a large wooden hairbrush, about to tan your bottom! That makes me sweat everytime ! 

Cheers all,

Max

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I first began having spanking fantasies in my early teenage years.  Like probably most people I thought these feelings were wrong in some way.  I found spanking fantasies to be arousing.  When I became an adult, I found professionals who give spankings and play the dominate role.  I got up the courage to visit a dominatrix though I don't get into traditional BDSM.  I just have a fetish for spanking.  It is an erotic and stress relieving experience and I learned to accept my desires.  Over the years, since cost was prohibitive, I visited professionals occasionally. Nowadays, I just don't have the money to spend on it and I did not find a relationship to express it.  Glad to find this site.

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I was never spanked as punishment growing up, but I've always fantasized about it. 

I thought it was just a small part of me until I was in my first real relationship and started to crave it more and more. My bf back then was not kinky or a spanko and he actually laughed about my fetish... But yeah, after we broke up, I started to experiment with people in the community and started to realize that I need it in my life and in my relationships. I guess it wasn't hard for me to mentally come to term with it just because it's been brewing in me since I was in kindergarten. 

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