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I'm a 34 woman from New Hampshire anyone looking for a daddy Dom .. I hoping to find someone..

Hi everybody! I’m pleased to see so much recent activity on the board. I just joined, and I’m a 30-something female spankee, married to the most vanilla man alive 😁. (We got married young, before I’d really sorted that side of myself out. I’d still have married him, though, because he’s practically perfect otherwise). Anyway, I’m mostly interested in friendship and chatting with like-minded folks. But, if by some cosmic twist of fortune, there is a mature woman north of Madison who doles out discipline spankings to other women with poor self-regulation, you’ve found a potential fan in me.

Hello! I am a very novice spankee from Washington State. I have been attracted to the concept for several years, but have never actually practised as an adult. That being said, yes, I was spanked growing up (mostly by my mother), albeit rarely. Anyway, I am searching for a motherly spanker. Preferably a woman - I'm Bisexual, but still prefer women. An older woman as well. Race doesn't matter to me, though I am curious about dating Asian women. Appearance wise, I enjoy taller, more athletic women. However, I can drop those preferences as I am larger and working on losing weight. I'd like to use spanking for both domestic discipline and as a sexual outlet. I'm just more or less curious about how it could improve my life in an emotional and psychological sense.

Hello! I have been an avid spanko since early childhood and it is part of who I am and what I "need" in my life. My sincere hope is to find a woman with similar thoughts / desires / needs regarding spanking. I know I listed myself as a "switch" and it really is sometimes a real bummer that some, not all woman see that as some sort of "weakness". The fact of the matter is I just love the sensation when I am in an anxious or somewhat depressed mood. That is why I enjoy being spanked. As far as me being the spanker....well I think it is a great form of communication and intimacy between a man and a woman. I enjoy fulfilling her desires and needs to keep her happy in the spanking department I am open to all forms of spanking when it comes to the activity! I will not just engage in Discipline Spanking without knowing the lady very well and only when true trust and good communication is established in order to give a Discipline Spanking. I love reading stories and research on spanking. I have a fascination with "Case Studies" on women that have the spanking need and how it evolves. I am always open to hearing how it started for you.....Young Lady! Well just write me and say hello and we will see what happens. Please be at least sincere when you contact me. Thanks!

I guess this blog is quite selfishly for myself, to make sense of all this. I have been into spanking as a child and can quite clearly remember going into my own little spanko world, imagining myself in different scenarios (any but the one I was in). Spanko world was safe, loving...I was protected and held accountable. It was only until my first relationship that I found a book and read it and there were several spanking stories that it really clicked and I attempted to get my now Ex into it but though he was very open to discussing it, he just didn't have it in him. As a child growing up in a developing country I lived in a family of 5. My mom who had had an illness which is now considered non-existent as a teenager and thereafter had a damaged heart. So my whole upbringing was centered around my moms health, in and out of hospital for stays and daily for medication injections. When I was 8 I learned how to do this myself and thought I was so cool slamming a needle into my moms leg. I was a mini nurse and from a very early age quickly becoming the parent. Though I was the youngest child by 4 and 6 years I quickly took on a lot of the 'caring' responsibilities. I supported my mom going into hospital every day, going shopping doing chores etc. There was a whole other side to the dynamic though and that came with my moms temper. The youngest I can remember being abused was at 5 or 6. We were also disciplined though not always 'correctly'; 'smacked' or 'given a hiding' with a slipper, wooden spoon or hand, but it was done in anger. As I got older it was more just slaps, punches, being shoved and being pinned to a wall where I couldn't breathe. We constantly had her screaming in our faces, weren't allowed to flinch, move or look away and had to respond 'yes mom'. My sister liked to be the center of attention, where I am always eager to please and it breaks my heart to know I have dissapointed, she will do something she knows she shouldn't and announce it to the world. We never got along from the day I was born to the day we left home. She hated me and I hated the way she treated me...and it's only in the last 2 or 3 years that we are very slowly building up a bond and getting more 'sisterly love'. When I was 18 my brother found a girlfriend we all thought we loved - until she took him away from us. We didn't see or hear from him for 6 years. My mom blamed this on me - knowing her you can imagine how this played out in my life for 6 years! When I was 18 I went and worked at a 'public (the posh kind)' school and lived with the teacher I was working under. She was a very hard lady and we instantly took a disliking to each other...but it was a tough time. She kept her house freezing apart from her bedroom and the lounge which she put portable heaters in. I remember one night going to sleep with wet hair and waking up in the morning to find it frozen solid to my head and having a shower to literally defrost myself. Each day she would write down everything I did wrong and at the end of the day we would have to talk about them and apologise for each thing. At 23 I found and moved in with a man who was genuinely a lovely guy who in many ways was a dream come true. My first signs really of his temper was when he taught me to drive and if I made a mistake he punched me. Though the relationship the 'punches' happened more and more regularly. Without going into a very private part of my life, for 2 years I was raped. By the end he'd pinned me just like my mom used to several times...as you can imagine I ended it. He promised to go to anger management classes but I'd had it and the end had come. So coming from all that history why on earth am I drawn to a life where i am controlled and some vanillas would say 'abused'. Is there something in my blood where I need to be? Why is it that I feel I need a guy to be 'over' me? So I am a strong personality, a strong character with a very high standard of morals. I am not a swearer, I don't sleep around, I don't 'date' unless I can see something bigger could develop and because of my past I do not trust easily. I hold people at arms length, but once I let someone in - they are really in. I am fiercely independent and like to look after myself, i haven't had that someone looking after me, I have always been a mini parent, my own protector, the carer - and to let someone in that close to me is terrifying. Which only makes my logic of wanting this lifestyle even more confusing - there is no logic! So the way I see the DD/CDD/TIH/HOH lifestyle is a couple who are not top and bottom, not controller and controllee, not dominant and submissive but two people who love each other living life together. Both who are equal, who are important, who are cared for and loved and looked after. The difference being that when she (or in some cases he, but since I am going Biblical and God says man is the head) needs accountability, he holds her accountable. He provides guidance and boundaries for her to live within, not for control but for safety and security - then holds himself to the same rules. Her consequences come in the form of discipline whether that he spanking, restrictions, tasks etc; and his comes in being open and honest, self-correcting but also allowing her to be open and honest and holding him accountable for his actions. For once in my life I would like to not be the one doing all the caring and receiving all the abuse, I would like the caring to go both ways and to feel completely safe. Yes I know my butt will be painful at times, but I also know it's not done in temper, I am safe, loved and still protected. I don't need to live in fear, don't need to watch my back and can completely trust my partner - even at my most vulnerable. I am drawn to the accountability, with the types of abuse I have recieved and my personality type I struggle with letting people down, whether that is others or myself and to be able to let that guilt and feeling of 'sorrow from my actions' go would be amazing rather then having to bury them. I crave to have someone there who is 'looking after' me (not taking away too much of my independence), someone who wants to protect me - someone I can look up to. I struggle in life with self-discipline, and tend to act on impulse. I am very sarcastic and do occasionally get stroppy (I blame this on being a woman blessed with these delightful things called hormones *facepalm). I think the numerous things that fall under these two umbrella categories are the things that will get me 'accounting' the most. So is this lifestyle another form of abuse? Absolutely not!

Hey. Im a 20M in need of a female disciplinarian. I feel a blistered bottom and some severe punishments are a requirement for me right now.

Hi all! I'm a newly active woman on this site. I'm moving a bit north of Greenville in two weeks and would love to meet some fellow spankos. I'm a spankee most of the time but have spanked a few women and would be up to do that again.

Hii My name is Kayla, I’m in desperate such of someone to discipline me and help me keep to my goals and responsibilities. I’ve always had time and money management issue but now it’s starting to affect my school work and how I provide for my son. I’ve never been spanked or really disciplined and I feel like since I’ve never had the fear of discipline that I’ve found myself in this situation. I’m desperately and openly trying to find someone in the North Carolina’s preferably in Charlotte to help me better my life even if that means not sitting for a couple days

When you fantasize about giving a spanking or being spanked, the other person is usually... A. someone you know, but are not in a spanking relationship with. B. a current spanking partner. C. a former spanking partner. D. someone from TV / movies or another celebrity. E. imaginary. Provide specifics, if you wish.

I am curious about the relationship between introversion and extrraversion and wherher you are a spanker or spankee. so i put this poll together. I am theoriing that introverts of either sex would be spankees but I am open to being surprised!

When I decided to join this forum, the hardest part was coming up with a screen name. I didn't want a generic spanking forum name like "spank me." I didn't want a name that described me now but not necessarily always, like "novice spankee," since I might stick around for a while and my level of experience may change. I decided I should have a name that could be suitable for any kind of internet forum, but in the interests of privacy, I wanted to avoid any variant of any name I've already used online. Needless to say, it should not be anything close to my real name either. Coming up with creative names is pretty easy for me (I'm not going to tell you what I named my first pet--sorry, identity thieves!--but suffice it to say, there's probably never been another animal with that name, and I was only 3 or 4 when I came up with it). Still, it took me a couple of days to hit on the perfect name for SN me: Bramblewine. Having chosen the perfect name, I wondered what it meant. According to Google, it's a trademarked tea blend. But that's not what I am. I thought from early on that Bramblewine must be a fairy. Perhaps the one Shakespeare forgot to mention. That name could easily belong to a cohort of Peaseblossom and Mustardseed and Moth and Cobweb and Puck. But I still didn't know for sure. So I wrote a story to find out.

...or heavy canes, paddles or anything extremely disciplinarian... ...and the Disciplinarians!!! hi all, i'm a 18yo fat brat from France in need of no-nonsense Discipllinarians who know how to train a bitch and truly enjoy to do it, i found this site and i'd love to meet likeminded people!!! xxx! emmi

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Mid 40s cub with boy headspace, curious about spanking environment. Following baseballbutts1 on tumblr, enjoying the scenes. Interested in exploring motivational and/or maintenance spanking from a male my age or older.

I have been a stable and consistent member on multiple spanking sites for the duration of the last year (without intermission) and for years before that (on and off). Collectively, I have years of experience being threatened with all forms of corporal punishment, and in my lifetime of experience I have been seriously threatened with the most severe and unpleasant forms of corporal punishment on thousands of occasions, and on every single occasion, I managed to get out of it. The one and only time I did get receive it was only because I chose to - So since there are lots of spankees on this site likely being reminded daily that they face a multitude of dreadful spanking implements and other punishments should they misbehave, and I'm sure that the people who are unable to sit right now and face waking up to another spanking will find this most useful. I am going to share with you the two methods that have proven to be 100% successful in the skillful art of avoiding getting a much dreaded spanking (for everyone who has tried them). The first method is known as The Sentinal because it will protect you from both the spanking you're immediatly facing as well as any other spankings you would have received over the rest of your life time from that particular spanker and it is performed like this; When your spanker informs you that you're going to get a spanking that will make you cry and beg for mercy, you simply agree to meet them at the location they tell you, only instead of leaving your house and getting in your car and driving there, get on an x-box and play video games instead (or take a bath and read a good book) - as long as you don't leave your hosue on time, your spanker will show up thinking they're going to teach you a lesson, only to find out that you've wised up and didn't go!. I actually discovered this method on accident because I was very stupid and disrespectful and I simply forgot about the appointment entirely. The highly acclaimed female spanker who I was lucky to have an appointment with ended up cutting me off entirely after that. It's actually very regrettable and I wish I had never done that - I hope it serves you better than it did me. The next method is a bit more complex and should be used only by people who are well versed in stupidity. I don't know what to call it right now (other than being an idiot) but nonetheless, it has a 100% success rate. Now, both of these methods are excellent in avoiding spankings, but if I had to bet on which one was more reliable, I would have to go with this one. Whereas the first one evokes anger in the spanker, this one evokes discomfort and apprehension. In order to execute this method successfully, you will have to try very hard to act as dumb as possible and within a few days of getting in touch with your spanker, you will need to volunteer WAY WAY WAY too much personal information - the content probably doesn't matter but as long as it relates to how pissed off you are and how sad you are and how you have all of these problems ranging from depression to substance abuse to a dysfunctional family or something along those lines, it will be sure to make the spanker apprehensive about you. Any initial interest that was shown will diminish and you will not find yourself without a spanker again, but you'll also feel incredibly stupid.... More or less, the aforementioned things did happen between me and two experienced female spankers.... I actually don't suggest doing any of these things. I only did them because I was an inconsiderate and naive asshole (in the first scenario) and I only volunteered so much information about myself because I'm the dumbest personh on this site.

Hi! I have been kind of inactive on this account. I have been too embarrassed to actually go and comment on anything. I always responded to surveys where no one can really see what you answered and read stories posted on here, but that is it besides answering PMs. I am a 19 year old female in need of discipline. I feel like sometimes I have my life together and everything is fine, until I realize that I am entirely wrong and need to get my life together. Just today I found out my student loan refund had been sent to a random bank account. It is a struggle. I have known that I have needed this type of discipline since I was about 10 years old. I was not spanked as a child. I feel like now though I need it more than ever. Part of me worries that it might hurt more than I think, but that might be just what I need. However, I haven't gotten around to finding someone out there who could discipline me the way I need because: I can't drive (I have no car), I live with my adopted family (long story there too) and they are always home, I don't have a whole lot of money (Too anxious to ask for better pay for my babysitting job, plus you can look above and see I really am bad with the money thing). I have interests outside of spanking. I love cartoons and TV in general, comic books, YA novels, and listening to music. I am a college student currently and hope to eventually become a school librarian after a few years of teaching. So this is my official debut here. After I post this, I am going to reply to others until I get sleepy or decide to give up and read. Have a good day!

Greetings, fellow spankos of old and young! I'm a 20 year old male near Coopersburg, Pennsylvania. In a current relationship, so being discreet is required. I'm Bi-Sexual, and average sized. Primarily looking to make a spanko friend or two, if bonds are made, maybe meetup.

As a spanker, I do not understand this concept. Understand the need to be spanked might be so strong spankees feel the need. The art of positioning must awkward, impacting in the right place and with the right force must be difficult. Would imagine it would leave the spankee dissatisfied. Am I wrong?

Some of you may remember me from my previous posts about the issues I was having with my girlfriend. We recently broke things off (i have kind of been spiraling to be honest). Is there anyone in Atlanta, Georgia, or any one near that would be open to talking. (about spanking, about life, anything really.) Are there any spankers or spankees out there looking for friends? I want to get to know more people in the community. Even if you aren't in Atlanta, or around, still shoot me a message if you're open to talking.

I'm a 26 yr non binary trans man, i use he him, they them pronouns. I love being spanked, i have a friend who has been giving me spankings occasionally but its not enough. I would love to find a local spanker. I would prefer to find someone who is also queer whether that be bisexual, pansexual, trans etc.

Hello. I am new here and I want to say Hello to all of you. I am Molly, 32, female, and spankee in a dd-marriage. Nice too meet you all and thank you for reading this :)

My name is Spencer. 20 years old. I am in need of a self spanking held over the phone for being naughty and disrespectful. I have a high pain tolerance. Looking for a long hard spanking from a man or woman who will scold me and ensure that I am very thoroughly spanked. I have a bath brush, wooden spoon, and plastic rod. I can also go cut a switch. Looking for marks/bruses. If interested, text me at (813) 524-9764 and include your username.

I’ve just moved to St. John’s Michigan and I’m looking for someone who knows how to make a grown man cry due to a spanking. My pain tolerance is high but i want to challenge people. Must be able to provide your own transportation

Im looking to meet a female (spankee) who lives in New Jersey someone who enjoys the spanking lifestyle. Im open to advanced or newbees looking for their first adult spanking. This would be all about spanking for pleasure, stress relief, guilt release, discipline for not doing what you should be and so on. This is not about sex in any way! This is all about discipline through caring and guidance through adult spankings. I have a lifetime of experience to offer. Message me if you are interested.