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  1. https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/40ecdd94-c558-11eb-a80c-dfb0d2172f4f?shareToken=6acfff85a995193969aebf6427712b9e#
  2. I'm 37 now, I've seen a bit of both sides of this. I've always felt it should be fine for anyone to talk to anyone (assuming they're all legal and consenting of course), but if either person isn't comfortable about the age difference, that's a perfectly valid reason to tell someone you're not interested, and they need to politely respect that without resentment. Especially with spanking interests, people have their own preferences about age. Some prefer an age gap, some prefer a partner close in age. Everyone's different and that shouldn't be a problem either way. I've seen people
  3. Good news - there is no such thing as an "Alpha Male" in the animal kingdom, and the research that suggested that exists was flawed and got debunked over 20 years ago. It's a debunked concept that has done a lot of damage to analysis of social structures and human behaviour as well. https://www.businessinsider.com/no-such-thing-alpha-male-2016-10 In nature, Mech writes, wolves split off from their packs when they mature, and seek out opposite-sex companions with whom to form new packs. The male and female co-dominate the new pack for a much simpler, more peaceful reason: They're the
  4. It's alright. I know I deal with ADD and depression too. Everyone has things they're working on - and it's important to be able to communicate that kind of thing to any potential partners. But don't feel awkward about it. It's just part of learning how to express those needs and explore them safely and enjoyably.
  5. How is "age regression" not a form of "age play"?
  6. I was having this discussion earlier and I wasn't sure if I could really come to a conclusion. On the one hand, it is clearly inherently treating someone in a childish kind of way, but on the other hand there's a lot of different kind of mindsets people approach the interest with. What are your thoughts?
  7. The concept of "Teenagers" is a modern one that depended on things like the industrial revolution, modern education and disruption from 2 world wars. See: https://www.ushistory.org/us/46c.asp or https://www.saturdayeveningpost.com/2018/02/brief-history-teenagers/ In biblical times, on the one hand children would effectively be "independent" to a degree as soon as they could work, or married off to someone, but at the same time generally the oldest working man living in a house would have a degree of authority over wives, children and slaves at home that would be considered extreme ev
  8. Unless your vanilla partner is either willing to let you get most of your intimacy elsewhere, or is EXTREMELY enthusiastic about learning (and ultimately is not really vanilla in the end), it will not work. Spare yourself the heartache and find someone compatible.
  9. I'm kind of curious to see how people sort themselves in this. Of course there are some limitations... I'd love to have it broken down by the gender of the person answering the question, and create more of a spectrum of "only one gender/mainly one gender/both genders equally/etc..." and also measure topping/bottoming, but this will suffice for one question. And I know there are issues with framing gender as binary when a lot of people don't identify that way - apologies for that, I'm not sure I'd be able to classify more granular data.
  10. I guess a bit depends on the relationship they have with each other and the bottom(s) - so like would they both be kind of "parents" to the bottom, or mentors, or some other kind of model of relationship? Is it like an open relationship with other romantic partners? Just discipline? It doesn't have to be roleplaying exactly, but by defining roles in those terms it can help to clarify what the expectations should be for everyone involved.
  11. Yep! I completely clam up if anyone brings up the topic in "vanilla" life.
  12. Personally I feel like it's important for both a spanker and spankee (regardless of who's in which role) to come with things that they want out of a relationship generally, and spanking sessions specifically. You both want to feel like you're fulfilling some need for one another - so simply being a blank slate as far as what you want to do can make it harder to talk and come up with ideas about how things will actually work. (Of course, your mileage will vary - that depends on the individuals) But knowing the spanker WANTS to discipline the spankee... knowing they enjoy it and feel fulfil
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