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  1. My Baby Russian Blue, is decked out in a Spring dress I found for her!!!
  2. I updated just fine. Sorry it isn't working for you
  3. Hi Everyone I am going to open up about a situation that has happened to me recently. I hope you can learn from my ignoring Red flags. As some of you know, my husband (who has left the site), is a very vanilla person. While he was initially open to the idea of spanking me, he no longer is. But he gave me his blessing and permission to find somebody who is, a mentor. This gentleman (from the board-- but I will not mention names, as that is not how I function), approached me in chat about a month ago wanting to talk. Said he saw my Intro and profile, and I sounded like I just needed a friend or something to talk to, he also mentioned that he was a Christian. (Red Flag # 1- Not the faith itself, but that he knew what I wanted to hear). Red Flag #2, He said he was married but going through a divorce. I should have known that is a line many use to get with somebody. So we talked for a little while and then exchanged Facebook info. Well it progressed from there to text and then phone calls. We had planned to meet this coming Friday for lunch..... Last night ( Monday) we talked on the phone, and he basically told me his wife wanted to get back- and she was coming around to the spanking thing. (i.e converted). And that he was dropping me.So we severed ties, in order to avoid temptation. (There was temptation on both parts). I fell for him. HARD. He was charming sweet, and a kind person. Best of all, we shared common faith connection. Now I have a shattered heart, I am broken and I don't know what to do. I know there were red flags, the ones above among others. But somehow my feelings for him clouded that judgement. I'm really hurt, distraught and confused. Will this go away? I am not seeing that light at the end of the tunnel. So I guess I am looking for that local mentor again. I hate this, I Talk about safety and red flags and somehow am unable to take my advice. I spent most of the night (and today) crying and just being very depressed. Unfortunately I turned to alcohol and now I feel not so great this morning. What can I do? What should I remember from here on out?
  4. Not feeling life today. UGH

  5. Hi Everyone I need your help... So I have tried to search, and not found much. Can anyone tell me what a reset spanking is? I know , it seems like it is stress relief with more intensity.? I was trying to , explain that I needed one- but am not sure how to explain it. Basically, it seems the pent up emotions, stress, frustration and such- I need a long ,, cathartic cry. Something to trigger a "reset" button in my mind, so that I can- be in a better headspace for correction/punishment the next time. Any thoughts? Ideas?
  6. I am not sure who the author is, but I found this online. Very cool and gives you a lot to think about.. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Author Unknown
  7. Yup... I unliked the page....... may remove my membership from the "CLOSED" groups....
  8. Turns out it was the Public COmmunity Page I liked... oops.
  9. OK So I had a (slightly) amusing thing happen today. I am a member of what I thought was a private group on Facebook, Domestic Discipline. Now- I posted a few things, namely my Aftercar bear and a few other things. APPARENTLY.. this group is not private. It showed up in my news feed for all my family, friends, and yes even church family to see... I want to panic, but I guess I can't do anything about it- so I just embrace it and move on. Whatcha gonna do? LOL.. I guess I don't have to live a secret life anymore I plan to use humor...
  10. OK So I had a (slightly) amusing thing happen today. I am a member of what I thought was a private group on Facebook, Domestic Discipline. Now- I posted a few things, namely my Aftercar bear and a few other things. APPARENTLY.. this group is not private. It showed up in my news feed for all my family, friends, and yes even church family to see... I want to panic, but I guess I can't do anything about it- so I just embrace it and move on. Whatcha gonna do? LOL.. I guess I don't have to live a secret life anymore I plan to use humor...
  11. Sooo I got to go to Build A Bear today and make a kitty../ bear. She is really cute, her name is Diva.....
  12. Absolutely right on, katekk. Everything comes down to love in the Christian life. (I am not intending to offend non Christians, but this is a Christian oriented thread). I absolutely think a way to show love is helping somebody overcome life's obstacles and failures. The job of an Er is to help. While they do get something out of it- they have their work cut out for them, especially in the beginning. It is a very loving sacrifice! At least , I know it is with my er.
  13. When we are dealing with scripture, everything has to be taken in context. The Lord's house was being defiled by money changers, and he didn't actually hit them with the whip. He simply chased them with it. I see no way this supports Domestic Discipline. He did not have an ongoing relationship, and daily mentorship or punishments for anyone.... (I am using the Strongs when I reference original Hebrew words) Let's start with the verse reference to cleansing the temple. It reads: When it was almost time for the Jewish Passover, Jesus went up to Jerusalem. 14In the temple courts he found people selling cattle, sheep and doves, and others sitting at tables exchanging money. 15So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.- John 2: 13-15 Key words here: going to look at "drove" "to cause a thing to move straight on its intended goal" (Hebrew word "Ekballo") meaning, send away- but without violence. If that was the case, he would not have hit them with it. Now about the temple verse. TEMPLE: "Naos" literally meaning, a metaphor metaph. the spiritual temple consisting of the saints of all ages joined together by and in Christ DEFILE: "Phterio" to lead away a Christian church from that state of knowledge and holiness in which it ought to abide DESTROY , ironically enough is the exact same word as Defile. So now, I fail to see how Domestic Discipline can be backed up with The Bible. I would believe The Bible is silent on the matter, so it is up to our own personal convictions. I really hate it when people use scripture to back up something when it isn't saying that at all. The entire purpose of 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 is so that we keep watch of ourselves and keep ourselves pure with God.. ------------------ Now if you want some scriptures that could loosely be used in this lifestyle, they do exist. Hebrews 12:11- Now no chastening for the present seems to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to them which are exercised You will find some various Proverbs referring to slave punishment, but it was not consensual. Proverbs 20:30- Blows and wounds scrub away evil, and beatings purge the inmost being. To me, Domestic Discipline boils down to this: There are Christians and non Christians who practice it, but Id on't see how Christians can use The Bible to justify it. Paul tells us in Romans 14:5-9- That what is acceptable for one person, may not be for another and that "each one should be fully convinced in his mind". If you are a Christian, and you utilize Domestic Discipline- that's OK. It's OK if you are a Christian and you don't. The Bible has really no say on it, as it remains silent other than for the few verses I already stated. And those are only loosely interpreted. So does The Bible justify or command Domestic Discipline? NO. But it also doesn't forbid it.............. just my 2 cents.
  14. I found this on my computer. I wrote it when I was 14!! So don't hold anything against me LOL In The Red (In more than one way) It was a crisp fall day when June walked out to the mailbox, her husband had yet to return home from work and she knew today was the day that the bank statement would come in, and she had overspent her budget for the month, and they were now in the red and had a negative balance. She loved shopping and things just seemed to jump into her hands, stickers, CD’s , movies you name it – and she wanted it. Luke was very kind and gave her a budget of fifty dollars a month for “extras”, and she had spent well over two hundred on “extras” this month. She got to the mailbox and noticed that there was no mail. “How Odd” she thought, the mail must be running late. She went back into the house to start preparing dinner for her and her husband, when she heard Luke walk through the door. “Hi Babe” he said, swooping and giving her a kiss. “Something smells good!” “I am cooking your favorite, pork chops and potatoes”, she spoke returning his kiss. “I also got the mail on my lunch break babe” he said, tossing it on the table. June’s heart stopped, had he gotten the statement, had he read it? Where was it? A million thoughts flooded her mind. “Oh good” she said “I went to check and it was not there, I figured it was just running late. What all did we get?” “Well” he began; the only thing we got was some catalog, and the bank statement. Julie felt a lump in her throat, “I guess you can balance it after dinner” she said. “It will be ready in about an hour”. Luke went to his recliner, put his feet up and opened the statement. Immediately, he stood up – statement in hand and strode across to the kitchen. “Why are we in the red?” he asked. “I had plenty of money in there for your allowance and our bills, now we are at a negative balance!” He spoke furiously, “You overspent didn’t you?” “Yes Sir” she said “I didn’t mean to, it just happened!” “Well, something else is going to happen! Go into the bedroom and get ready for the spanking of your lifetime!” “But what are we going to do about dinner?” She asked. “I’ll handle that” he snapped, “Go!” Luke madly dashed around and turned all the burners and stove off, his hunger would have to wait as he had to deal with his money-happy wife first. June, knowing that protesting would do her no good spoke with a quick “yes sir’ and went to the bedroom to prepare. Every spanking was the same, but she felt this one would be much more severe. She quickly took her underwear off, put her skirt on and sat patiently on the bed waiting on Luke to come up and tan her hide. Minutes turned into what seemed like hours, but about thirty minutes later he came in and sat next to her on the bed. “I am not angry” he spoke softly “but this has to be dealt with. So in addition to a spanking, you will have no allowance for “extras” for four months, as you spent two hundred this month which is indeed four month’s worth” June just looked at him and nodded. “Can we please not spank, this one time?” she asked, knowing what the answer would be. “We are spanking” he said “Cooperate and it will be over quickly, fight and I will make it worse.” June just nodded her head slightly, and crawled over his lap. Mark lifted her skirt up, “Ready?” he said “yes sir” she mumbled. WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! He slapped her bottom with his hand and it got pinker and pinker “ooooowooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee”: she cried “stop stop, I promise to be good”. WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! WHACK! She began kicking her legs, and he pinned her legs down, grabbing the lexan paddle. “Paddle time” he said 3 strokes for each month, which equals twelve. Ready? June was too sobbing and could nod. CRACK!!!CRACK!! CRACK!!!CRACK!! CRACK!!!CRACK!! CRACK!!!CRACK!! CRACK!!!CRACK!! CRACK!!!CRACK!! “it’s over babe” he said, scooping his wife into his arms and letting her cry it out
  15. I really hate term "Christian" Domestic Discipline. I am a Christian, I am into Domestic Discipline- but you won't find it in scripture. All CDD does is take all the elements of Domestic Discipline and twist scripture to justify it. HOWEVER... Good luck with your search.
  16. What's up for Easter? My profile! :)

  17. Er: *stating an obvious fact* Me: Well thank you captain obvious for that bulletin!!!
  18. Welcome! Be very super careful. http://www.dd911.wordpress.com- There are some tips on there for newbies. Safety rules, please read them.
  19. I put it back up. Just got caught off guard for a minute.. of uncertainty. And thanks
  20. I have been watching Grease, great movie. I just can't help but think maybe it would have been better if Sandy pulled out the paddle and busted some butt when Danny was a jerk to her?? I would watch that. What movies do you think would be better with spanking?
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