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  1. Hi Red,

    Thanks for the reply about aloe from your experience.  I do use aloe for kitchen burns but never considered it for anything sub-dermal.

    Hi Sassy,

    I'm working on how to use the "love marks" comment that you suggested.  It'll be a while before the next chance to use it unless I exercise my smart mouth again.  And I never moan about the marks.  I always smile when she sees me looking at them in the mirror.  The ones that prompted this post have been there for almost a week.  I think they may be gone in another few days.


  2. Hi Sassy,

    Thank you for the reply and the information!

    I'm not looking for soothing but maybe I should consider what you said about keeping my butt in spankable condition.     I want to feel the result of a spanking for a long time.  I have set up a DD arrangement with my wife that has been in place for a really long time now.  She doesn't like to leave marks but I have assured her that in my view, if she hasn't left a few marks then she hasn't been severe enough.  I would like the marks to go away quickly so she feels better about spanking me the next time.  She seems to be getting over that apprehenson of late because a couple of days ago she strapped and paddled me even though marks and bruises were still there from a spanking a few days beforehand.  Maybe I should consider curbing my smart mouth but it's really hard to do, haha!

    The ice pack is something I should try for this purpose and since I use it every time I have an injury from work or projects, I can't believe I never thought of it!

    Have a great day!



  3. Hi everyone,

    Has anyone had any experience with using arnica Gel for marks and bruises?   It's advertised as being helpful for that but  I am using Arnica right now three times a day after a particularly severe spanking and it doesn't seem to accelerate recovery.



  4. I've heard that one also. 

    When I think back on the times that a teacher (female of course) caught me talking and asked me if I wanted a spanking, I immediately talked my way out of getting one from her.  Today I say "why in the world did I not just give her a smart answer and let it happen"!!  Or at least just talk again within a few minutes.  I'm sure that would have done it.  Then I would have something to remember forever, besides having the embarrassment of getting paddled in front of the class and having a sore bottom for the rest of the day.  Dang!!

  5. On ‎10‎/‎22‎/‎2018 at 2:03 PM, dmirk said:

    "You don’t appreciate a lot of stuff in school until you get older. Little things like being spanked every day by a middle-aged woman: Stuff you pay good money for in later life."
    Emo Phillips

    This is a fabulously funny quote.  But oh so true!  If I had only known back then I might have taken more advantage of it.  Thanks for sharing it with us!


  6. I am also spanked by my wife for disciplinary reasons and have been now for at least ten years. It was initiated at my request, with a promise that once I turned over control to her I would never retract my consent. She was timid at first, but after getting comfortable with how it felt to be truly in control, she took over, and now has no hesitation about using the paddle as a first resort. Most spankings sting for a few hours, but some in the past have left marks and made it very uncomfortable to sit for a few days on anything but a soft chair. She keeps two paddles in strategic places around the house as (in her words) a reminder of the consequences of inappropriate behavior.

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  7. Hi Texas and Confused Man,

    That is another option that was discussed here early on when my wife didn't think she could bring herself to spank me. She told me that I should try to find someone else to do it, probably a professional. While I was looking she decided that she wouldn't want someone else doing it and would try it herself. When we talked about the possible other person my wife said she would have to be there, at least in another room listening. So I would be taken there and handed over with instructions as to severity required.

    If the roles were reversed I wouldn't feel good about having her spanked by another guy either but would have to consider it if she really needed that. In our case it would have to be a female disciplinarian. But that is moot because she wants no part of getting spanked herself. Haha!

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  8. Hi Confused Guy,

    Please keep us posted on your progress.

    There has been much good advice above. I just wanted to add that I was in the same position as your wife quite a few years ago. It took many soul bareing conversations before she could understand my needs. In the beginning I didn't even understand fully my needs so I had to figure that out first before I could impart that knowledge to her.

    And she had trouble getting past the idea that she was "hurting me". Now, after a much deserved spanking, if she sees that I am uncomfortable hours later or have marks from the spanking her only comment is "good, it's supposed to hurt".


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  9. Hi Ms. Edie

    You can add me to the "interested" list. I don't hear from you often enough.

    As for advice, I agree that you probably don't need any, but regarding seeing another man's bare bottom, I would recommend starting out with pants up. Just don't hold back. Maybe your sister would then suggest taking his pants down. I'll bet you would not have any apprehension at that point.

    Then give us every detail!



  10. For me the list is way too long. But I realized quite some time ago that when those things that I should have been spanked for came to mind, I very soon craved a severe spanking. At first I didn't connect the two but eventually did and it all began to make sense, sort of. I was always happy to get away with them back then but now realize I shouldn't have. I will probably always want a spanking that I have no control over. One that seems as though it will never end..

  11. Thanks for the replies!

    I have tried Google, and paddles.com turns up a German boat paddle company. Not exactly what I had in mind. And I have previously looked at London Tanners but now their website seems to have security issues so I didn't continue there.

    And I am already contemplating fabricating one myself. I have all the materials and tools but since my wife requested this I thought she might like to have "her own" instead of yet another implement made by me for use on me.

    I'm sure the one in the picture came from somewhere. Maybe it's older and has been discontinued.



  12. I've actually had this conversation with my wife on more than several occasions but I don't recall exactly how the subject came up.

    She knows that it might be good to have a "higher level" of discipline, and is not against the idea, but sometimes is more warm to the idea than at other times. She has said that if we were to ever find someone suitable (which may be unlikely) that she would want to be in an adjoining room, or at least waiting in the car for me. I would personally prefer for her to be in the room watching but i don't think watching me get a disciplinary spanking is something that is palatable to her.

    Now when she gives me one herself, for good reason, she has no troulble at all making my bottom sore and leaving marks for a few days. I wonder what the difference is?



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