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CaliSpanker53

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  1. @Chawsee Thanks. And I think you're right about Female Spankers. And for all us older Male Switches and spankees I say thanks!
  2. @AugustCar It has worked for me and for my current partner it is now 4 years in with no complications.
  3. @ButtercuppThis is such a typical situation. And in mu opinion the most challenging for a couple. There has been a lot said so far and I'm only going to offer how my partner handled it with her husband and how the 3 of us navigated things all together. First off my partner and I are involved in a Polyamourous relationship. Her husband is not a part of that dynamic. Here is how we did it. 1: She discussed her desire/need with her husband and got his ok to explore before we found each other. 2: After we met we agreed the two of us would sit down with him so that I could explain how a Disciplinary relationship would work and the definite affect it could have on their relationship. This included the physical and emotional impact it would have on her. That bruises would be a result and even what sub drop is and would look like and the things he could do to help her and being upfront it would not be easy for him to see or deal with at first. 3: She explained to him that she was interested in spanking from both a play/sensual and discipline perspective so he understood how big this was for her. 4: I explained to him my background in the scene as a player and educator and my experiences as a Mentor/Disciplinarian as well as my Poly lifestyle. I also explained I was not in this to be an escape route out of their marriage for her. That I would not be the reason their marriage got better or worse. 5: She took 2 weeks to journal exactly what she wanted. Determined what and why she needed discipline for and why it would be important to their relationship. 6: The 3 of us sat down and she shared the Journal with him. I told him in no uncertain terms would I begin anything unless he signed off on it. I told him that there are thousands of couples who are both involved in the scene and this kind of relationship blew up in their faces because at the end of the day the partner couldn't get past their jealousy and insecurities of another man inflicting pain on their partner. 7: We all agreed that she would journal after every time we met focusing not on what went on between the two of us but about how it affected her and how it was making her a better wife. This is something we continue to this day. All I will say is that if you take your husband up on his suggestion be certain that you find someone who cares about your marriage over anything else. I am not one to believe that if he loves you he should be willing to do this for you over his misgivings. To me that isn't building a marriage it is building resentment what will come back hard on you. By suggesting you find someone to give you this is doing exactly what I believe a good partner should do. Trusting your motives, trusting your love and trusting himself. At the end of the day only you know what is good for you and your marriage. This can be done but it takes a lot of communication and that communication begins from the start. Good luck on navigating this.
  4. I found this on a blog orgionaly asking if a Woman had ever done the things listed below...I made a modification...so inquiring minds would like to know: Has anyone ever threatened to wet your bottom, before taking a hairbrush to you? Has a anyone ever threatened to put you in wet underwear? Then spanked them dry? Has a anyone ever yanked you out of the shower and given you a spanking with a bath brush? Have you ever screamed your lungs out during a bare bottom hair/Bath brush spanking? Has a anyone ever threatened to take you to outside pull down your pants and redden your butt? While being spanked. Have you ever screamed out a naughty word?
  5. @ChawseeNo, no adverse affects. I have been fortunate not to have any problems with arthritis. I' do think I've avoided having problems with my hands because of how I use them during a spanking session. As far as the impact, it's simply a natural response to making contact. I have found that the impact will travel right through to my shoulders at times, but certainly in the wrists as well. I've felt things in the joints when I over strike or simply from the positioning of my hands when I make contact. It's the whole pushing energy thing. It feels like my joints almost act as shock absorbers if I am careful about technique. And the less tension in the wrists the better. Hope that answered what you were asking.
  6. @ChawseeNo, no adverse affects. I have been fortunate not to have any problems with arthritis. I' do think I've avoided having problems with my hands because of how I use them during a spanking session. As far as the impact, it's simply a natural response to making contact. I have found that the impact will travel right through to my shoulders at times, but certainly in the wrists as well. I've felt things in the joints when I over strike or simply from the positioning of my hands when I make contact. It's the whole pushing energy thing. It feels like my joints almost act as shock absorbers if I am careful about technique. And the less tension in the wrists the better. Hope that answered what you were asking.
  7. @Chawsee I totally agree with you. We are lucky!
  8. I have to say my love of canes came slowly. I'd seen them used primarily in the harshest of ways. And the person being caned never seemed to be getting any enjoyment from it. It wasn't until someone who I trusted and knew was experienced enough caned me that I finally understood just how amazing the can could be. I do love stripes and welts that the cane leaves on a willing bottom. For me duplicating the exacting marks of a professional isn't a goal but leaving a trail that indicates a path from top to bottom is so delicious.
  9. @Topspanker One of the ways we trained to toughen our palms was to strike the floor of the dojo and on the pavement outside in winter. But the biggest thing I have learned over the years is that how you strike anything should be done with the knowledge that as you do you are absorbing that impact. So for me I keep in mind using my hand in different ways throughout a hand spanking or even when using an implement. No prolonged palm or full on flat of the hand. Cupping, grabbing, fingers, fingertips, back of the hand, and even punching, all provide relief and are able to provide impact that will leave an impression as well as take care of your hands overall. It is also why I use both hands. But I have also found that staying hydrated and caring for my hands, lotions and creams daily keeps my hands supple...soothing when desired and firm when needed. All of this so that I can play for hours and as the quite frankly why my hands tend never to give in before a delectably spankable bottom.
  10. @kiko You need to just get out of your head about all of this. None of this is about age or experience. It's just about finding your comfort space , enjoying your self and the people who engage you with no expectations or judgements. You're fun and that's all that matters.
  11. @Megthe It is one of her favorite foods! And she is going to lunch today where they are famous for their Avocado Toast...guess what she won't be having...And you are welcome to bring all the Avocado you want...you'll be sharing the same fate...because my arm is always motivate!
  12. @Topspanker It is good to know this can be playful, in fact it's exactly what it should be.
  13. @SpankeeGaland I will gladly give you what Avocado girl got times #423476540198675348
  14. I see someone else needs to lear the avocado lesson @Summer and thanks!
  15. @kiko So you'll take a spanking....very cool
  16. I hate avacado...so a young lady had to learn what happens to brats who threaten to tease me with bringing them into my house...I think she got the message..LOL 114966774_NOAVACADO.mp4
  17. I'd gladly provide that spanking @rubyredd
  18. Tonight I will be spanking a good friend I haven't seen in 2 years tonight. She is excited to try a selection of belts from my Belt Drawer along with an assortment of toys from my ToyBag. Tomorrow I will be spanking my Partner and indulging in some rope and wax play Sunday I will be switching with a Lady who was my former Mentee.
  19. Very considerate and loving of him
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