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  1. Hi deb, I am a retired guy in central NY, about your age, in central NY, an hour NE of Syracuse. definitely interested in becoming friends and meeting you.
  2. I would lean toward privacy and anonimity. People do not really talk about what goes on in their bedrooms. It is deeply personal and most would think impolite and inappropriate. Besides you and your partners, whose business is it? Nobody's !
  3. I wonder how common serious discipline spankings are in adult marriages and relationships? And of these how many are male spankers as opposed to female spankers. I have also wondered if erotic and disciplinary spankings can exist side by side within the same relationship? I mean to say if spankings are usually fun erotic ones, how does one turn it into something totally different your partner will not enjoy at all and wish to avoid?
  4. Best foreplay ever imagined is a spanking.
  5. I have often had the thought that spanking is more intimate than sex. Why do I think so? So many spankos hold back in telling their spouses or significant others what they want and need is spanking. Fear of ridicule, or of being thought of as perverted? I think if the first time you open up about it to a partner, if you are ridiculed, it will be way harder the next time with a different partner. We are normal and when goes on in our intimate relationships is our business, nobody else's.
  6. For how many spanked me is spanking just the beginning of full blown fem domme, in the bedroom and outside of it? Or is spanking just an entity in and of itself unrelated to other elements of Fem Domme?
  7. Interesting story. I would say you have become too attached to your spanking partner. Let it be what it is and don't try to develop it beyond spanking.
  8. I can definitely identify with most of what you say. Since it is not at all sexual, then you can be spanked by either gender, I assume? If you need it to come from the opposite gender, then it is not entirely non sexual, although nothing sexual may be happening at all from for during your spankings, maybe it is just on a subtle sunconscious level?
  9. I can definitely identify with most of what you say. Since it is not at all sexual, then you can be spanked by either gender, I assume? If you need it to come from the opposite gender, then it is not entirely non sexual, although nothing sexual may be happening at all from for during your spankings, maybe it is just on a subtle sunconscious level?
  10. Retired man here in central NY, love to find a strong female spanker within an hour or two of distance. I am an hour from Syracuse or Utica. Wlliing to switch if that helps. Drop me a line if interested. Wishing everybody a great weekend.
  11. A number of males are spanked by their wives/girlfriends. Mainly consensual I believe. Is spanking an important part of fem Domme relationships? I mean the serious domination that happens when the female has the man locked in a chastity device and controls all aspects of the relationship. Or, do the two things have absolutely nothing to do with each other?
  12. Is most of your spanking activity funishment or punishment?
  13. Is spanking the beginning of your taking control, or is it the final step, after locking your man in chastity, requiring shaved genital area, requiring him to wear panties, etc? Or, is spanking him something you do as a stand alone thing, with no discussion or action relating to the other areas mentioned?
  14. I recall reading online years ago on an F/m site. I have never forgotten it and once tried it with partner and it's very much true. Before a serious discipline spanking is given, the spankee is made to cum/orgasm either privately or with assistance. THEN and only then the spanking is given: hard, bare and immediately. With absolutely no arousal or erotic element to take the edge off the pain, it is very painful and unpleasant for the spankee. Good deterrent for very bad behavior spanker wants to modify. Believe me, this is not your average fun/play/erotic spanking. This is not for everybody or something to be taken ;lightly but for some, it may be useful.
  15. If your partner loves being spanked, how do you punish a spanko? Maybe with hold spanking or use an alternate punishment? Other ideas?
  16. Really too bad we spankos do not have a way to identify other spankos. Maybe a t shirt or logo we could display as outer clothing. Could easily be something apparently innocent, like I am into it, are you?? ER or EE ? Woul;d mean nothing to anyone outside TTWD.
  17. No physical injury, safe foed is a prerequisite, no bathroom related activity.
  18. OK well my question would be, suppose you could change/modify what is currently going on, what changes would you want? Tell us, and consider telling her.
  19. On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is spanking to your relationship? Would it survive if your partner lost interest? Also, your opinion, please. Are more male spouses than female spouses spanked by their partners?
  20. If it is punishment, it is not supposed to be liked by the one being punished. It should always be naked, both before and after the spanking, with hands on head. never more than 30 minutes.
  21. Hi Cowboy, your friend John from years ago. I attended your spanking party in the Albany area years ago. Miss M, your lady is the best spanker EVER as well as one of the nicest. Drop a line, or message me on fetlife. john
  22. Retired guy, divorced from central NY. Love to discuss this privately.
  23. retired guy from central NY, brand new member. I am moved by your account. Love to be friends. Do you use either skype or google hangouts?
  24. I think it depends how severe the spanking was. If he won't feel like sitting down for 24 hours or more he will not be anxious for your paddle to revisit his bottom any too fast. A serious discipline must surpass the fun erotic stage, and many argue that it is at this point that the spanking only BEGINS in earnest.
  25. Ok as a male who craves spankings which are a turn on for me, is it possible that my female partner can use spankings as foreplay, which I love and crave, but also use spankings as serious discipline? I guess the difference, for me, is that for discipline it is a lot longer and harder, and followed by naked cornertime, as well as no sex for 48 hours. In an extreme case, in addition to what was just mentioned, I am made to cum immediately before the spanking. Does anyone else see the irony in the fact that a spanking before sex can be such a turn on and so wonderful, but that a serious punishment spanking can be so awful and to be dreaded and avoided at all costs?
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