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  1. It seems like the personality types would not have anything to do with BEING a spanko, but may impact HOW that manifests for each of us. Obviously both being a spanko and our personality type are complex parts of us that have many other facets involved in helping to form who we are, but it can definitely be interesting to see how things work together. 

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  2. Lotsapappa is banned for assuming the agents on Get Smart wouldn’t be able to fix leakiness, even the top secret kind, just because they’re also funny. Next he’ll be saying Inspector Gadget is useless. 😱

  3. Curious if the MB personality types have any bearing on how we identify in the spanko world. I’m not necessarily looking to find any kind of profound meaning in it all, but casual curiosity is fun to explore. 

    I’m INFJ for the MB type.

    I am a bottom (though could be a service switch if someone I cared about really needed it). I’m also submissive but only to my partner. I’m mostly interested in Domestic Discipline but do enjoy the more fun/erotic side as well. So mostly DD wife (to be) sub type. With a bit of little and slave thrown in, though I’m not an age regressor as far as having a specific little age or needing a “little space”. And I’m not the type of slave or bottom that appreciates humiliation, being degraded, or being dehumanized. No thank you. 

    I’d love to know how others fit within the spanko world and the MB personalities, so what’s yours?

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  4. I would absolutely take the nap. With or without the spanking. I used to take a nap every Sunday and I miss them. Just been too busy. But that’s the point of a day of rest - to refresh from being too busy. I may have to reinstate the Sunday afternoon nap. 

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  5. I feel guilty that I likely killed this game by forgetting the next word. So I’ll cheat and play on my own word to see if the game was just supposed to naturally die or if I killed it 😂. Playing off “dream”.

    Dangerous Replies, Errors, And Misbehavior

    Next acronym word: error

  6. I haven’t had the chance to actually use this one, but I know I will not be able to resist:

    Him: “Don’t make me pull this car over and take care of the issue.”

    Me: “You’re not really going to pull over.” (There may be an eye roll and/or sigh involved.)

  7. Lotsapappa is banned for going for the obvious Hogan’s Heroes for my German skills when I could have just as easily turned on German subtitles for Get Smart. 

  8. 7 hours ago, brittygirl said:

    Look into possibly doing online therapy? Iy tends to be a lot more affordable than in-person. And I’m proud of you for getting out of the situation and looking for solutions! That’s a huge step. It’s hard, but you’re doing it and that’s great. Try not to focus on some of the troll responses you get here where spanking is a fix-all in the fantasy based mind. It’s not and it really won’t help with things like this. 

    Online therapy sounds doable. I’ll look into it more and see what I can come up with. Thanks for the suggestion.

    I’m so much happier and healthier being out of the situation, but there’s still healing to be done. 😊

    I’m going to work on finding a new place to keep my calendar rather than my desk so it doesn’t get buried and is more in my face. 

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  9. Just to clarify, I said “living in ongoing trauma”. I meant that the trauma was long-term, not ongoing. 14 years. But I’m no longer in the situation that was causing the trauma. Can’t go no contact because of children involved, but no longer living in it on a day to day basis. Been free for a year and almost nine months. 

  10. 1 minute ago, brittygirl said:

    I’m sure you’re already aware, but I would think therapy would be a great place to find tools for something like this that’s out of your control. 

    Alarms on my phone are the only thing that help me with remembering certain tasks that I physically am unable to keep track of on my own. I also have a personal planner with me in my bag at work so I can look at my day before I do anything else. 

    Agreed. I was in therapy for a while until I could no longer pay the bill. Even with health insurance, therapy for me and several children just became too expensive. 

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  11. 1 hour ago, DisobedientHuby said:

    Well I think additional tools like list and reviews are helpful with the lack of focus but if it's something you are supposed to do disobedience should not just be excused at some point there has to be consequences.  If all the tools are in place to rember and focus but it does not happen I find a spanking to get my attention works for me. 

    I understand what you’re saying, but it’s not deliberate disobedience.

    I’ll give an example. One of the things I (and many others with c-ptsd) struggle with is object permanence. Out of sight, out of mind. I’m supposed to track certain things on my calendar so he knows how I did when I send him a picture of my calendar page on Sunday night. Things like drinking water since I dehydrate myself. But since my calendar starts to get buried under work stuff during the day (I work from home), I forget all about tracking. Which also means I often forget to drink water.

    It’s obnoxious because I didn’t have issues like this before the c-ptsd and I’m trying to get back to normal, but it’s not something I can just put more effort into and it fixes things. It’s a healing process that takes time. Something about the amygdala and hippocampus in the brain changing sizes due to the cortisol levels caused by living in ongoing trauma. 

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  12. 2 hours ago, NeedDiscipline9 said:

    "moving things into the wrong position to remind me of something that needs to happen later in the day." made me think of something that kinda made me smile - but I hope you don't think I'm being facetious. I wonder if you might have a spanking paddle that hangs on a wall by a hook or nail (as we do here - actually it's a leather strap here). I had the thought of unhooking it, turning it upside down, place a bulldog clip (maybe called a binder clip in the US) over the end and hang the clip back up on the nail so the paddle is now upside down. I think that would be a pretty effective reminder. :-)

    That would be a good visual reminder. Unfortunately I can’t have implements on display, but I’m sure I can brainstorm something similar. 

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  13. I asked a question leading up to this question in chat yesterday and figured I might get some ideas here.

    The c-ptsd I have is making me struggle with things like lack of focus, forgetfulness, brain fog, and other issues. The discussion in chat was whether forgetting things under these circumstances would be improved by spankings and the consensus is that it would not since it’s not an effort issue, it’s something I can’t yet control. It would make me sad to get in trouble for things I can’t control, and my HOH hasn’t disciplined me for those things, but I’m definitely trying to figure out something that can help. I’m tired of struggling so much.

    One suggestion was to discuss tools with my HOH to help me with focus and remembering things. Discipline only happens if I choose not to use the tools.

    I figure once we take some time to figure out what works and what doesn’t, we’ll know what would be appropriate to discipline for and what is just something we need new tools for. 

    So I’m looking for what ERs would suggest in similar circumstances as well as what has worked (for ERs or EEs) in the past. 

    Some things that have already been suggested to me: calendars, alarms, and moving things into the wrong position to remind me of something that needs to happen later in the day. 

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