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  1. Welcome! I am, alas, not a disciplinarian, but I'm a very experienced top so if you want to chat I'm available. I'm sure you'll find plenty of helpful folks around here, Indiana has a decent spanko population:). Have fun, be safe, and happy spanking!
  2. Hey there, welcome to the site:)
  3. I think sometimes folks may anticipate an almost Tinder/Bumbl/whateverotherapp sort of situation with regards to ads here. But firstly; this isn't a hook-up site, and secondly the audience while not miniscule is tiny in comparison to those of the aforementioned places. Plus, how many here are actually single and/or looking, and local, and interested in what's being offered (given the immense variety of spanko types) etc. If I were desperate for companionship and reliant entirely on a forum that may have half a dozen people in my area who ~might~ be a good match, I would probably need to expand
  4. So it looks like you can buy some of them at least from Etsy. 18 to 30 bucks an issue, guessing they go quick because the first couple I clicked on were sold out. They do appear to have a couple for sale though. Decisions decisions...
  5. I absolutely love this story. I may have to search eBay for old copies of Janus lol. That takes me back.
  6. Hi all! I'm actually in northern Indiana but i travel quite a bit and I'm in Chicagoland fairly often. Been a spanko for more than 20 years, and I'm around and about the site fairly often. Feel free to ask me anything.
  7. For myself: 2 definitely 4 sounds like a folksy excuse to push an EE farther than they want to go to be frank. 1, 3, and 5. I've heard all 3, and I truly hate these answers. Because even if it's something requested by an EE, those 3 answers are exactly what would be said by abusers who've found a steady supply of willing victims. There's no such thing as a psychic top. However good one may be at reading reactions you don't really know, for a fact, when you've pushed an EE too far. I'll always err on the side of my partners safety, and I have no time for ERs who wouldn't due to
  8. I personally have no experience discussing that part of mfy life with vanilla folks, but I do have experience with the subject coming up from others. Not trying to be vague, but in the interest of discretion I'll just say that part of my job is to help people in situations ranging from uncomfortable to life threatening, and everything in between, and that on a number of occasions I've had people who have suffered an injury due to their personal lifestyle. Whether that is the same as, similar to, tangentially related to, or far outside of, my personal proclivities; my job is to help as best I c
  9. Thanks Gator. I prefer to be up front and open, especially here where we should all be able to do so without fear of censure. We're all adults after all:). And clarity helps avoid multiple PM's from folks who could find their needs better satisfied by someone else. I am what I am, as Popeye would say.

    Hey there folks. It's been a few weeks since I've had a playdate and my last regular partner has moved on, alas. I'd love to meet a lady who's in the mood for a session or 3, assuming we click of course. For anyone who hasn't spoken with me, feel free to browse my previous posts, or simply ask whatever you'd like to know. I've been a spanko for my entire adult life. I prefer to top, I'm open-minded, willing to try almost anything twice (within reason obviously, safety first). Age and body type are not especially relevant, desire for spanking is. I can provide disciplinary spankings, though I'm not a disciplinarian or a Dom. I'm a spanko. Seriously, I just love spanking, in all it's forms. 

    Ladies, if you're interested in chatting or meeting (safely) please drop me a line. Gents, I wish you all the best but my preference is for female backsides exclusively. 

    Given the world in which we live, I'll add that I've been fully vaccinated since February. 

    I'm living in North Central Indiana at this time, though I travel a fair amount throughout north and Central Indiana as well as southern Michigan so location isn't necessarily problematic. 

    In case you haven't read anything I've posted, let me state as clearly as possible. If you want a mentor or master you could almost certainly find better options on this site than myself. I can say, without false modesty, that I am an exceptionally skilled top, but I don't have the right mindset to be a "master". I love meeting the needs and desires of my partner, which is why I'm reiterating this point. In terms of pure spanking I aim to please, and have spent decades practicing to do so. In terms of dominance I can simulate it but not terribly well. Different strokes, etc.

    I'm not averse to a romantic relationship under the right circumstances, nor would I be against a long term spanking only relationship if we happen to meet each others needs. No pressure as far as I'm concerned. I just want to spank;) Anyway, message me if you like. Hope to hear from ya soon! Play safe, and happy spanks;-)

    1. rubyredd


      Well-stated. You always have such nicely written comments. I am sure any spankee would have a great experience with you.

    2. DiscreetSpanko8


      Thanks @rubyredd. Hopefully I can meet some like-minded folks. I haven't really been actively seeking playmates in a while so I may be a bit rusty. Ah well, we'll see how it plays out:)

  11. Hey there folks. It's been a few weeks since I've had a playdate and my last regular partner has moved on, alas. I'd love to meet a lady who's in the mood for a session or 3, assuming we click of course. For anyone who hasn't spoken with me, feel free to browse my previous posts, or simply ask whatever you'd like to know. I've been a spanko for my entire adult life. I prefer to top, I'm open-minded, willing to try almost anything twice (within reason obviously, safety first). Age and body type are not especially relevant, desire for spanking is. I can provide disciplinary spankings, though I'm
  12. Honestly the term has such negative connotations at this point that even if I made my avocation into my vocation, I don't think I'd advertise as a "pro". I did have a former EE who mentioned that she wanted to try out a "pro experience" on a trip, and showed me the very professional looking website of a pro domme that included 2 diplomas from some sort of alleged spanking and bondage University. I told her that as an adult she had to make her own decisions but I was pretty sure those weren't accredited universities. She ultimately decided to pass after reading some less than stellar revie
  13. I strongly advise consulting a physician as soon as possible. Bruising and pain lasting that long is something you need to get checked out. If you're nervous about disclosing your lifestyle to a doc feel free to tell them it's from a fall or something, as long as the date it occurred is at least approximately accurate. Though no decent healthcare professional will judge a patient based on that. Bruising and concomitant pain can definitely take longer to heal in people with certain health conditions. Diabetes for example. 2+ years is outside of my experience though, I really, sincerely, st
  14. Absolutely everything! No seriously, setting aside the physical aspects, the sight sound and feel, my spankee squirming in a delectably adorable manner, the ever so cute bratting that just makes my day, leaving out all of that; it's the connection with my partner. The intimacy and the trust. Because I've dated people I didn't particularly trust before, I've slept with people I didn't really trust, but I have never, would never, could never spank someone I didn't have total trust in, nor would I expect a spankee to go over my lap unless she had complete faith in me. It's such a special connecti
  15. That's a coincidence. The song before last on my random list was Zombie as well, but the Bad Wolves version. Cranberries is on the list somewhere too but it's a pretty big list on random so I haven't heard it today.
  16. I have my random playlist queued up right now and Winterborn by Cruxshadows just came on. I have no idea how to type an umlaut on the phone lol.
  17. Top, women only, though I have switched a few times. Only under very specific circumstances, and for a few very specific partners over the years.
  18. Excellent poll. I'm a spanker with neither anger issues nor problems with authority. That said, I've been the authority professionally for a lot of years now, and became so in part because I found the incompetence of some of my nominal superiors to be tiresome and wasteful, so I may have had authority issues as a younger man, though not anger. I will ballpark that around 2/3rds of my spankees have either anger issues or problems with authority, typically work related. Most of the stress relief spankings I give are at least tangentially related to one or the other or both of those issues.
  19. I would definitely play spanking poker. Could probably market it, I mean world series of poker is on tv all the time and there's no spanking at all there. As far as I know.
  20. I agree with @KentuckyGuyand @rubyredd. Spanko is my personal sexuality, though I don't publicly declare it, but sex is rarely part of a session for me. While I spank female partners only, simply due to personal comfort and preference, i would say maybe 5% of my spankees and I have had sex over the years. 3 of those have been long time partners. It's not that I'm averse to a physical relationship outside of spanking with a partner, just that it isn't really necessary, at least for me, and that while I'm certainly no prude, I generally don't sleep around casually. Not in 15 years or so anyway.
  21. Ah, love this topic. I'm an avid board gamer and have a few regular gaming groups. One of our favorites is betrayal at house on the hill. Starts off like a mature Scooby gang mystery until the trigger happens, then one player becomes the villain and tries to take out his or her former teammates. We also tried a game a couple weeks ago based on the old choose your own adventure novels. We're all late 30s to mid 40s, so stuff that has a nostalgic touch is great for us. Someone bought a game similar to our betrayal fave, but based on The Shining, which we'll probably try next week. One of our pla
  22. I honestly never have. For that matter, I've never even taken the grips off my clubs, not that I have time for much golfing lately. Interesting idea though, may need to look into that. Also, I initially misunderstood what you meant and assumed you were referring to gripping an implement as you would a golf club, which would have been a definite no.
  23. That's great news!! Congratulations! Keep us posted on how it goes, and probably best to get your celebrating done before it starts. I think 5 months should give you enough time ;-D Again, congrats, I'm sure you'll do well.
  24. This^ Nothing at all wrong with trying things out. I've found that everyone handles different implements in a different way, with a huge variation of reactions, some of which were quite unexpected. Some people find the belt to be daunting, others can handle a lengthy belting with a laugh but an old wood hairbrush will leave them gasping. Some love the stingy toys, some the thuddy ones, but it isn't always about sting or thud or length or weight either. Some people have emotional reactions to certain implements as well, based on past experiences whether from childhood or adult encounters.
  25. There's really no wrong answer here;) any style of otk is better than no otk! I will say, I've only ever spanked wheelbarrow when my Ee and I are in a physical relationship outside of spanking. Not that I'm averse to the position but it's never been suggested by a spankee with whom I wasn't sexually active, and in my experience it's amazing as foreplay but the angle isn't the best if I want to give a really good spanking, not as good as 1, 2 or 4 in my experience anyway. Whichever way one chooses, otk is the best;)!
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