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  1. I had prepared a post with a similar, but slightly different viewpoint. The responses to this thread bring out some pretty interesting perspectives. I will add a slight twist to the debate. Here is the post I had prepared. Apologies for the large font size, but I can't figure out how to change it after pasting it here. I am wondering what group members think of this debate I am having with myself. I am a straight male in my early 60's and I have been a Spanko for as long as I can remember. My specific orientation is spankee. I recall being intrigued by spanking as early as 7 or 8 years old. Yup, I am a lifer ๐Ÿ˜€. Aside from this terrific group, I have only divulged my preoccupation with spanking to two people in my life; my late wife (she did spank me and became pretty good at it) and my current partner. My partner tried it with me, but was never enthusiastic about it and that activity has died off over the last 5 years. We have tried to discuss it, but unfortunately the conversation doesn't get us anywhere. Lately i have done some reading and research to the extent that there are resources available. I have also done a lot of soul searching. I've come to realize that 'Spankee' is my orientation, much like someone is 'Straight' or 'Gay' or any other orientations there are on that spectrum. Getting spanked isn't quite a sexual thing for me, but it is more alluring and important than conventional heterosexual sex. My dilemma is this: I would not cheat on my partner. In my mind getting spanked by another woman would be akin to cheating on her because I know it would hurt her. My debate with myself is; if I were to be spanked by another man - and that idea interests me - would it be cheating? Being spanked by a man wouldn't be a sexual thing for me, but I think I would enjoy it. Years ago, when my late wife used to spank me, she spanked me quite hard (and strapped, caned etc. also). I really enjoyed that, but of course I was a younger man then and I could take it well. I think that, with a bit of practice, I could take it fairly hard again. I do not believe discussing it with my partner would go well. Also, this is probably all theoretical anyway, because where would I find a guy around my age to spank me? Highly unlikely. I would really like to hear what other Spankos think about this debate. There are probably aspects to it that I haven't thought of. Let's face it, I am over 60 years old and perhaps my spanking days are behind me (see what I did there๐Ÿ˜€)? At least I can think about spanking and how it relates to me because like a lot of people following this forum, it is a big part of who I am. Now I just have to figure out which topic to post this under.
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