I try not to take the scene too seriously, rather to enjoy the company of people who share this lifelong interest and who, preferably, also enjoy interesting conversations on most topics and who appreciate a good sense of humour.
I don't collect 'friends' for statistical prowess, but have been lucky enough down the years to meet some wonderful people from all walks of life and from all over the planet, all of whom have, in some way, brought something into my own life and have made me smile, think, reflect, react. I value that.
I make no secret of enjoying the physical and social aspects of freely consented and desired spanking, but they are not the be-all and end-all.
I shall be reading through the forums and seeing what other people's views are.... always fascinating.