I wouldn't say that spankings are not sexual to me (though not only sexual: I also really cherish the traditional disciplinary dynamic). They're highly arousing and I want to enjoy giving them, which is why I only spank women. But there's a difference between arousal and what you do about the arousal. My relationship to the spankee is usually platonic and I keep my clothes on (and the spankee's, too, except for her bare bottom). Although I like to console the spankee and hold and touch her spanked behind, I respect her boundaries in the aftercare. Do I feel let down? Hardly, I'm electrif