rubyredd

No, not at all. I have no problem with mentees seeking out others, , because the way I see it, it’s all about the experiences. My mentee left me for another Dom, but I left our relationship open if she decides I’m what she wants and needs. If not, oh well. I’m still here. 

As a recreational spanker I just try to treat any spanking friends like other friends. I have walked away from overly needy ot toxic people in general when I thought we were friends. When I did just stop contact with someit is was almost always due to abusive political communication. If someone is abusive in a relationship walking away is okay. But just ignoring friends is not okay. 

Getting back to the original question regarding:  CONSTANCY - to be dependable; enduring.

I always liked what Dr Dorothy Spencer said about constancy.   She said: " after a definite list of CAUSES has been established - don't be lax in administering the discipline!....That is what I mean about not being lax When a cause has been violated - when either party NEEDS the discipline - see to it that they get it. Don't be lenient or lax - for their sake! It is the only way you can truly help them."

I am proud of my ex husband for being true to this idea.  

@SpudStateSpankyI don't even get notifications when people respond to my status updates - so I am surprised you would get them. I am not sad you "unfollowed" me if that is the case. I am curious as to whether you can change your notification settings; I haven't tried, so I don't know. I will say, your comment is the first truly rude one I have received, so there is that. Kudos on being the first person to post something unnecessarily hurtful to my profile. If you felt negatively toward my participation and encouragement of discussion and learning about others (through the medium that best helps me learn and grow as a spanko), then why not send me a PM? I do not want to post every little thing in the discussion forums. I like posting my trivialities as a status update. You are free to post as you see fit and to post status updates of your own. *Pro Tip: when you only saw my updates in the list over a multi-day period it was because no one else chose to post one and not because I was posting a dozen times a day. Anyway, feel free not to respond in the future.

Since we have been married I have financially supported us and I work and my wife stays home. I told my wife that she has the option to work or not. So my wife is HoH and make all the rules . One rule is that I work hard at my sales job and bring home checks with good sales results. My wife made it quite clear that she expects good commissions and if not then she believes in motivational spankings. I must admit I do get lazy at times and the spankings has literally lite a fire in my pants and results has been larger checks. The spankings can be quite severe at times so I really try to reach goals set by my wife .

@rubyredd 

I posted a very nice apology here last night.  I am puzzled at why you deleted it???

I'm not a big fan of it. I prefer direct communication "I want/need a spanking." However, I did have a notable experience once of being bratted during a munch. The brat in question would not calm down until I took her outside and gave her a few quick spanks. My wife was at this event too. Its in the category of "spanko experiences I have had that sound like fiction but aren't"

It use to be something I enjoyed at parties.  More of a flirtatious act as long as the line is drawn in the right place.  One of the rules of spanking parties is, "Bratting a Top is consent to be spanked."  But doing or saying the same things over and over does not continue to be funny and to continue doing it is no longer flirtatious.  

I agree, as an EE, over the top bratting can become annoying.  I prefer to just be myself!

This is a very touchy subject.  I feel like Child-of-Light should create a distinct topic area on SN especially for discussions of consent.  However, the problem is that it is like the 3rd rail of spanking discussion.  Even simple discussion of safe-words seem to set everybody off.        

@Rand E- it can be a sensitive topic, for sure. But if we are respectful, then it won't devolve (and any insulting comments will be removed). So far the comments have all been fine. 

Now that you raised this topic, I just posted a new thread in the Spanking Safety section.  This topic is a BIG BIG deal.  I really want to stir the pot and get some input and insight from everybody.  We have all sort of new folks joining the forum, and they will be looking for guidance from the experienced folks on how to handle their spanking relationships.  I hope we can put some dialogue together that will be helpful to folks working on their new spanko relationships.

For hand spankings, no.  Counting swats or strokes in disciplinary spankings?  Absolutely yes.  I am sure I'm repeating views which I've expressed many times here, but counting increases the emotional reaction of the spankee, which is more important than the physical sting.  "One, Sir.  thank you, Sir."  And sometimes, adding "I know this is for my own good."  A wonderful sound.

Yes when I am receiving a spanking from wife with the pine or lexan paddle long paddles ,I must count. These are Punishment paddlings and I must count and say thank you Mommy after each swat. I must always address my wife as mommy when she is administering discipline. Counting the strokes is humilating I wouldn't say it is a distraction. However making a mistake counting will result in my wife starting over. She never tells me how many swats I am going to receive. My wife has used this approach in making me count going back to the days we were dating.

So, I don't think I answered my own question. I don't like counting except during very specific scenes (school-esque paddling roleplay, for example) and in very specific ways. I am fine with saying the number - but a "thank you, sir, may I have another" is just beyond me. It feels too contrived for discipline or even funishment. 

Weirdly, I don't really like to talk that much during a spanking. Unlike all the other times of day. 

But I don’t want my attitude adjusted! 😩😜

@AbleHanded- I happen to love coffee and attitude adjustments. And fully support truth in advertising. 

@Rand E- that is a good point.

@JoJo513- just grin and bear (and bare) it. 😏

I have had many attitude adjustments lessons from my wife. My wife gives me chores or a errand to do and I hesitate doing it or say something she doesn't like. On Saturdays my wife expect me to clean the apartment and she expects me to do it without complaining and do it enthusiastically. Not doing so will result in a attitude adjustment across my wife knee. This is something I don't need having to do work with a sore bottom and a maintenance spanking to look forward to on Sundays. Attitude adjustment spankings from my wife consist of a hand spanking and a date with her leather belt laying across the pillow. My attitude is adjusted after this Punishment.