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  1. For around nine months I was in a disciplinary arrangement with a long-time friend. We were spanking friends in our early 20s and regular friends, too. When that relationship ended abruptly, I felt an overwhelming sense of loss - almost akin to abandonment. Tops (ERs) are under a certain amount of pressure in that position - because within the agreement they have obligations to their partners - fairness, honesty, consistency, and so on. One of the things that I needed most was constancy - which, I think, can be difficult for many Tops to maintain long-term. 

    CONSTANCY - to be dependable; enduring.

    What happens when a spanking partner is not dependable or is inconsistent? When s/he "disappears" or doesn't reach out or doesn't consistently enforce rules? Have you ever been "ghosted" by a spanking partner? This question really applies to both Tops and bottoms. 

    I have chatted with several EEs who felt that sense of abandonment. And have seen a few posts about it, as well. It isn't always a final ending, but long periods of silence or limited contact - that can be damaging, too. Thoughts? Can a person be a "good Top" if they are not truly dependable? 

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    2. a-mw-spanker1

      a-mw-spanker1

      No, not at all. I have no problem with mentees seeking out others, , because the way I see it, it’s all about the experiences. My mentee left me for another Dom, but I left our relationship open if she decides I’m what she wants and needs. If not, oh well. I’m still here. 

    3. DifferentialP

      DifferentialP

      As a recreational spanker I just try to treat any spanking friends like other friends. I have walked away from overly needy ot toxic people in general when I thought we were friends. When I did just stop contact with someit is was almost always due to abusive political communication. If someone is abusive in a relationship walking away is okay. But just ignoring friends is not okay. 

    4. jelena53

      jelena53

      Getting back to the original question regarding:  CONSTANCY - to be dependable; enduring.

      I always liked what Dr Dorothy Spencer said about constancy.   She said: " after a definite list of CAUSES has been established - don't be lax in administering the discipline!....That is what I mean about not being lax When a cause has been violated - when either party NEEDS the discipline - see to it that they get it. Don't be lenient or lax - for their sake! It is the only way you can truly help them."

      I am proud of my ex husband for being true to this idea.  

       

                                                                                                                                                                             

  2. I have been so overwhelmed with work that I haven't been able to come up with any good questions this week. 

    Does spanking really work for motivation? How would you use spanking and discipline to motivate?

    One poster asked about personal trainers... which is an interesting concept. But, would it really work?

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    2. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @SpudStateSpankyI don't even get notifications when people respond to my status updates - so I am surprised you would get them. I am not sad you "unfollowed" me if that is the case. I am curious as to whether you can change your notification settings; I haven't tried, so I don't know. I will say, your comment is the first truly rude one I have received, so there is that. Kudos on being the first person to post something unnecessarily hurtful to my profile. If you felt negatively toward my participation and encouragement of discussion and learning about others (through the medium that best helps me learn and grow as a spanko), then why not send me a PM? I do not want to post every little thing in the discussion forums. I like posting my trivialities as a status update. You are free to post as you see fit and to post status updates of your own. *Pro Tip: when you only saw my updates in the list over a multi-day period it was because no one else chose to post one and not because I was posting a dozen times a day. Anyway, feel free not to respond in the future.

    3. Herstingingpalm

      Herstingingpalm

      Since we have been married I have financially supported us and I work and my wife stays home. I told my wife that she has the option to work or not. So my wife is HoH and make all the rules . One rule is that I work hard at my sales job and bring home checks with good sales results. My wife made it quite clear that she expects good commissions and if not then she believes in motivational spankings. I must admit I do get lazy at times and the spankings has literally lite a fire in my pants and results has been larger checks. The spankings can be quite severe at times so I really try to reach goals set by my wife .

    4. SpudStateSpanky

      SpudStateSpanky

      @rubyredd 

      I posted a very nice apology here last night.  I am puzzled at why you deleted it???

  3. How much sass is too much? Where do you stand on bratting?

    I prefer bratting in its milder forms - clever sass, silliness, teasing or "acting up" just to get spanked. Bratting, to me, is all in good fun. It is part of my spankoness, but easily controlled and not something I share with every spanking partner.

    There is a noticeable difference between bratting and real attitude (for me). Bratting is intentional / purposeful - I am trying to get spanked. Yes, I could just ask, but where is the fun in that? 

    Some Tops don't like bratting at all; other Tops like it in small doses. There are certainly Tops who really enjoy it.

    What about EEs? Even brats have different levels of tolerance for other bratty behavior. I have a hard time playing with other brats or littles-who-brat in chat for extended silliness. That isn't really my style of bratty behavior, but it can be fun in short bursts.

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    2. Gator

      Gator

      I'm not a big fan of it. I prefer direct communication "I want/need a spanking." However, I did have a notable experience once of being bratted during a munch. The brat in question would not calm down until I took her outside and gave her a few quick spanks. My wife was at this event too. Its in the category of "spanko experiences I have had that sound like fiction but aren't" :D

    3. FtWorthOTK55

      FtWorthOTK55

      It use to be something I enjoyed at parties.  More of a flirtatious act as long as the line is drawn in the right place.  One of the rules of spanking parties is, "Bratting a Top is consent to be spanked."  But doing or saying the same things over and over does not continue to be funny and to continue doing it is no longer flirtatious.  

    4. alyssandra

      alyssandra

      I agree, as an EE, over the top bratting can become annoying.  I prefer to just be myself!

  4. I normally stay away from more serious topics, but let's talk about consent - which can take several forms in the realm of spanking. Whether consent is implied* or implicit, it has to be freely given. It is one of the foundations of adult spanking - safe, sane, and consensual (SSC). 

    Consent is one of the main differences between my fantasies and my reality. But, even in my fantasies, my character seems to enjoy being spanked on some level. 

    Do your fantasies involve non-consensual spanking? How does that differ from your reality? Do you promote a SSC spanko lifestyle?

    *I use the term "implied consent," but there is also CNC (consensual non-consent) - which still involves consent. 

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    2. Rand E

      Rand E

      This is a very touchy subject.  I feel like Child-of-Light should create a distinct topic area on SN especially for discussions of consent.  However, the problem is that it is like the 3rd rail of spanking discussion.  Even simple discussion of safe-words seem to set everybody off.        

    3. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @Rand E- it can be a sensitive topic, for sure. But if we are respectful, then it won't devolve (and any insulting comments will be removed). So far the comments have all been fine. 

    4. Rand E

      Rand E

      Now that you raised this topic, I just posted a new thread in the Spanking Safety section.  This topic is a BIG BIG deal.  I really want to stir the pot and get some input and insight from everybody.  We have all sort of new folks joining the forum, and they will be looking for guidance from the experienced folks on how to handle their spanking relationships.  I hope we can put some dialogue together that will be helpful to folks working on their new spanko relationships.

       

  5. Counting swats - yes or no?

    What do you prefer?

    Tops: What purpose does counting serve? 

    Bottoms: Is counting a distraction?

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    2. Chastener

      Chastener

      For hand spankings, no.  Counting swats or strokes in disciplinary spankings?  Absolutely yes.  I am sure I'm repeating views which I've expressed many times here, but counting increases the emotional reaction of the spankee, which is more important than the physical sting.  "One, Sir.  thank you, Sir."  And sometimes, adding "I know this is for my own good."  A wonderful sound.

    3. Herstingingpalm

      Herstingingpalm

      Yes when I am receiving a spanking from wife with the pine or lexan paddle long paddles ,I must count. These are Punishment paddlings and I must count and say thank you Mommy after each swat. I must always address my wife as mommy when she is administering discipline. Counting the strokes is humilating I wouldn't say it is a distraction. However making a mistake counting will result in my wife starting over. She never tells me how many swats I am going to receive. My wife has used this approach in making me count going back to the days we were dating.

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      So, I don't think I answered my own question. I don't like counting except during very specific scenes (school-esque paddling roleplay, for example) and in very specific ways. I am fine with saying the number - but a "thank you, sir, may I have another" is just beyond me. It feels too contrived for discipline or even funishment. 

      Weirdly, I don't really like to talk that much during a spanking. Unlike all the other times of day. 

  6. Do you ever just need an attitude adjustment? 

    Please tell me about an attitude adjustmemt you have given or received (or both). As always, adult only. Thanks! 

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    2. JoJo513

      JoJo513

      But I don’t want my attitude adjusted! 😩😜

    3. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @AbleHanded- I happen to love coffee and attitude adjustments. And fully support truth in advertising. 

      @Rand E- that is a good point.

      @JoJo513- just grin and bear (and bare) it. 😏

    4. Herstingingpalm

      Herstingingpalm

      I have had many attitude adjustments lessons from my wife. My wife gives me chores or a errand to do and I hesitate doing it or say something she doesn't like. On Saturdays my wife expect me to clean the apartment and she expects me to do it without complaining and do it enthusiastically. Not doing so will result in a attitude adjustment across my wife knee. This is something I don't need having to do work with a sore bottom and a maintenance spanking to look forward to on Sundays. Attitude adjustment spankings from my wife consist of a hand spanking and a date with her leather belt laying across the pillow. My attitude is adjusted after this Punishment.

  7. Hypothetical Spanking Question:

    Let's say, hypothetically, an EE went for a run or bike ride or walk. She comes up to a road crossing with a flashing light. The car in one lane stops, but the driver in the other lane did not stop at the trail crossing - despite seeing her patiently waiting. So... the EE flipped off the driver and called him a name. 

    Is that a spankable offense? Why or why not? If so, what would be appropriate in terms of discipline?

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    2. Jaded

      Jaded

      I agree with @JoJo513, it would depend on if you were working to improve on this behavior.  I don’t agree with ers who look for any excuse/behavior to punish, but that’s just me.  I think things must be agreed upon.  The dangerous part of this behavior, is that some people can react crazy (such as road rage), if someone calls them a name or flips them off.  

    3. Nightowl08

      Nightowl08

      I would say it depends on if it is something you are working on or if you feel guilty and need the release.  If swearing or anger management are things the EE is working on then yes it is a spankable offense.  If it is a one time thing then I believe the EE could learn from it on there own or ask for a spanking if they think they need it.  
       

      So any story to go with this hypothetical scenario...or really just the end results?

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      Thanks for all the input. I would have to agree with those who said this was not a spankable offense - especially just for the swearing and hand gesture. I do agree that it is not a safe thing to do, of course. 

      Since this is not something I am working on with a disciplinary partner it is a moot point, though. 😊

  8. What happens when a hand goes back to protect a bottom during a spanking? 

    A. Tell the EE to move his/her hand. 

    B. Move the EE's hand away.

    C. Grab the hand and hold it at his/her side or back. 

    D. Smack the hand once. 

    E. Give extra swats to the palm of the offending hand.

    F. Nothing

    G. Something else (explain, please).

    Tops - what do you do? Bottoms - what do you want to happen? Switches - both.

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    2. Herstingingpalm

      Herstingingpalm

      One thing that my wife won't tolerate is putting my hand back to interrupt the spanking. When it happens she will move my hand away , meaning the answer is B. Also before a spanking she always brings a implement that she is going to use. If she doesn't bring a implement that means I will receive a hand spanking only. During the course of the spanking If I do reach back with my hand,she will stop the spanking and tell me to go to the bedroom and bring whatever implement she wants back. So I try real hard not to reach back because it only makes it that much harder on me. 

    3. David!

      David!

      C is what happens when I'm getting spanked. Actually, I usually put my hand back to protect my bottom as soon as I'm over her knee, and she keeps my wrist pinned behind my back throughout the spanking. 

    4. MichiganHeadmaster

      MichiganHeadmaster

      I will often spank the palm of the offending hand.  That usually solves the problem.  Pinning the hand behind her waist also works.

  9. We all have "trigger words" related to spanking - many of which seem to be common among spankos and which, when read or heard, make us squirm a little (or perk up). I could barely say the word spanking when I was younger and I still only feel comfortable saying it around other spankos. But, some words trigger me that don't seem to affect others (and vice versa). 

    How do you react when you hear one of your trigger words? What is one of your more uncommon trigger words?

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    2. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @DiscreetSpanko8- the audacity! You give me hope that bratting is still a much-appreciated artform.

    3. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      Absolutely! Bratting is most certainly an artform, and sadly unappreciated these days, alas. But honestly a bratty attitude is the clearest way of saying "it's time for you to spank me" that's ever been invented, except perhaps using those exact words in a sentence of course. Besides, it's just so appealing, heartwarming, and adorable;-) and when you take the time to really spank the brattitude out of a spankee, and you're rubbing in some lotion and offering comforting words, and she looks over her shoulder with a saucy grin or a pouty smirk or blows you a raspberry, or makes a sarcastic remark like "I guess I learned my lesson" with a cute little roll of the eyes.... Well. Nothing gets the pulse racing like that sort of a challenge, and while I love everything about spanking, the spanking that will inevitably follow is the absolute inarguable best. 

      So yes, bratting is wonderful and should be treasured. I'll always go the extra mile to make sure a brat gets what she deserves. At minimum:)

    4. Rand E

      Rand E

      Boy is the gal in that graphic totally wrong!  Nobody but nobody is too old for a spanking.  Even the most inexperienced newby on SN knows that.  

  10. What is one thing you remember most from your first (adult / consensual) spanking? 

    I would love to hear your first-timer story.

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    2. Rand E

      Rand E

      Oh crap.  I can't even remember for sure.  My brain cells are deteriorating each year.

      It was definitely me spanking some gal in high school.  I can't remember her name or face, but I do sorta remember her tush.  At least those brain cells are still working in my head.  

       

    3. Rand E

      Rand E

      They both look way too happy for a spanking.  Look at us!  Hee hee, we're doing a spanking!

      Yeeesh.

    4. ukspanko

      ukspanko

      How quickly despite being 29 at the time I felt like a naughty little boy again...

  11. What takes a simple spanking up a notch from fun to "lesson time"? Is it the Top's behavior / attitude that determines the difference? What are some Toppy qualities that make for an effective lesson? 

    I would love to hear about a lesson-time you have experienced (receiving or giving) - in the realm of adult consensual spanking.

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    2. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      While I'm not really a discipline type spanker for preference, I have provided a large number of them over the years, typically for regular partners that requested them due to some action they had taken or a behavior they wanted to change. Quitting smoking with with the assistance of extensive and thorough paddlings any time they backslide for example. The "lesson time" transition when I'm giving a spanking is typically after I'd end a usual spanking. If my Ee is expecting a nice slow hand spanking to wind things down, with soothing rubs and so on, and I instead grab a zebrawood bathbrush or a walnut paddle, she instantly knows it's "lesson time". While tears are often a result, they're definitely not a prerequisite for a lesson spanking. It's been my experience that a lot of spankees, especially those with a lot of spankings under their belt, so to speak, just don't cry; however severe a session may be. Additionally, sometimes the tears start almost immediately if the EE is emotional about the reasons or just feeling guilty.. If I'm providing that sort of spanking I typically continue it until I feel the spankee is truly remorseful, AND until I feel they've reached the point of an emotional release, basically until ~they~ feel, honestly and truly, as though they've learned their lesson. Bit of margin for error of course, but as I said, I generally only provide these for regular partners, and after multiple sessions I can usually read my spankees pretty well.

      All of the preceding with the obvious caveat that safewords are always followed and that I won't continue to the point of actual physical harm. I say obvious, but sadly that isn't always the case. Anyway, that's how I handle lesson spankings, thorough, effective, but rare. I'll give a funishment or just pure fun spanking for preference any day;) 

    3. FtWorthOTK55

      FtWorthOTK55

      "I instead grab a zebrawood bathbrush or a walnut paddle"

      @DiscreetSpanko8  Yes, certain implements can spell "lesson time"  For a few I know, it is a crape myrtle switch.  I have a tree growing right beside my driveway.  It seem the sting from a switch lasts longer than thin paddles.  

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @DiscreetSpanko8 - "It's been my experience that a lot of spankees, especially those with a lot of spankings under their belt, so to speak, just don't cry; however severe a session may be."

      This is me. But, I know a spanking can still be an emotional release.

      Certain implements feel more disciplinary to me than others - a bathbrush, for instance. 

      @FtWorthOTK55- a switch can leave a sting that lasts several days.

  12. What is your favorite spanking reaction?

    Do you like a lot of physical reaction or do you prefer minimal movement? Does the nature of the spanking make a difference?

    Personally, I love the kicky-kicky movement. I am a bottom, so I tend to go kicky-kicky out of necessity. I like to be able to wiggle and react. I fully expect to the Top to respond appropriately. 

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    2. Keith Lemontree

      Keith Lemontree

      I like involuntary wiggling and kicking… once it really starts to hurt there’s just no staying still.   If you’re spanking me and I’m still you need to do it harder!

    3. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      The reactions are the best part of spanking! Kicking and wiggling is definitely positive feedback for me:). A squirming spankee is the loveliest sight one can imagine. Little involuntary yelps are music to my ears. Any reaction is great as long as it's genuine. And as I've said before, brattiness prior to, and especially during a spanking, is positively adorable. The more reaction I get, the happier I am. 

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      I am glad there are so many spankos who appreciate reactions!

  13. What TV show really needed a spanking scene? Why? What characters would be involved? 

    Please include only adult characters in your response - if you include that detail. Thanks!

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    2. josef336

      josef336

      No spanking, @Geoffreauxbut the Angels did have to open their towels and expose themselves to the Matron in the Prison episode. 

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    3. josef336

      josef336

      Agreed @KentuckyGuy in the reruns whenever Jeannie calls Tony "Master" I often conjure the image of her receiving swats from Tony.

    4. josef336

      josef336

      You are correct @FtWorthOTK55Lucille Ball was a great sport.  

       

  14. Tops / ERs may not realize how important panty selection is to some bottoms / EEs. I am one of those bratty bottoms who obsesses about choosing just the right pair. How particular are you about panties / underwear? Do you have a particular style you like best? Or, are you indifferent?

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    2. Hotspur

      Hotspur

      It's been my experience that quite a lot of female spankees seem to like to wear thongs. They offer no protection whatsoever as the target area is completely exposed but maybe they don't feel quite as vulnerable as being completely naked from the waist down.

       

    3. Hook

      Hook

      Is she doesn't want a bare bottom, no thong, spanking.. then I'm not the right spanker.

    4. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      @rubyreddwhile the "taking down" step is always fun, I don't view it as crucial by any means. Judging from the discussion thus far I may be in the minority, but commando works just as well for me, especially when it's a surprise:). I consider it an unexpected plus, because it shows that my partner is absolutely on the same page as myself, and as eager to be spanked as I am to spank! Bonus points if I get a saucy grin and/or wink overr the shoulder when pants go down or dress goes up to reveal nothing beneath;-D

  15. If I am honest, I sort of like sitting down on a sore bottom. Does anyone else enjoy that sensation or the reminder of a good spanking? 

    Tops: How do you feel about the lasting effects of a spanking? Have you received any comments (compliments or complaints) regarding the lasting impression of your handiwork? 

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    2. JoJo513

      JoJo513

      I love sitting on a sore bottom. I’m a bit rambunctious and do everything a little intensely like plopping down on a chair or jumping into my car. After a spanking those are always abrupt reminders to not sit so aggressively! 😆 I know my ER loves me to tell him when I’ve sat too aggressively. He reminds me that I earned that sore bottom and it would be less sore if I could just be obedient 😆

    3. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @JoJo513- I am glad I am not alone in loving that feeling. And, just like you, I am rambunctious and tend to sit too aggressively. 

    4. JoJo513

      JoJo513

      The worst part is I do a lot of CrossFit. Squats the day after a spanking are the WORST!

  16. In terms of discipline / punishment, have you ever been escorted to your room for a spanking when you were not feeling cooperative or were even defiant?  Tops: Have you ever "escorted" an EE in such a way?

    I don't have any real punishments that involve being dragged off to my room, but... last year, when I visited my former partner, he did "escort" me from his car to his back patio for a few swats. 

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    2. Rand E

      Rand E

      That's very interesting.  That's my theory about why my wife does it.  And I will admit, when she is defiant and I have to use my dom skills and even some physicality to overcome her defiance, it makes the experience feel more genuine, even if she is just pushing my buttons and I'm not sure she is being entirely genuine.  

       

    3. JoJo513

      JoJo513

      I think I give more cheek and am more defiant if it’s a punishment spanking but I don’t yet feel bad about what I’ve done. If I feel bad or guilty then I can go more easily. But if I’m still trying to justify myself or I’m having a “fuck it” day then I don’t go quietly... even though I want to

    4. Rand E

      Rand E

      @JoJo513 My wife is a bit more hot-tempered than I am.  Sometimes, she can really challenge me.  You sound a bit like her.  ;)  

  17. Have you ever been sent to your room or have you sent someone to his/her room to wait for a spanking? (Adult consensual only, please.)

    In your ideal situation, does the EE wait in a corner, sit on the bed, pace around the room, read a book, take a nap? 

    Is there a time limit or does the misfit have to wait until bedtime for a good spanking? 

    Tell me your favorite scenario.

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    2. HasHairbrush

      HasHairbrush

      Ruby, anything that builds expectation in the near term is perfect. so I would say no to the book or sleep. corner or sitting on the bed holding the spoon, hairbrush or whatever would be perfect.

    3. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @MeanMachine- would the slig on the arm be followed by a swat on the behind? 

      @HasHairbrush- well that just seems unnecessary! No book, just a hairbrush to hold... to stare at. Sigh. 

    4. HasHairbrush

      HasHairbrush

      I think spanking is more of a mental exercise than a physical one and even the physical aspect is designed to affect the spankee's mental state. when I come to the room, even though she would have been holding the hairbrush, I would start with hand on panties. then pull panties down, and send her to the corner holding the brush, hopefully there is a ceiling fan so she can feel a cool draft on her bottom. after a bit of waiting, the warming would be swift

  18. Everyone likes to appreciate the fine art of a spanking, but where do you stand on the subject of rubbing - before, during, and after the spanking?

    Do you like or dislike it? When do you do it (or when do you want it to happen)? How much is too much? 

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    2. Rand E

      Rand E

      The rubbing comes with the after-care, not so much before or during the spanking itself.  However, when spanking my wife erotically, I do like to feel the heat from her nice red paddle-hot bottom with my hand or even my cheek.   

    3. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      Totally depends on my partner. I usually apply lotion a number of times throughout, lessens the possibility of breaking skin. I prefer long, thorough sessions with lots of variety in terms of implements, tempo, and intensity; so I gravitate towards partners that have similar tastes. I've sessioned with a spankee that didn't feel comfortable with non spank touching, which is fine, though it seemed odd to me to be perfectly honest. Skin to skin contact being restricted to impact play only feels kind of cold to me. Still, people feel the way they feel. What can ya do but respect boundaries. Nowadays I'd probably suggest that person find someone better suited to their personal desires and bid them a friendly adieu and wish em the best. I was eager and indiscriminate back then. These days I need a personal connection. Being treated as a walking spanking machine isn't something I'm interested in, however delectably spankable a bottom may be. 

      I wouldn't say I rub excessively, although I do ocassionally play with an EE who reeaaallly enjoys a good rub between implement changes and I'm more than happy to oblige;). I guess like most of these discussions everything depends on who I'm playing with and what they're into. I've never spanked a bottom I wouldn't be happy to rub as long as said bottom found it enjoyable:)

    4. Longtimespanking

      Longtimespanking

      I rub before, during, and after every spanking, and the women I've spanked over the years all seemed to like that level of contact and touching. 

  19. Back to fantasy... Do you have a favorite time period or setting for spanking fantasies?

    Here are some ideas:

    - 1950s, poodle skirt, soda shop 

    - 1960s, office 

    - medieval tavern wench

    - wild west, cowboy and the rancher's daughter

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    2. Rand E

      Rand E

      I know this is going to sound a bit unenlightened, given the emphasis on consent and cooperation which guides the sensibilities of this forum, and my contemporary marriage, but the most stimulating fantasies are from earlier time periods in US history where corporal punishment between spouses (admittedly mostly husband disciplining the wife) were the real deal.  But, honestly, isn't that the charm of period piece movies?  They take you to a different time and place where morals and relationships were decidedly different, and sometimes, one might say, a bit raw.  Yet, all things considered, my fantasies in that regard are pretty tame, compared to, say, fantasies of pirates raping, torturing, and pillaging.  I'm not a sadist.    

    3. Rand E

      Rand E

      Forgot to mention anything specific.  There is a spanking scene in Outlander where Jamie takes a belt to his wife Claire.  There are no safe words or protocols.  Her transgression is pretty serious misbehavior, so it's not entirely unpleasant to see her reap the consequences.  But, like I said, it's another time and place in the distant past to feed one's fantasies.

       
    4. jelena53

      jelena53

      I loved to see Claire get that spanking.  I loved the men hearing downstairs from them.    I loved their discuss of it too..

  20. Just a little humor to start the day. What was your first spanking like?

    I shouldn't need to preface it as such, but I am asking about consensual, spanko spanking. No stories of non-con or adult-kid, please.

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    2. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @Dunelmman- that sounds like a great experience. I am sorry she had to move.

      @DiscreetSpanko8 - experimenting and constant spanking... sounds glorious. My first boyfriend spanked me at least once every day we saw each other - we were a little obsessed.

      @KentuckyGuy- at least your ER experience sounds fun. 

      @Jaded- just horrible or boring or...?

      @candyapplered- never gotten in an accident, but I definitely know about being nervous (and walking funny after).

    3. Jaded

      Jaded

      It’s a long story.  I’ve posted about it here reluctantly, hoping to help new members follow safety protocols.  

    4. FtWorthOTK55

      FtWorthOTK55

      My first consensual spanking was with a 19 year old girl who worked for me.  She was the roommate of a girl I was dating.  It was my girlfriend's 25th birthday.  I was taking her out to dinner, then we were going out dancing.  The girlfriend was still getting ready when I got there.  I plotted with the roommate while waiting to give her a birthday spanking before we left.

      I had been a closet spanko my whole life and my gf comes out dressed in tight blue jeans.  I announce I am going to give you a birthday spanking before we leave and wrestle her onto my lap while sitting on an ottoman.  After I count out a few swats, she not only tries to get away but screams about how much it hurts.  This is obviously not fun for her so I stop.  

      Her roommate calls her a "wuss" and tells her it was just a birthday spanking.  My gf gets angry at her, saying she did not know how much it hurt.  They get into an argument, mainly because the roommate is teasing her.  My gf tells her if she did not think it hurt for her to let me give her a spanking.  The roomie says, "Here.  I show you that you are a wuss."  She then tells me she will take my gf's spanking.  I sit back down.  She goes over my lap and I give her 25 good swats, plus one to grow on across the seat of her jeans.  She rubbed her butt when I was done but hardly made a sound during the spanking. 

      Later she told me her boyfriend sometimes spanked her bare butt with his belt as foreplay and she liked it when he did.  I never spanked her again but it was tempting.          

  21. So, based on yesterday's question... 

    Do you think it would it be worse to be spanked first or last? Why?

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    2. StrictGent

      StrictGent

      I've always thought last, too. But that was in the context of rl school canings, where the headmaster has who ever is next waiting outside his study, the poor soul able to hear everything while he waits. Terrifying!

    3. jelena53

      jelena53

      Back in 1980 I was paddled in school (7th grade) and I was paddled with 3 other girls (all in an adjoining empty classroom).  We saw each other get paddled-- it was terrible.   I was 3rd in a line up and I could not watch much-- I mostly closed my eyes but couldn't close my ears.   We were paddled over pants but it was still very bad. 

    4. candyapplered

      candyapplered

      I think first because the spanker’s arm is fresh and not tired yet. 😂

  22. Would you rather... 

    A. Get spanked by two people (a couple or similar scenario) or

    B. Be spanked alongside another EE?

    Tops - spank with another Top or spank two EEs?

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    2. Itsonl7633

      Itsonl7633

      @rubyredd 

      Have not tried it yet but am looking for female EE to explore it with. 

    3. Needsitbad

      Needsitbad

      Who said when choosing between 2 (or more) evils I'll take the one I haven't tried before?  Getting spanked by a couple it is then! 

    4. candyapplered

      candyapplered

      I’d say being spanked by two people. I’ve been spanked side by side with another EE before and would do that again too.  I had someone instructing another person how to spank me but never two actually doing it as discipline together.

  23. ERs/EEs: Have you ever been bored during a spanking? What makes a spanking more exciting for you?

    EEs: Have you ever pretended a spanking hurt - when it didn't? 

    Do you think a ping-pong paddle actually hurts? 

    Burning questions...

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    2. FtWorthOTK55

      FtWorthOTK55

      The only time I got close to being bored while giving a spanking was when the spankee just lay there and took everything without moving or making any sound at all. it was like spanking someone who was asleep (or worse!). I know it was just her way of processing the pain (we talked about it) but it's not very interesting to spank someone and get zero reaction.

      I am the same way.  I don't like fake reactions but it can be boring when she seems bored.  Like NOselfDiscipline stated, sometimes there is a lack of chemistry.   

    3. DiscreetSpanko8

      DiscreetSpanko8

      Lack of reaction is a definite downer for me. Totally unsatisfying, though it hasn't been an issue in a long time. I vividly recall a meetup with an extremely jaded EE in Chicago, who was more focused on a Family Guy episode than what I was doing. That was maybe 04 or 05? I was using her bathbrush, which she insisted was her favorite toy, heavy zebrawood I think, and I wasn't holding back until I started worrying about going past bruises to broken skin, and she seemed to barely notice. Incredibly disappointing. We were a bad match, but that happened a fair amount to me back then. I was, alas, indiscriminate in my choice of playmates, using a spanking hookup site to meet everyone I could. Ah well. Older and (hopefully!) wiser, plus looking back I'm amazed I never got mugged or worse. Heard some horror stories :/ Live and learn!

      But yah, the reaction is absolutely necessary, as long as it's genuine. Whether tears, or moans, or even laughter, just don't fake it. Yah I said laughter. I had a session not long ago with an EE who laughed semi hysterically almost throughout. She kept apologizing and saying she couldn't help it, it always happened etc. I had to keep telling her it was perfectly normal (though in a semi-severe session which that was it's unique in my experience), and that it didn't bother me a bit. And it didn't, though 15 or 20 years ago it probably would have been pretty upsetting:) I think it would have instilled some self doubt into young(er) me to be honest, lol.

      As far as lack of chemistry goes, I've been lucky with that in recent years. Probably because I don't feel the need to jump into playing with anyone who seems interested. Patience was a virtue it took me too long to pick up, but better late than never! Quality over quantity.

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      Thank you all for sharing! 

  24. Let's talk about spanking wishes - things that probably wouldn't happen in real-life. What is your spanking wish / fantasy?

    Mine is to throw a tiny tantrum at the grocery store (always the frozen food section, for some reason) and to get a swat or two in the store, and a little scolding or warning, before being escorted out for a much longer spanking. 

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    2. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @DiscreetSpanko8 As per usual, I have exceeded my daily ration of reactions... but, Cap'n Crunch is totally pervy. He is always after the booty. As someone who runs outside all winter in the Midwest... I can attest to how badly a swat on an icy bum hurts.

      @Jaded- I am totally wondering now about the psychology of the frozen food section. 😂

    3. Hook

      Hook

      I once roleplayed 'catching' her at Victoria Secret  where she'd been 'told' not to be.  This was my first time meeting this particular roleplay partner.. I caught her, and escorted her out of the store by the arm, we went somewhere private for her spanking.  Great fun, great memory.

       

       

    4. rubyredd

      rubyredd

      @Hook- that does sound exciting! 

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