My only concern relates to the particular profile pic you have chosen to use here. Maybe the other people are fellow spankos and all are completely fine with their faces used as part of your profile picture. But, a pic of just you would probably be a better choice. Or at least blur out the others. Plenty of folks on SN have face pics, though it is not something I would really recommend for other women, and that is fine - but I haven't seen any that include other people (kinkster or otherwise). Most pics with more than one person are professional shots / stills from spanking videos.
I have been rubyredd online since 1999 or so - and she is me and I am her. But, I have a family and a job and my profile picture will always be the backside of me. My husband is a spanko Top, so it wouldn't bother him, but it could hurt our family unit as a whole to be outted. And I won't risk harming the people I love for some perceived sense of freedom that has no real positive impact on my life.
The online spanking community has long been the only support I need. I don't need to be out to the vanilla community. There were times in my life - my 20s - when most of my friends knew. But I don't talk about spanking to vanillas anymore. I have my husband, real-life spanko friends, former partners, and the fine folks of SN.
No matter what, we should all do what makes us happy and comfortable.