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rubyredd last won the day on October 2

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  1. "What are you going to do... spank me?" "I like to be spanked. Want to try it?" There are a thousand ways to ask - but the best way is to be honest about your needs. When I was dating, I would bring it up within the first few dates. No spanking... no more dates.
  2. What is the role of erotic spanking in your repertoire?

    ‚ÄĘ What makes it erotic? Does it have to lead to sex to be erotic or does the spanking itself suffice?

    ‚ÄĘ Is it about headspace?¬†

    How separate do you keep spanking and sex? 


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    2. rubyredd


      @AfterGeometry - I can see that. Though, I don't personally need the follow-up; sometimes (usually) the spanking is erotic on Its own.

    3. AfterGeometry


      @rubyredd Since we all have our own unique definition of what  "erotic" means it muddies the waters...is that a positive, or a negative??    

    4. rubyredd


      @AfterGeometry- I think it is positive. I cannot control how my body reacts when I think about spanking or when I am being spanked. I certainly always have an "erotic response" and I don't see that as being negative. Spanking is my sexual orientation and everything else is secondary.

  3. I always thought people "felt" implements in the same way, but that really isn't the case. I love leather straps, canes, switches - others think those are all terrible. But I would rather get switched than get spanked with a bathbrush. I will say - heavier wooden implements usually leave me with deeper bruising. Some implements sting, but rarely bruise me - wooden spoons, switches, canes, smaller leather straps or belts.
  4. I worked with a disciplinary partner who was not my husband. But my husband didn't report misbehaviors - that was just between me and my disciplinarian.
  5. I worked with a disciplinary partner who was not my husband. But my husband didn't report misbehaviors - that was just between me and my disciplinarian.
  6. I am not submissive; even as a spankee, I am not very subby. I am certainly not a submissive person at work (leadership role) or other aspects of my daily life. I will play the role of a submissive during BDSM play, though. I get spanked - a lot - but my husband and I are partners first and foremost. In all other aspects of life, I am a dominant leader type.
  7. *As always, please ignore my typos. - bringing - POV to
  8. I don't understand this self-assessment. You are always a fun participant in chat. You are learning about yourself - just as we all are. You aren't bring a diminished POVto discussion, you are bringing in your perspectives. That is all anyone can do.
  9. Technique is very important to me when it comes to the cane. A careless caner is never good. Sometimes my husband likes to do the perfect six to start - just to see the pretty lines. But we all know six is never enough.
  10. How great is you desire to share your spanking fetish? 

    Several of the posts in the General Discussion forum relate to being open about our spanking needs... t-shirts, door hangers, vanillas who know about our kink - things that out us as spankos.

    I used to be very open about my spankoness - back in my teens and 20s. Mostly out of necessity - how would I get spanked if I didn't ask? I was open with friends, potential dating partners, etc. I am still not shy about my interests - and certainly am not ashamed - but I don't talk about it with most vanillas, I don't put my face in my profile pics, I don't wear shirts advertising my interests. 

    What about you? 


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    2. nicoleS39


      I would love to be very open about this...but my desire to protect my husband and daughter from the certain unnecessary but inevitable scrutiny we would be exposed to....overrides my desire to be more open with this strange need I have....

    3. SimplyRed


      Not to be shared outside our trusted group.  Ever. Let the outsiders come in and then its fine.

    4. kiko


      I think being a spankee is who I am but I don't need to walk around with a big "S" on my chest.  Meaning, I won't bring it up over tea or in a group conversation.  However, if someone said, your butt seems pink, why?  I may blush and say to the effect that I was spanked.  Outside of this site, I am more extroverted but no one knows I am a spankee.  Perhaps if I found a safe place to speak about it I may.

      Thank you for bring this to my attention.  I should think about this should the need to respond be posed and I need to answer.

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