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  1. That makes a lot of sense. Thank you. I would say it's a kink for me to then. Because it's definitely doesn't replace sex. Which I can completely enjoy without it. But at the same time it can make sex so much more. I think a big part for me will be turning on the woman with a spanking
  2. @Bramblewinethank you, I will watch them. Can I ask you as you say you are in it for the fetish experience, exactly what part gives you pleasure and in what way? Feel free not to answer if it's to personal 🙂
  3. @Bramblewinethank you for lovely response. It's nice to understand that there is that side to it as well. I was starting to think I was the only one, who came from that angle. Glad to see I'm not alone, from the other side of the equation.
  4. I don't know if I can do this. As I said somewhere else, I'm very, very new to spanking. And for the first time ever, I roll played with someone. Which was both more exciting then I would have ever imagined, to finally share in a secret I've had for many years. But also conflicting for myself. I just wanted them to feel good, I wanted to do it how they would enjoy it. I wanted to make them feel cared about and safe. I couldn't enjoy it without knowing that it was important to them, without knowing what they wanted in that moment, there was no enjoyment for me. Which I don't think is normal? Roll playing is fine, I could do that, I can play the strict disciplinering or whatever really. But that's not what spankees want or need is it? Or am I wrong? I feel like I might have to always take charge, tell them what is going to happen and then do it (once agreed upon and spoken apon, of course) Which I don't know, if I can do. My job as a man is to chivalrous, to protect, to offer kindness. And especially to keep safe. And I stand by those principles no matter what. So how do I do this? How do I put the desire, with the principles, I choose to adhere too. My imagination isn't the same, because the woman isn't real. But if she was, if I was to do this, what will she get out of it? And not in the sense of displine, I can roll play but I cannot displine. It has to be for something else. She has to get something else out of it. If it's the excitement or pleasure or feeling cared for and safe, I don't know. What do you feel from being spanked that is not displine?
  5. Spanking someone seems a lot more intimate then sex in some ways. There you have someone giving up control to you (or at least the allusion of it) Where with sex you both have control in a way. Though that too depends on your partner to a degree. In my own mind and heart, I want to say I wouldn't just sleep with someone I've just met, but time and time again, I have. It just feels easier to share that with someone, there is the attraction or chemistry and it's normal right? But the idea of spanking someone, that comes from a lot of trust. I don't think I would like to do it with someone I've just met. But maybe they don't have to be a partner either. If I get to know them a little bit first and everything is very clearly spoken about and agreed upon, I may give it a chance. Just my thoughts at the moment. Until I seriously meet someone and talk about it, I just don't know, but those are my thoughts at the moment.
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    Thank you @Bramblewine, I see what you mean. I think it would be the same for me. Though I don't know about spanking someone I wasn't in a relationship with. Though maybe if I get the chance to really know someone first 🤔 When I was a little younger, I remember playing ping pong with a woman I was seeing and we started betting clothes when she said that if I won I could spank her. I remember being very excited about this. Alas we never finished the game I think that's the play and the pleasure, well that speaks for itself. Thank you for sharing.
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    @Bramblewinethank you for sharing. It's nice to know that I'm not alone. I was wondering if you could explain the difference between play and pleasure.?
  8. Harrow

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    Thank you for the welcome and most definitely thank you for commenting on my writing. Its long being a passion and I hope to one day attend Oxford University for an English degree. 🤞 Would I be over stepping my introduction if I spoke a little more? I've being looking around the forum and learning a little more. For as I said in my previous post, this is the first time, I've ever giving considerable thoughts on revealing this part of me. And as such, I've learned a lot more reading about other experiences spanking on this forum. Please in no way feel obliged to read this. Just after the last post, I thought I wouldn't post again. Yet I find myself dipping my toes into the pool and thinking about wading in a little more, both with questions and thoughts of my own. After considerable reading to understand my desire, I have the understanding that, spanking is definitely sexual for me. At least from being the one administering the spanking. The control of having a woman trust me enough to lay over my lap and to give up control is insanely arousing. The feeling of my finger tips gently stroking her bottom building up the anticipation before I start warming her up with soft spanks, with every few getting harder and harder until I find the rhythm she likes, is exactly the fantasy I picture. But it can never be for punishment, or maybe I should say serious punishment. It has to be mostly for pleasure, especially for her, I'm empathetic to a greater deal then most so I find the most arousing experiences from shared pleasure. I wonder is that normal? Now, I'm not one hundred percent sure that I want to do more then just write about it. I definitely don't want to experience it with a complete strange, I want to know someone on a greater level first and it's incredibly important that there is a lot of trust built up. But for now it was just nice to write my thoughts down 🙂
  9. Hello 🙂 I hope nobody minds me posting here. This is actually the first time I've ever thought about speaking about this. I'm 29 years old and I've always fantasized about spanking a female. I'm not sure sure exactly when the thoughts first strarted. My earliest memory was being at a hairdresser and seeing a beautiful woman having her hair washed. She was being pampared but at the same she had giving up control and was being completely looked after by this man. To my young mind that was completely erotic and arousing. And I remember having thoughts from then on of the damsel in distress and looking after her and keeping safe a woman so completely. But eventually those thoughts started to include spanking. How they came I don't remember. But I remember being about sixteen years old and having a spanking fantasy. I kept picturing myself being gentle and loving and slowly lowering a woman over my lap spanking her and then when it was done I'd gently lift her up and tell her how proud I was of her. So for me the fantasy is to care so much and look after a woman so much that she can feel safe and loved with me, but when she's naughty or needs a release I can take control and spank her. That's my main fantasy. To this day I have not acted upon it. But sometimes the longing gets so strong. So I thought I'd share finally. Thank you for reading
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