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Leem

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    Florida
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    Spankee

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  1. Hey! I'm a 21 year old spankee, soon to be grad. Would love to connect with spankers (or spankees for more friends) in the Tampa or Jacksonville areas. Really missing spanking in my life and want to try to make those connections again.
  2. Of course there's the initial consent, but I think it should keep going throughout the spanking, personally. A good spanker will know your limits and pay attention to your body language/reactions. If he/she is only focused on the spanking itself, then they don't care about you. I always insist on a safe word, virtual or in person. But I also will sometimes opt for saying that I'm scared (ie, of the belt or being spanked in a more private/sensitive area) so that I can communicate my hesitations and push past them. Good spankers value consent and honor it throughout.
  3. Of course there's the initial consent, but I think it should keep going throughout the spanking, personally. A good spanker will know your limits and pay attention to your body language/reactions. If he/she is only focused on the spanking itself, then they don't care about you. I always insist on a safe word, virtual or in person. But I also will sometimes opt for saying that I'm scared (ie, of the belt or being spanked in a more private/sensitive area) so that I can communicate my hesitations and push past them. Good spankers value consent and honor it throughout.
  4. I got plenty of snacks on the ass this weekend for my 21st, but i'd love to have a proper birthday spanking one day. Maybe by 22 I'll be settled down somewhere and can find a regular spanker
  5. I feel lighter and safer after a spanking. I struggle with bad nightmares, but when I would have a sore bottom and aftercare even virtually, I slept so much better. I always fantasized about getting to cuddle all night with my spanker, I know that would be the best night's rest.
  6. It's beyond lonely. I'm at the loneliest point in my life, we're all graduating and moving away and I don't want to bother with relationships until I'm settled. I can live without spanking and be just fine, but, that connection is a lot deeper than most relationships.
  7. Over one knee is my favorite, it feels intimate and they have more control. Although, being spanked while cuddling was a nice touch too.
  8. I didn't handle my last spanking too well and I still get upset with myself about it. I tend to really fight it and try to interfere and squirm away when I'm trying so, so hard to be good and stay still. I kept apologizing because I expected my spanker to get mad and just stop (of course he never did, thankfully). We handled it with restraints which is something I'd definitely want to use more down the road, especially over the knee. It just makes me feel like a bad spankee when I can't be still, and it worries me for future sessions down the road.
  9. My biggest fantasy throughout college was to be spanked by a professor/TA, but that was just a fantasy. Getting the cane used on me. Being spanked while masturbating. Filming my spanking. Not being a wimp and being better at taking my spankings, lol. same big goal as @Chawsee
  10. Losing the friendship is the hardest part. Happy memories do become hard because you just want to relive them. But like you said, sometimes it's just time. I know he's better off and have to trust he's being taken care of. Everything has to happen for a reason. I hope you find your person ❤️
  11. Absolutely. It's my go-to reason for spanking... or I act bratty when I'm stressed/emotional so that I can get a spanking. Supposed to be taking a break from spanking sites as I work through finals, but it's too good of an outlet. Would give anything for a stress relief spanking right about now.
  12. The vulnerability and trust. Testing boundaries and pushing them to learn a lesson or release some tension/emotions. I tend to block out my emotions to protect myself, so the pain of a spanking lets me feel fear and sadness and all of that in a safe, comfortable setting. There's no better feeling than being over the spanker's knee, except for laying on his chest afterward and fighting back the tears. I'd love for domestic discipline to be part of my relationships for those reasons, a girl can dream lol.
  13. Been trying to take a lot of this advice. Some days I feel better than ever, others not so much. Working on limiting my time on these sites and wondering if the person ever thinks about me still. Wanting to mean something when you can't messes with your heart. But like I mentioned previously, I did open up to my roommate about everything. It helps to have a shoulder to cry on and hype me up ❤️ Once I'm sure about where I'll be living later this year, I'll definitely have more of a peace about finding someone new, spanker or otherwise. For now, focusing on taking care of myself and finishing my
  14. thank you everyone for all of the great advice ❤️ i do want to clarify this was a mutual decision and i think nothing but the best about him. he deserves the world. i just have moving on to do on my end and all of this advice definitely helps. a break from sites is definitely needed. thank you everyone, i appreciate it a lot
  15. I replied to a similar forum, but wanted to make a post to hopefully connect with people who have been through this. It's been 3 weeks since saying goodbye to my spanker/friend and I'm struggling. How do you move on from something like this, especially when I fell so hard? I just ignore messages from other spankers at this point, I won't be ready for a long time and can't imagine someone as special as him. I miss him so much and can't stop thinking about him. He might see this, but it's nothing he doesn't know lol. I have a good spanko friend my age that makes talking about things easier, but
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