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Nicely said, @CaliSpanker53. Thankfully, I haven't experienced any prejudice due to my age, but that's probably because I'm a spanker here, rather than a spankee. I'm sure that from the viewpoint of many male tops, younger gals would be more desirable. But you've expressed your feelings about this intelligently and honorably, and you've earned my respect. Your points are valid ones, and they are the same reasons why I appreciate older male spankees, as well.

The next spanking I'm administering is scheduled for February 2022 with a fellow SN member who's been a friend of mine for a long time. It will be an honor to finally meet in person. We've waited a long time for this.

I recommend starting off with a ping-pong paddle. These are easy to come by and inexpensive, and they produce more sting and thud than the human hand. But because they are crafted from fairly thin plywood and have a large surface area, they spread the impact out over a wide area and tend not to leave lasting marks when used reasonably. Some have a rubber coating on the blade that absorbs a bit more shock. I started out with one like this, and then shortly thereafter added a second one that was just wood. Both served the purpose well. A leather paddle can also be a good choice, as can a large silicone kitchen spatula (another favorite "pervertible" implement that I started out with). Then there's the good ol' trusty wooden spoon.

I can't tell you how many times I've heard variations of this exact desire. A spankee doesn't want to be in control. He wants to know that something frightening and painful is going to happen to him, and there's absolutely nothing he can do about it. That nervous excitement seems to be a big part of the draw, eh?

Yes, that does clarify our discussion a bit more. Thanks for your input!

Thanks. If I wore that shirt and a guy said to me, "I like your shirt," it would make my day. And I agree, it would be code that he, too, is a spanko, or is at least somewhat intrigued by the thought of spanking.

Ah, I see. This further confirms what I suspected, that I am WAY out of the loop.

Gotcha. I have obsersved that this type of spanking is a common desire for many men, so you're in good company. Maybe we should start a little SN book club. This author might be a good place to start.

This is interesting, CaliSpanker53. So you guys would strike the dojo mat with your palms? And the pavement outside in winter? Did you experience any adverse affects from this? I see that you are 68. What are your thoughts on hand-spanking and it leading to arthritis? Have you been able to avoid this by using your hand differently throughout each session, as you described? Also, would you please expound upon the comment you made about absorbing the impact whenever you strike something? Thanks!

Thanks for your thoughts, Topspanker. In my younger years, when I was a serious martial artist, we spent a good portion of our training toughening our bodies-- you know what I'm talking about: falling literally hundreds of times (to master the art of avoiding injury by breaking one's fall), being lifted over the hips of fellow students and slammed onto the dojo mat, learning to take punches to the gut, etc, etc. Yet this training was to increase pain tolerance, toughen the muscles and ligaments, and sharpen one's reaction time. There was really never focus on the bones, except in learning proper punches and kicks. I can see how striking a bag of rice, as you first described, would be useful as a toughening exercise, at least for the soft structures of the hand. But then there looms the question of hand-spanking and its affects on the bones and joins over the long haul... Much to think about. Fascinating topic!

Haven't heard of this author, or even CF Publications, though that doesn't mean much, as I rarely read spanking fiction. So sorry I'm no help in that department. But do you mind sharing a few details of this type of OTK hairbrush spanking, which you fancy?

@Topspanker, thanks for starting this thread. This is an interesting topic to me, as both a spanker and a former martial artist. I've always liked hand-spanking, and was taught by a pro-disciplinarian, who mentored me for awhile, to "train" my hand by spanking a volleyball. But both she, and a very experienced switch (whom I switched with this summer) pointed out that hand-spanking eventually leads to arthritis. I don't have arthritis, nor did either of my parents, so I have no genetic predisposition to it. But after hearing this from two people whose experience exceeds mine, it is a concern. Thoughts??

I hadn't heard any of this. Then again, I'm pretty cloistered living where I do and having limited personal interaction with fellow spankos. Also, I never spend time in the chatroom, so whatever goes on in there is unbeknownst to me. I always thought switches, male or female, were the lucky ones, as we get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

When you figure out something gallant to say to such a potential spanko, please share with us your thoughts....