Chawsee

You guys gave me a good idea! My former husband was a musician, a talented acoustic guitarist. He was more than willing to teach me to play, but learning felt like it would take forever, so I never mustered up the self-discipline to practice. I should have put him (and his strong hand) in charge of this area of my life. Shucks! The opportunities for spankings that passed me by....

Hi NewEr. Many of us buy our paddles online, since there is no place local to get them. Etsy is a good source for implements, as there are numerous sellers to choose from. Other popular online sources include Woodrage and Cane-Iac. Though I've purchased two from Woodrage and have seen four Cane-Iacs up close, the fit-and-finish of these two company's paddles fell short of my standards (though, admittedly, the more experienced I get, the higher my standards become-- and at this point, I'm picky). The biggest mistake to avoid, beyond buying something junky that won't last, is getting a paddle that's too thick and hard. A real bruiser like that ruins the fun of impact play, especially when you're starting out. Begin with something light. You can always work up to "dense & intense" if that's what you want down the road. The three best companies I've bought from (all on Etsy) were LVXSupply, SPORKWood, and LittleRedSpanking. My regular spankee gifted me two beautiful Miss Rose paddles, also from Etsy. But they were made from particularly dense exotic hardwoods and proved to be brutal. You mentioned wanting a lightweight paddle with substantial sting. Check out the selection at Little Red Spanking: https://www.etsy.com/shop/LittleRedSpanking. As you'll see, you have several options to choose from. Spancer is friendly and approachable and will help you with any questions. You can't go wrong with one of his paddles. Yesterday I posted a photo and review of the lovely Merrymaker paddle I just bought from him.

Hey Gang, I bought one of these recently, when it was still a prototype, but now they are available to the public. These are FANTASTIC paddles. If you like the shape and size of the old Jokari, you'll love this higher-quality version. My review is on this product page, under the same name, Chawsee-- and no, I am not being reimbursed in any way to promote it. I paid for the paddle and this is my honest review: https://www.etsy.com/listing/881527247/the-merrymaker-by-lrs-exotic-raintree?ref=shop_home_active_5&frs=1

Your wife deserves accolades!! As much as we all crave spankings-- and they have their place! --I can't help but be convinced that an EE is going to shine far more when his/her positive attributes and accomplishments are appreciated, than if the relationship is a mere focus on punishment and control.

This was a thought-provoking reply. Thank you, Pavium. 👍

Thanks for your input, Toral. The Spencer is the best plan I've seen, so far. Maybe that's why it's been around so long. There's no power imbalance with it, if followed more or less according to the original rules. Your partner can actually be your partner, if he/she prefers that to taking the position as full-time submissive. I think this has great potential for switches. It's nice to hear real feedback about it.

Take this "classified ad" to the Regional Directory section, please.

My lair? Listen to you! Hugs to you boys, Mama Grizzly

Organic, cold-pressed coconut oil is very nourishing for the skin and is free of the chemicals found in manufactured concoctions. Whatever one chooses to use, I recommend applying it when getting out of the shower, while the skin is still damp, to seal in some of the moisture and add a nourishing layer that will penetrate the epidermis. Doing this regularly builds the integrity of the skin and makes it stronger and more supple. However, I don't recommend applying anything before a session, as doing so will make the spanking more painful (unless that's your goal). Also, softening the skin beforehand might make it more susceptible to immediate damage, though I'm not sure on that. I don't think it would really help the skin all the much if applied as a one-time thing. Cold temperatures are a hardship on skin. Cold temperatures are a hardship on everything. Even car door handles and other plastic, fiberglass, or composite components are most inclined to break during winter, when cold temperatures make them brittle. While skin is not rigid like the aforementioned materials, even it is more inclined to breakage in low temperatures, as those of us in cold climates can attest, when our fingers crack every winter. 🙂

I see what you're saying, Gravano.

....Which you were destined to get when you traveled through Montana three weeks ago!

One-handed applause... love it!