I certainly didn’t mean to criticize you, StrictGent.
You just articulated my number one reason for being here: I want to help people who have doubts about their sexuality in spanking that need to feel OK and support them in both exploring and finding someone appropriate. (And not me, I’m not in the market, So my motives or altruistic) But, before they find a partner, they probably need to be reassured that there’s nothing wrong with them. It took me years and thousands of dollars of therapy to reach that point. I hope I might help some others just a little.
You also pointed out something that keeps me up at night and worries me. I’ve tried to make a contribution here and it can be easily ruined by just one of these people who jumps in and causes the kind of trouble we’re seeing on this thread.
i’m feeling very discouraged about the site overall. I joined because I couldn’t believe I found a site that was respectfully talking about spanking without a bunch of explicit things posted in bad taste and abusive and argumentative nonsense. I did my best to make a contribution to try and help younger people and maybe even older people who were unsure of themselves. I am fortunate in that I have a great partner but just wanted to help others. I’m not wanting to meet anyone, and wouldn’t even do it if the world’s most attractive young woman wanted to be spanked. It’s not what I do.
I don’t know what’s happened, but in the last month or so (maybe two) there’s been an influx of new people that do not seem to respect what I understand the core mission of this site to be. I know the people that wanted discipline spankings were at the core of this group. They also had a big enough tent to include those of us who saw spanking as meeting a different deep need, maybe related to psychological integration, in my case.
The challenge from my perspective is that there are a number of new people who appear to be here for sex.
The worst of them make posts right on the main forum using very graphic words to ask for sexual spankings. Unless I completely misunderstood, this site is supposed to be an alternative to sex. There are plenty of places that do that.
Of course, I’m a member of Fet. But we could come here and get away from all of that and have respectful conversations. Others criticize people’s preferences like we are seeing here.
Many of these new people don’t have a complete profile even and say that they’re from someplace like Mars. If they don’t have the respect to even tell us where they are, what are approximate age ranges, and tell us something about themselves, I don’t think we should allow them to post.
I’ve contacted moderators about this and they don’t deny the problem, but I don’t think they actually understand the gravity either. So far, they won’t appoint any of us to help Or take a more active role in leading the conversations to remain respectful
I suppose I’ve given up because it’s certainly not my site, and after volunteering (along with a couple of others) and being told that our services are not wanted, I don’t know what else to do. Is my understanding that the people that actually started this site are long gone and when I checked once, very few of the current owners or moderators login much.
i’m still willing to make some kind of effort to help and would love to hear suggestions from other experienced members who may be been through this in the past. Thanks again for your post!