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  1. I was originally opposed to the idea of spanking a woman in front of her male partner except in very unusual circumstances, but I have modified my views. If both are in accord, and if the man is simply a silent non-participating witness, then I'll spank, BUT only for disciplinary purposes.
  2. I was originally opposed to the idea of spanking a woman in front of her male partner except in very unusual circumstances, but I have modified my views. If both are in accord, and if the man is simply a silent non-participating witness, then I'll spank, BUT only for disciplinary purposes.
  3. Any time you want to talk with a real Yankee spanker (from New York City, yet!), just message me.
  4. I am surprised that in all this discussion I didn't see reference to a ping-pong paddle. It's intimate and when used correctly, can impart a really nice sting. Also, it can be used for multiple swats, so the psychological effects of discipline can sink in.
  5. Would it be appropriate in a person's profile in the "Age" category to make it "Age at Signup"? (I know I have aged since I joined --aged, not matured, I assure everyone.)
  6. Of course, of course, always appropriate.  I am sorry if I in any way mischaracterized your pristine behavior.  {Wishes there wer ean emoji for rolling one's eyes.]

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    2. SpankeeGal


      There is one "🙄"

    3. rubyredd


      @SpankeeGal- Right? How is that not common knowledge? I use it about 25 times a night in chat. 

      PS: Are you behaving?

    4. SpankeeGal


      @rubyredd you already know that answer, I'm sure as does everyone else.

  7. My experience is that "mature" women are infinitely better poised to appreciate disciplinary spankings than their younger counterparts. And that encompasses appreciation of the sting, but more importantly, appreciation of the process. I've been lucky in that my encounters with mature women have almost always been fulfilling for them. Any male spanker who regularly confines himself to women in their twenties and thirties is simply missing out on the women who deeply need and understand discipline. It has been and will continue to be a pleasure to help them feel that their behavior matters.
  8. As someone who has presided over several self-spankings, particularly since the pandemic, I would like to put in a word for those of us described as "creeps." Of course, an in-person spanking is the model, but the virus and geography sometimes make this impossible. It's perfectly reasonable for a woman not to self-spank. By the same measure, if she can derive some behavioral benefit from the process, I fail to see why it should be prohibited. Some self=spankings work, others do not, and the single standard is whether the woman spankee is comfortable with it.
  9. An extraordinary piece of work. Thank you, AG, for posting. One thing that comports entirely with my methods is that woman's showing defiance is a sign that she is seeking control. I believe that a great many beginning spankers may mistake a woman's defiance for defiance of them, where it is something entirely different. It just emphasizes how much discipline is an art, not a formula.
  10. My impression is that "maintenance spanking" is more an artifact of "Dom-sub" relations generally than it is of spanking --which may be a kind of Dom-sub.  I can only say that I'm a disciplinarian, and the spankings I give are for, essentially, bad behavior.  The women I've spanked truly want to be chastized for their bad acts and to be deterred from future ones.  (I suppose the deterrent effect could be considered to be "maintenance," but that's a stretch. )  In any event, count me out for maintenance spankings.  When women come to me for discipline, there's usually plenty to correct.  [Smile]

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    2. Chastener


      I guess that if it's a set time, it bears some relation to specific discipline.  But to tell the truth, I'm still uncomfortable with it.

    3. rubyredd


      That is totally fair. I am not really comfortable with it myself. At the moment I need a mix of bad-girl and stress relief spanking. I wish there was a name for that. 

      Is discipline / punishment a one-and-done, all-forgiven situation, or would you ever stretch out discipline over a period of several weeks... not as maintenance, but as continued punishment? @Chastener

    4. Chastener


      rubyredd, there are a few times that I have stretched discipline over a few sessions.  Mostly they have been for repeated violations of civility, which I consider among the most serious misbehavior.  Really, though, I try to put bad behavior into a capsule with discipline as the capsule.

  11. And he was a religious poet, too! (Maybe CDD?...)
  12. "How brave a prospect is a bare behind." --Henry Vaughan, 17th Century English poet
  13. It sounds as if you need more discussion to complete your fantasies, which is very common among women in your situation. If you'd like to reply in private, I'm listening.
  14. I want to put a word in for the ping-pong paddle. (Table tennis bat or the Britishers here.) It's an intimate, easily-targeted implement, and, depending on the coating --rubber or sand-- can impart an excellent sting. Also, it's very versatile, as it can be used on the thighs as well as the behind. Don't underestimate it!
  15. And to complete the circle, Viktoria, I am always happy to talk about old-fashioned discipline from the spanker's perspective. Good luck here.
  16. I've said it before,probably all the members are tired of my saying it, but, in truth, there is no way to escape the erotic implications of spanking, even if the spankings are meant entirely for disciplinary purposes. Summer's right: It isn't an issue --unless ER or ee makes it one, and that's a possibility.
  17. I'm afraid that only works in spanking videos. Although back in 1950's, who knows?...
  18. Nudity, for me, takes away the focus of spanking. That said, the women I spank do have to bare their bottoms at some point. (A spanking on the panties and then on the bare is one of my favorite methods, but that's idiosyncratic.) Some of my spankees have, however, indicated that they prefer something closer to full undress, and I usually accommodate them, but warily. There are, of course, particular forms of dress which I approve of, but those have to be worked out with the spankee
  19. One of a spanker's responsibilities is to KNOW when to stop. If there is the slightest concern about whether a spanking is about to go too far, the best road is to stop at once. Trust me, you can always make up for it later with no harm done.
  20. I'm glad that there can't be too many negative reputation points! What would I do?????
  21. it's good to have you here.
  22. I think that is a wonderful way to arrange a spanking. It combines emotional elements beautifully with the physical. One question PR: Does your wife stand in the corner bare bottomed?
  23. Welcome, and my experience is that your behavioral improvement is not at all uncommon.
  24. Chawsee, I don't think the ER is required to "stick it out." Almost all of my longer-term relationships have really ended on mutual accord, both parties feeling that either something is missing after a while, or, better, that the need has been fulfilled. A few times I've been called by an ex-spankee well after the fact, and then I decide if it's worth getting back into the relationship, even for a short time. (I haven't counted, but I'm guessing that's about 50-50.) Of course, it's harder when the ER alone feels he has to end it, but --in spite of what ee's will say as a (possibly humorous) knee-jerk reaction-- there comes a point in those pairings that there's no pleasure in being the spanker, and I am sure the spankee can intuit that. Dare I say it's like any break up? No fun for either party whether mutual or singular. Which I guess only points to the fact that it's more than spanking.....
  25. The most memorable story I have heard about caning was from an older Australian woman who attended an exclusive girls school there shortly after the Second World War. Apparently the headmistress had grown up in the British system and was motivated to outdo it. When the local government passed a resolution banning canings on the bare, she didn't miss a beat. The girls were brought to the forefront of the Sunday assembly, their skirts flipped up, and their knickers pulled up tight, so that virtually the whole backside was bare. (The woman confessed to two unforgettable canings in front of the school.) I have heard similar stories from Australian women of that age, although the pulled-up-knickers is certainly the most notable.
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