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  1. @Chawsee provides an excellent answer to the question posed by @NewEr I agree that those spankers that use their wrist and a lighter, thinner paddle can deliver a very painful spanking with minimal effort on their part. Perhaps it’s a cliche, but it really is “the technique.” Having been spanked with everything from tiny crops to heavy paddles, I can attest to the fact that an ER need not use a heavy, clunky paddle to get the desired effect.
  2. I have been seeing a professional disciplinarian since August. She’s one of the few that I know of in my area who will restrain her clients while administering discipline. In February she put me in this position and started with a crop before moving through a few more implements before finishing the session with a ping pong paddle. @REALTEARS is absolutely right about the sitspots. By the time the session ended my bottom was stinging red. This was definitely one of the most painful spanking experiences ever. I see this woman monthly and weigh in each visit as she holds me accountable for controlling my weight. I was over a few pounds, so the punishment was more severe during the February session. I have been under my goal weight ever since!
  3. Welcome! Wish we did not live so far apart. A long-term arrangement with a mature disciplinarian is exactly what I have been looking for. There are a lot of adults who need someone to hold them accountable for meeting goals, deadlines and staying focused. Thank you for the service that you will hopefully provide others in your area!
  4. The humbler has been around for a very long time. If a man wearing the device is struck on his bound testicles too hard with an implement like a paddle or cane, then yes, this could cause serious injury. However, if an ER uses the humbler responsibly, there’s minimal danger of injury. This means using the right tool for the job, perhaps a lightweight crop or cat and using light strokes, assuming the testicles are the object of the punishment. It doesn’t take much! it’s also good to remember that a simple wooden paddle can seriously injure someone if used improperly. And I think as @redhot bum was suggesting, the humbler is primarily used to keep a male EE in position while his bum is spanked. Contact with the testicles is not even required. And a shield can be placed to cover the testicles to prevent inadvertent contact. I think that being restrained this way while spanked would help to keep me still and in position to take the punishment. I’m often restrained while receiving a spanking, which does wonders to focus on the punishment and not on wiggling away when the pain begins intensify. This would just seem like another method to keep an EE in position.
  5. debspanker, it’s too bad that women who want to lead in a relationship are so few. I believe that there are a lot of confident, masculine men, like me, that want and need leadership (and discipline) from a strong woman. I too am not familiar with the SSP. Perhaps others can expand on this idea.
  6. I like the red peppers on your profile picture. Very creative!
  7. We need more good people like these ladies. These examples show us how we can make a positive difference in others lives. Thanks for sharing!
  8. The first boss I had after finishing college was an awesome lady, mid-forties, and at 6’1” was taller than almost everyone in our office. She was highly competent, funny and possessed an inspirational leadership style that all of her subordinates respected. She would push us to perform at a higher level than we thought possible and made us feel good about what we had achieved. After a few years I was promoted and, like @ukspanko , was disappointed when I was no longer able to work for this remarkable woman. I kept in touch with my favorite boss until her death a few years ago. And am very glad that I did.
  9. Of course, Denise Crosby... AKA Tasha Yar - Star Trek: The Next Generation. Still a very beautiful woman at 61. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denise_Crosby
  10. This response is to an older comment. But @spankorama makes a good point that women who desire a FLR, which includes the level of DD that many men seem to want, are rare. I also searched for this elusive type of woman for many years. The one successful relationship (at least for awhile) that I developed with a dominant woman was not focused on discipline as much as it was on her leading the relationship on day-to-day matters. She would spank me for the fun of it but made clear that she was not going to “beat [me] into submission.” She said that if she had to do that I was “gone.” It was really about her having control of the relationship and getting her way. She had no real interest in punishing me. Her expectation was that I would strive to be compliant and do what she asked me to do. And that included most of the housework and cooking. Her career was demanding and my job at the time not so much. She was also 6 years older than I was, which made it easier for her to lead and for me to follow. What she really wanted was a junior partner that would support her in her career goals and be there to help her with everyday tasks as well as to be her significant other, confidant, companion and best friend. So, yes. Women in this country have traditionally been conditioned to follow men and men to lead and be the HOH. And women who meet the all too common male criteria of disciplinarian and dominatrix in a FLR are probably exceedingly rare. But, among those American women under 30, I think that there are quite a few that would eagerly embrace a FLR in the mold of the relationship I experienced many, many years ago.
  11. Have any guys been spanked while wearing a prostate massager (basically a vibrating butt plug)? There are some devices that vibrate in cycles. One cycle begins slow and soft. The vibrations gradually increase in speed and force before stopping and repeating the cycle, which lasts about 15 seconds. The feeling is amazing and on the right day can result in an incredible, hands-free p-spot orgasm. It would be interesting to experience the plug while restrained and spanked. Perhaps a stroke delivered at the end of each cycle... pleasure followed by pain. Thoughts?
  12. @Overrmykneemiss certainly lays out the case for the need many of us have for more discipline in our lives. Everyone has weaknesses. And some need help addressing their particular habits and vices that, if left unchecked, can morph into self-destructive behaviors. Well said, Sir!
  13. Clearly, you should only work with those that will stop when you use your safe word. I fully respect that this is what works for you.
  14. I have to agree with @Spankbadgirl. Be very selective of the ERs that you work with and communicate, communicate, communicate your needs. If we are only talking about the intensity or duration of spankings then the risk the EE assumes is pain or markings that go beyond their preferences. For those of us who engage ERs, amateur or pro, for real accountability and behavior modification NOT allowing the ER the discretion to administer a punishment spanking that accomplishes the intended purpose is pointless. To be clear, I’m not talking about BDSM activities that should include safe words to protect the submissive from continuing in a dangerous situation. Last, those taking the other position certainly have valid points concerning the legal aspects of consent and crossing the line to trigger a legally defined assault. Yes, we may choose to take some risks. It’s up the the individual to decide, though.
  15. I once saw a professional disciplinarian who could not remember why I was seeing her on that particular day. Needless to say, it was the last time I sought her services. If.an ER, whether amateur or pro, is mentoring an EE then it might be good to be familiar enough with them to remember the purpose of the spanking/discipline. Asking the EE during the session to “remind” them really kills the mood!
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