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  1. On 9/20/2021 at 5:44 AM, DiscreetSpanko8 said:

    I would say around 90% of my sessions are funishment. And 8% stress relief, and 2 % actual discipline/punishment.  In large part because I'm just not good at being a disciplinarian. I enjoy spanking too much, and I want my partner to as well if possible. People needing a serious discipline type session can find literally almost anyone better than me for it lol. 

    Made up discipline as part of role play is something else though, I love those! Something really out there if possible. Judicial "punishment" for cat burglarizing a wild west museum comes to mind. All sorts of leather, riding crops, etc. Had to stay with the theme lol. Anyway, to answer your original question, yes. Funishment/fantasy is my forte.

    I'm the same...I tried to get into real "discipline" spankings years ago, but I ended up breaking rules on purpose and "disappointing" my ERs. ?

    At the end of the day, I love spanking too much to pretend to hate any of it. But I do love hard spankings and I'm down for funishment most anytime. ?

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  2. 10 hours ago, Herstingingpalm said:

    How were you spanked to reach that subspace euphoria over the knee? A long hand SPANKING or a implement or both.?

    OTK hand spanking to start, then laying in the couch with a pillow under my hips.  It was multiple implements, paddle, hairbrush, belt, etc.--I don't remember all off them-- and it probably went on for 45 minutes or more.  He kept asking me if we were done and I kept saying no, and then finally he made the decision that it was enough,which looking back, I'm grateful for because I wasn't thinking too straight at that point, and I was pretty numb physically.  I was sore for a few days but didn't bruise too badly.

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  3. My most severe wasn't a punishment spanking at all.  It was from a well-trusted male friend of mine because I needed the stress relief.  It was definitely the longest and hardest spanking I ever received, although and I didn't cry, it was definitely the first and probably the only time I reached what they call "subspace".  I was out of it for quite a while afterward, but I had never felt so calm and relaxed. I felt drugged, almost. LOL. And I slept very well that night.

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  4. On 4/7/2020 at 12:20 PM, Christy said:

    I’m posting this as a response to being contacted in private by different ee’s who tell horror stories of being abused and taken advantage of by the people spanking them.

    Because this is serious and appears to be happening more and more, I’d like to address the issues of Power and Control, as it relates to the relationship between ee's and ‘Er’s, before, during and after a session.

    As an ‘ee, you must keep in mind that while you may have a need and craving to relinquish control to someone, ultimately you must accept the responsibility to say “No” or “Stop” (or whatever safe word had been agreed upon) should the circumstances demand it. Whatever happens in a session, only does so with your permission and those of us who spank, only do so with YOUR permission, and therefore a session should end immediately if that permission is withdrawn.

    Any session that continues after permission is withdrawn, is no longer a session - it is an assault, and you should treat it accordingly. That means doing everything you would do if you were personally attacked on the street. Run, escape, call or scream for help, etc.

    I would like to suggest to any ‘ee, especially those who are new to this, that you invest time and effort into building relationships with some of the more experienced people on this forum before proceeding. There is a very potent exchange of power that takes place during a session, and it should not be underestimated. The intimacy and the act of submission are like gun powder, and the spanking can be a spark that ignites a situation you were not planning on, or prepared for - but might later regret. I would be very happy to discuss this in private with anyone who needs to.

    The most important thing to always keep in mind, is that the Power is ALWAYS ultimately yours; to grant permission, or to withdraw it.

    Christy, I just tried to message you, but it says you can't receive messages. I just wanted to respond to this but would rather it not be public.

  5. On 12/11/2019 at 7:12 AM, Melissa'sBottom said:

    To give some background, I am a female who has been having some super fun spankings with another female friend.  As a woman on this site, you get bombarded with messages from guys.  All of them want to spank you.  Can I get an amen ladies?

    It annoys the heck out of me when guys on this site tell me that it isn't sexual to them, and they just enjoy providing misbehaving girls with the discipline they need.  Oh, and by the way, they always insist that the discipline be bare bottomed.  Only because the discipline is more effective that way of course.  It totally has nothing to do with the fact that they want to be looking at a girls naked ass while they administer the spanking.  Like obviously everyone on this site gets turned on by spankings in some way or another.  Just admit it guys.  These same guys say that they would never spank another guy...  So obviously it is a sexual thing for them.  

    So my main question is, given the obvious gender imbalance on this site and the spanking kink in general.  Why don't more guys do spankings with other guys?  I know it can initially be a little weird, but there are so many possibilities in this kink.  Surely there are ways for you straight guys to have a little fun with each other without crossing any lines you don't want to cross.  Us straight girls seem to have a lot of fun with each other...

    I love this question! I have wondered why people who claim it's not sexual at all or that only give discipline spankings have such rigid rules on dress and gender boundaries.

    I'm a straight female spankee and have never been spanked by another woman, but I've wondered what it would be like and would definitely give it a try if I had the chance. 

    Spanking is absolutely a turn-on for me, but I'm generally not turned on by being spanked unless I'm sexually attracted to my spanker.

    That wouldn't be an issue with a woman, so I don't see why I should have any qualms about it.

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  6. I can only speak for the younger me because it's been a long time.

    For hard and slow spankings, I was pretty good at keeping still because for the most part, it was something I wanted.

    Hard and fast spankings, which were primarily for discipline, I fought like crazy. Not just because I hated it, but because no matter how hard I tried (and I did), I couldn't stay still.  Unfortunately for me, they were all strong ERs and were able to pin me down. ?

  7. I'm 44 and prefer ERs around my own age. This is not a hard and fast rule--it somewhat depends on his demeanor and personality--but in general, no more than 5-6 years younger or 10-12 years older.

    **Unless you're Sam Elliot.  Sam, if you're out there, I don't mean you. ?**

    Age preferences aren't personal, they're just preferences. If a 25 or 30 year old wasn't interest in meeting up based on my age, I wouldn't be insulted. ?‍♀️

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  8. Yikes. I've been with a man who wanted this. Just no. I realized later he was just a control freak.   Even I was still a Christian, I'd never consent to this type of relationship.  Marriage and relationships should be a partnership, not one person having power over the other.

    A bit off topic, but I have never consented to a spanking, not even a disciplinary one, without a safeword or signal of some kind.  I knew if I used it without a good reason, I'd be in more trouble and I never felt the need to, except on one occasion which is another story, but it was there just in case.

    18 years ago, I knew an EE who tried to use a safeword in the middle of a spanking and her ER wouldn't stop because she wasn't allowed a safeword for disciplinary spankings. She'd had a sudden pain in her side but couldn't get the words out to tell him. She ended up in the ER later that day where she was diagnosed with a cracked rib.  The ER was not bad guy, he felt terrible, he just didn't know and couldn't have known because the EE couldn't communicate it to him.  Needless to say, he changed his policy on safewords after that.

    There are just too many things that could go wrong.

     

     

     

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  9. Hi all, 

    Just reintroducing myself here.  I actually joined a couple of years ago while I was in another state, but life got crazy and I haven't posted in a long time.   I was into spanking from my teen years on and I had a series of RL relationships from my mid-20's to early 30's, followed by a 10-year mostly-vanilla relationship and marriage.   I've realized how much I miss it and I'd love to get into it again.

    My past spanking relationships were a mix of discipline, therapeutic and fun. My favorite was also my first.  He liked to spank as much as I liked to be spanked and it was as simple as that. There were only 2 discipline spankings, nothing too serious, and the rest of them were for no reason at all, just because.  It wasn't sexual at all, he was just very easy to talk to and we had a blast together.  Once and pulled into a field off the highway for a fun spanking, and right in the middle of it, with my bare ass exposed, a middle-aged man in a cowboy hat appeared at the truck window and informed us that we were on private property. ?

    I was so embarrassed, but we laughed about it the whole way home.  That's the type of relationship I'd love to have again.

    I'm not looking to jump into anything too serious or any real discipline-type spankings, at least not for now.  It's been a very long time so I'm just looking to get to know people, play around a bit and ease my way back in.

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  10. 16 hours ago, otkpantsdown 49 said:

    Interesting thoughts.

    Since I have a very naughty 12 year old trapped in my adult body I need spankings to be real! I was not spanked as a child even though I deserved to be many times. I knew I needed to be spanked and actually wanted to be spanked. I even asked my mother to spank me when I was 12. She refused.

    What I NEED is to be spanked hard OTK with no safe word. I have been spanked very hard but as of today no tears. Wet eyes a few times but that's about it. How I would LOVE and NEED the type of spanking described above. I have visited  a few professional spankers. They did spank hard but not quite what gravano described. Wish I knew who did that to him so she could spank ME like that!

    I do prefer females but have and will accept bare bottom spankings from anyone who wants to spank me.

    Hi,

    I know that for me, it isn't about how hard the spanking is. I have had a few spankers (10-12 I'd guess) in my 20's and the only ones who I cried real tears with were the ones that could connect with me emotionally.  With them, it took very little actual spanking, and not a lot of force, to bring on the tears.  On the other hand, I had one who went full force on me with his belt and I didn't shed a single tear.  Even one who disregarded and went way beyond my boundaries...I went numb, even disassociated somewhat, and didn't cry until I woke up the next day and remembered what had happened..  Could it be that for you, it isn't about the severity of the spanking and perhaps more that you haven't found someone able to break through that emotional wall?

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  11. I've never spanked anyone.  I've never had the desire to do so.  But I've had, I'd have to guess: 10 or 12 spankers?   It's been many years...I was in my 20's then.  I'm just now thinking about getting back into it.

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