Hi, so I’m very new here and have been kindly approached by a lot of people and am left wondering..what do tops get out of it..when they claim it isn’t sexual? It is obvious to me, as a bottom, that it’s the discipline and being cared for that ees seek. I guess I’m just having a hard time, as a 19 year old female, trusting that an older man would want to spank a younger person for anything other than sexual purposes.