Kith

ITB is banned for policing humour, regardless of how groan-inducing it was!

Zhev is banned because being nice is a behaviour, not a character trait, and thus needs to be discouraged!

Lotsapappa is banned for the high crime of even SUGGESTING Anzac biscuits are cookies!

@Megthe is banned for playing internet doctor and not properly looking through WebMD to determine what kind of cancer the internet claims I have!

@SpudStateSpanky is banned because he is a potato person, and the UN doesn't recognise them!

ITB is Banned because there's no way to be decisive about California!

Ill Tempered Brat is banned for not paying the Brat Tax!

People most often use the term 'Alpha' to mean confident, with leadership qualities. That said, if ever there was a truism, it's this: If you call yourself an Alpha male, you almost certainly aren't.

scarlet is banned for not pointing out that brevity is the soul of wit!

Daily and frequently flaring up. Why do you ask, 19mUSA?

Ill Tempered Brat is banned because rules are just a social construct and can be thrown out the window at whim!

I'm a mixed martial arts fan, and one rather spoiled for choice these days between UFC and OneFC. Lots of quality sporting violence about!

I'll preface this response by saying that I've never been asked to do anything like this. That said, ultimately you have to do what you're comfortable with. Your boundaries are important as a spanker as well. If you're not comfortable with it as a result of the perceived nature of the event, in this case being the undercurrent of sexual humiliation, by all means you should decline. I've said this elsewhere, but we're not all things for all people, and that's ok!

I've come to see much of this as the consequence of having an artificially shrunken "dating pool" in certain aspects, along with limited opportunities to socialize and meet in the real world to discuss the interest and the preference. Speaking to someone who understands is in itself often a minor revelation when you do it for the first time. The possibility to engage in the practice so idealized over years of furtive fantasies and dreams only more so. But then we often hit the wall of reality: We're not always what someone else is seeking. And all too often we're so desperately seeking to actualize what we imagine (as a group) that many of us will try and passionately convince other people that their fantasy scenario is the best fantasy scenario. It's possible that rejection feels more poignant when dealing with the spanking interest simply because it's at least hypothetically someone who UNDERSTANDS. It's a skill many really do need to work on in their own lives. I've had spankee friends who've found themselves almost bemused participants in a spanker's fantasy that they don't share, and the best adjective I've heard to describe the goings-on was 'absurd'. It's trying to slam that square peg into a round hole, and it's unfair to your partner as well as yourself if you're not willing to at the very least compromise, or at worst decide you're not a good fit for each other and move on. We're not all things to all people, and that goes for our shared interest as well.

AG is banned for post necromancy-shaming star!